Problem with my dad and his gf getting married?

Question

My dad keeps asking me if he could get married with his gf
and i always say i dont know
and tonight it hit me
he asked again
and i said i dont know
and then i said well u have to ask katie [his gf's duaghter/my bff] and he said well they spend most of there time here
and i said wait would they move in
and he said why do u want ur own room
and i said yes and he said well u might have to share the bathroom
and then it hit me
i want him to be happy i like his gf and all but i don't want them moving in
and then i had a picture in my mind of moving boxes in my house
and i wouldnt like that
i'm only 12 and i don't want my dad marrying again
and having there family move in
i already had to move here from singapore and loose my mom and only see a 1 a year
its just too hard for me and now im stuck here crying, trying to hide my feelings away from my dad
can u please give me advice?
I'm so confused and upset

after i thought about it
i think i should say
"Maybe you could hold it off for a couple years"

Answer 1

First of all your father should NOT be asking you if he can marry. Thats too much pressure for a child. Someone needs to tell him so. Second you should want to see your father happy, which you do but honey like a lot of other kids pain comes when parents divorce and then marry someone else. You need to see your mother more often than once a year, talk to her about your feelings, also tell your father exactly what you have said on here. You must talk to him so he will know how you feel. He can't read your mind, although it would be nice if they could ;o) Take it one day at a time and remember to keep letting them know how you feel, good bad or indifferent.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Let your dad have a life already. You want him to be alone so you can have your own bathroom? Sorry you are growing up faster than you want, but try to be happy for your dad.

Answer 3

my dad got married when i was nine and i liked her entell my dad went to work and she talked about me to her family and it was embarasing you just need to tell him if he dosent know than how can he ever do some thing at lease your dad asked u my went to taho and decied to get marred to a (w)itch but hope fully your dads gf dosent make u move im 12 to!

Answer 4

hun, you want him to be happy, let him get married... you dont want him to pick Your husband do you?