stutter and asking girls out?

Question

im 23 and never been on a date or had a girlfriend since i was 18. and bit of loner . i really get nervous when i about to ask a girl out cause i scared i will
stutter and they will laugh at me and say no. how i overcome this?

Answer 1

One uncle told me that the more he tried not to stutter, the more he did. When he finally learned that it was "their problem" if they didn't like his stuttering, he didn't stutter as much. He and other relatives with the same disorder worked through the steps in the book "Self Therapy for the Stutterer" published by The Stuttering Foundation. Some public libraries shelve it or you can get it from the Foundation's estore at www.stutteringhelp.org. The best woman for you will accept you as you are and you will be comfortable with her whether you stutter or not.

Another uncle used the approach of never asking girls out. He just went places by himself and found girls that were there by themselves. He figured that way he would find a girl who had the same interests that he did. He would sit next to a girl who appeared to be by herself and if a man didn't join her, he would ask something like "Do you come to the baseball games often?" If she said that she did, he would ask if she minded if he sat by her again. He found the perfect woman and married and had two daughters.

Relax. God has someone is store for you. It will be in His timing, though.

Answer 2

1. It's you and all you
Obviously you need a lot confidence to approach women and how you gain this confidence is up to you. The easy way to gather confidence is to really put more effort onto yourself. What do I mean by this? Well, spend time building up the things that make you a unique person. What makes you stand-out from the rest of the world? Why would she choose you over millions of other losers out there? Focus on your strong points and support it at all times.

2. It's all about the groom
No, I don't mean getting married as in bride and groom. What I mean is give your body the attention it deserves. Dress up like a decent character and spend time grooming yourself. Your body be your shrine. Go to the gym and start putting some effort into staying fit and looking good. Women really do put more emphasis on looks more than they'd care to admit. First impressions comes first when she looks at you, so it should be obvious that she is judging you by the way you look. So pick up your pink leotards and hit the gluteal machine.

3. No fear of rejection
This is the biggest problem for most guys - caused by lack of #1 above. Just don't take this personally. We face rejection throughout our lives - rejected from a job offer, parents, school, etc., When you're approaching a woman, you're approaching a stranger and she doesn't know you. If she rejects you, don't take it personally. Their could be variable reasons why she would reject you - already committed, don't want to be approached, bad hair day, PMS, and so on. Don't take it personally, it not a reflection of you but of her mood and your approach. It's her loss not yours.

Answer 3

Well the best thing for you to do is be yourself and not worry about being laughed at or rejected. We all get nervous of asking someone out especially if you really fancy them!.
Take a deep breath and empty your mind from worries,
tell yourself that your not going to get laughed at or stutter.
Then walk up to the girl and make a conversation about anything food shows music etc..and then put in the question
like "wow thats cool..anyways im going to a party saturday night would you like to come with me?" or "you seem pretty cool would you like to hang out some time?" take it slowly

good luck

Christina
slowly and casually dont be scared

Answer 4

awww! i'm really sorry...but let me just say that you should probably find a really sweet loving girl that's not the type to laugh at you. Like personally i have never been asked out but i'd rather the guy stutter then just not ask me out.

Answer 5

Just be confident and ask her. Take on an "I don't care" attitude. If she says yes, cool. If she says no, That's cool too. Remember, their is more than one girl out there so don't get so worked up over that one. You need to interact with society more so you can watch other people in action and see what works and doesn't. As of now you are no longer a loner, you can't afford to be, feel me? Get out and mingle. What are some of the hot spots where you're from? Start there. just hang out and see whats happening. In the meantime, pick up a book and read out loud. Get used to hearing your voice and how you put sentences together. If you can't speak you're done before you even begin, feel me?

Answer 6

Get help for your stuttering from The Stuttering Foundation at www.stutteringhelp.org and then you'll feel better about yourself.

Answer 7

Think of it this way. Not asking a girl to go out with you brings the same results as asking her and having her say no. You won't ever get good at asking girls out until you practice by doing it. So you can go out there and make yourself vulnerable, or you can let your fear stop you. No pain, no gain.

Answer 8

you need to get more self-confidence for starts. that's hard though, i know. but it would help.
what seems to work best is to talk to someone and get a friendship going... and then ask them out, that way you're more comfortable.
i really don't think any girl would laugh at you and say no if you asked her out, i'd think it was cute if it were me!
try hanging out with groups... group date... ya know? trying things that aren't totally one-on-one at first.

Answer 9

Just be yourself. Always the best thing. Try to stay calm and take your time you will find someone when the time is right. Good luck=)

Answer 10

Bud's got it right. Do what he says.