My girlfriend is crazy!! How do i make her let little things go?

Question

My girlfriend gets mad at me for everything, EVERYTHING. She starts these huge fights over the littlest things and then brings them up constantly. I have never cheated on her or anything but she's flirted with guys and done a lot of sh8tty things to me. I know i should probobly just peace her out, but she is smokin hot, definatly a 10, and i don't want to date a less attractive girl because i don't want to sell myself short. How do i make her stop starting fights about everything, please don't answer "thats the way girls are" because i've dated a ton of girls and none of them are this crazy.

Answer 1

Standard item of advice: you can work on the relationship, but you can't change the other person's basic personality. If her basic personality involves doing whatever the heck she wants and then getting mad at you if you don't do exactly what she wants, then that's going to just suck for you no matter what you do. You're selling yourself short already staying with somebody who's not nice to you.

Answer 2

Dude:

If you keep hitting yourself in the head with a hammer your going to keep getting a headache - even if you don't want to stop because you think it looks cool. In other words you are the one who is responsible for what is happening to yourself, and what is happening in your life, - in this relationship.

I hate to tell you this, but it sounds to me like you are dating a beautiful well-built spoiled, bratty, ***** who is just using you as a door mat. Unfortunately you are wuzzy-whipped over her, and because she is your ideal and you are going with HER, maybe you are convinced that you you must be her male counterpart Hottie - and so you two must belong together, except the dawning realization is that you are on the brown end of the stick.

Maybe - just maybe, you should be looking - in the future - a little more than "Skin Deep" for a new woman in your life. By that , I in no way mean to imply that there are not beautiful women out there who are caring, compassionate, giving, intelligent, and in everyway everything a man could every hope for as a life mate and companion /wife, just as there are men & women of all shapes, sizes, colors, religions, creeds, & National Origins origins that are both wonderful companions, or conversely - deamons from hell. But you are temping fate if you're only criteria for a BF or a GF is a perfect body, a flawless complexion, a beautiful face, and a lushious head of hair.

Quite frankly, I think that if you push her too far, or nag her about anything she will drop YOU. Good Luck Stud.

Answer 3

Some women are different and that is the way that she is and she won't change I am a little bit like that I cuss and swear and do some of that crap but all I'm not that thrown off! But you can't make her change so you need to choose if you want to deal with that crap and have a "smokin hot" girlfriend or do you want peace and tranqulity in your life. You can try talking to her but it may not work you need to decide what is important.

Answer 4

Um, because by going crazy and making you walk on eggshells around her she is exerting control of the relationship. You don't need this drama. She needs to grow up and learn not to get hysterical at the drop of a hat. Both of you could probably stand to learn to be happy with yourselves single so you don't allow yourselves to be unhappy with anyone else. By staying in the relationship when she gets picking on the small things, you give her permission to continue this pattern of behavior. As you say "she is smokin hot, definatly a 10, and i don't want to date a less attractive girl because i don't want to sell myself short" but the reality is by allowing this to continue you are selling yourself short. There are plenty of sweet natured, hot girls out there. You need to be mature enough to recognize them.

Answer 5

There's nothing you can do to make her change. You could try telling her that it bothers you when you get so upset, but this is probably just a personality flaw. You have to decide which is more important: "smokin hot" looks, or a level-headed personality. It all depends on how much you are willing to deal with.

Answer 6

you can either be a total lap dog, and just live with it by flying under the radar or you could probably stand up to her.
if you tell her she's making you feel like ****, then she'll probably see the light for a few days and lay off.
but she'll be back to normal in no time, so every little while try being a little stern with her

what i would do, is next time she does something a little annoying totally go at her for it, and just as she's scared shitless on the verge of tearrs, give her a hug and hold her and say, it doesnt feel good does it?. tough love brothaa

Answer 7

Well you know what you deserve to be treated that way if you think looks are everything...let me ask you this would you date 1) The hot girl who is a ***** and uses you, don't love you, and don't care about you...or 2)The okay girl who loves and cares for you so much, is really nice and would do anything for you? If you choose 1 then your mama needs to teach you somethin.

Answer 8

How superficial are you? The only reason you put up with her outrageous behavior is because she's hot. Maybe the one with the problem is you for picking someone based totally on looks not anything that really means something. You are getting exactly what you put out. I think your getting what you deserve. Pick a person who you can truly love and trust with respect. You sound like a walking NATIONAL LAMPOON MOVIE.

Answer 9

Sweetie, looks are not everything. She's abusing you because you let her. And you let her because she LOOKS GOOD??? What kind of sense does that make? Find a girl who treats you like you want to be treated. You're already selling yourself short because you've given in to the myth that good looking girls are something special. She's shown you that she's just common and there's nothing beautiful about that.

Answer 10

Well, she is obviously high maintenance. I don't think there is really much you can do. That seems like the kind of girl you want. Plus, that is her personality and you shouldn't really want to change her. I think if you want to be with a "smoking hot 10" girl then you need to calm down and take care of HER. Just give her what she wants all the time. If it is still bothering you that bad, just remember how "smoking hot" she is and you will be fine.