army, friends, or girlfriend?

Question

dad has always told me that he thinks i would be great at military, because of my intelligence, athleticisim and leadership, and i think i would be too, and i would love to be in it. it is something i have always wanted to do. three things are holding me back, friends, family and girlfriend. my girlfriend and i have been together for around a year now, and while all 3 are behind evey decision of mine, it would still be hard to say goodbye. i dont think i would be able to off for 9 months for training, for rangers and jump school and everything, and then have a chance to be deployed. i dont know what do do, any advice?

making it in ranger training is no factor, and sometimes the best leaders are the ones that ask for other peoples advice. i dont know the answer, and i dont want to make the wrong the decision.

Answer 1

well here's an option for you Don't go ranger right away go for something like MP (we're infantry with HMMWVs (Hummers) and more fire power) tehn while your away for Basic and AIT at Fort Leonard Wood, MO you and your GF can find out how much you really love each other I hate to say it but young love seems to meet it's match with the military but it'll be ok cause you will have plenty of chances to find true love it took me 6 years in teh miltitary to find a woman who was accepting of me being gone so much. Your friends and family will come to see you graduate and it's amazing how proud they will be of you. Later you will have the option of going Ranger (I'm currently training to try out for SF) Ranger school is now available to MPs. So you have many options and if you really want to find out more info e-mail me here on yahoo drake_vampiel_d @yahoo is my e-mail here just put that you have questions about the military and let me know it's not spam and I will reply.

Answer 2

Training wise basic combat training will take 9 weeks and advanced individual training will take additional 9 weeks unless you opt for medical or military intelligence training which can take thirty weeks or more depending on your MOS.
Airborne School takes three weeks, Ground week, Tower week and Jump week. Ranger School was a 58 day program of instruction, however they have been known to extend several weeks when the demand for special skill sets are required.

Ultimately the only decision that will count for anything is yours, if you're determined to do this then step off and don't look back for approval.

Answer 3

If the military is important to you, you should do it. My boyfriend is in the Army and I only get to see him every 3 or 4 months...its hard, but if you really love each other, you will make it work. But if you are going to Ranger school, that will put extra strain on you because you will very rarely get to see her or your old friends. Trust me you will make new ones. My boyfriend wante dto join the rangers (hes been in the army for about 4 yrs now) but we talked it over and realized that was not the best thing for US. YOU see, do what makes you happy, and everything else will fall into place! Good LUCK

Answer 4

i am an army wife; the trick with military relationships is...it has to be the right person. i don't know you or your girlfriend so i can't say if you guys are "right" for each other. what you need is a woman who will stand by you, understand that you'd rather be home with her, and wait for you no matter how long you'll be gone. unfortunately a lot of cheating happens in the armed forces. you have to trust her...she has to trust you. you both have to be true to each other.

i don't know if that helps at all, i hope it does. if you live and breathe the army....your family, friends, and girl should understand. they should want you to attain your dreams.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Initially most guys going in the Military have these things holding them back. Go with your gut but at a young age dont let all your decisions to be based upon girlfriends and friends. If you went for it and things were meant to be...it is a good test to see who will be there in the end. Personally it was the best decision I ever made. At the time it was hard for my parents to let go but after 13 years they couldnt be happier.

Answer 7

I have advice. Your friends?? Are you kidding me, how i see it friends are relative, if your friends were to sit down and watch cartoons for the rest of their lives would you be there with them? Or would you make something of yourself. Your girlfriend? Jeez its a girl, the chances of you being with her for more than a year after high school and into college is even slim.Who cares more fish in the sea. Also what makes you think you can pass Ranger Training if you are second guessing yourself about joining? You want to succeed? Take your goal and and get your *** centered on it and NOTHING else until you obtain it. Good luck.

Your right making it In ranger training is no factor XD but getting through it. Its not just physical activity its mental stress. I may have sounded a bit harsh, what i meant was if your thinking about not joining just because of something so trivial as friends you might lack the mental toughness to get through. Like I said concentrate on your goal not the people around your goal.

Answer 8

I've been with my soldier for a year this month. He left June 3rd for basic at Fort Benning. Yea its been hard for me without having him here, but I've made it. Your girlfriend will be fine. There'll be days that you both want to be back together, but you'll both make it. As for family and friends, they'll be fine too. Just make sure that you write her as much as possible and make them sweet, it'll put a smile on her face. Since you have 9 months of training, you should get a break at about 6 months, I am not too sure how accurate that info is though, its just something I've heard

Answer 9

Follow your gut. You say everyone is behind you, go for it. If you and your gf don't make it through this, it wasn't meant to be. Friends, while you are doing something with your life, where will they be in a few years? Still trying to figure things out or moving ahead? You will make alot of new friends in the military. Family, they will always be there for you.

Answer 10

That is part of growing up. Remember friends and girlfriends come and go. If you are as young as you sound you will have time for both. If this is your dream ,,,,follow it.