I've been c'g my new current bf for 4 months. We just celebrated our 4 month anniversary. We go out, kiss, cuddle & lots of touching. He has seen me topless. He says he loves me
my body, my :), how gr8 i make him feel. He says i'm the 1st girl he has told he loves them. I spent the nite more than 1 occassion in his bed w/ him. The puzzling fact : we haven't had sex! We're an official couple. I'm hurt, angry & confused & feel rejected. If he loves me so much, y wont he ask me 4 sex? Is it b/c he respects me so highly? He mentioned i'm more than a mere booty call 2 him, & not just a fling or a romp in the hay. Is it 2 soon in our relationship 2 b having sex? I carry myself well, have gr8 upkeep, dont flirt & am not loud drawing attn 2 myself.
I let him know i'm a virgin, i'm 29. he's older than me by a couple of yrs. He told me he never wants 2 lose me 4 anyone/
anything. Does he think if he asks me 4 sex i will ditch him? When we r close he gets really hot & sweats like he's been..
2007-08-06 13:55:55 · 9 answers · asked by i dunno 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
..thru a sprinkler. Is he nervous? Is is he doesn't want 2 mess up a gr8 relationship w/ a gr8 gal? He tells me all the time that i am beautiful. I can't figure this out. Am i dumb? He even said i was 'the one' 4 him. What am i missing? Is this something obvious that i can't merely see? I need answers. I want 2 stop hurting & beating myself up. I am fatigue & weary from all the crying i do. What would someone suggest 4 me? WAIT??? I will not ask him for sex, @ least not now. When we engage in sex, i will b more than happy to ask him, but i wont b the aggressor rt now. I think he should ask me first. Addressing it 2 him now would make me feel like i am putting myself or forcing sex his way, & i wont risk losing him that way. Any further suggestions would be gr8 b/c now i have 0. I love him very very much. I don't want 2 walk away from him 4 a stupid reason. I honestly think he's my soulmate. He is the sweetest and most loving man i have ever met, & gives of himself 1000%! help me guys=)
2007-08-06 14:04:08 · update #1
i would suggest he does care for you and does not want to appear as though the only reason he is with you is for sex --- dont stress and enjoy his company --- the sex will come in time when he feels that you know that he is serious about being with you ---- best wishes to you both
2007-08-06 14:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then ask him to have sex. If he has any sexual inabilities you will have to find out sooner or later. It is beyond me why he is doing this, I am more than ready to let the lady make the first move, but four months? Sounds like something else to me. Virginity sometimes scares guys away if they don't plan on staying around. Some girls get very obsessive for the guy afterwards. It sounds like he might have reservations about the relationship, but is trying to be honorable, but I really don't know. Good luck either way.
2007-08-06 14:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has unusually high morals, such as the rare type of man who will NEVER cheat. He could be a real catch so let the sex happen naturally and don't push him or he could become disgusted. Just keep looking sexy and ready and with a little booze to kick-start his libido, he should make the first move when he's ready.
You are lucky that a man doesn't just see you first as a sex object; ( which is how I am, hehehe) lots of girls would be jealous of that.
2007-08-06 14:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Tommy B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thinks that once you two do it then that's what the relationship will focus on. Also, some people have these things called values, that may be at a higher standard than yours. Just don't be insulted that he doesn't want you. A relationship works two ways. Just because you expected the guy to want you, doesn't mean he can't control himself and wait until he feels that it is right.
2007-08-06 14:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by cutiedudie2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex just happens, escpecially in a new relationship. there should not be any asking. typically the guy will keep trying to go further each time until it happens. maybe he's trying to be all respectful but you sound like you're ready to go. why don't you initiate it? it's always refreshing when a girl shows you that she wants it.
2007-08-06 14:03:09 · answer #5 · answered by Baracus Life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, thats really amazing, i mean it! ur a virgin, he's not AND he's not pressuring you to have intercourse?
I think ur asking this question b/c u DO want to take the relationship to the next! if you do you should let him know that you trust him and want him to be the one.
if you dont, (i really dont think you dont, otherwise you wouldnt stay the night topless with him,) dont put yourself in compromising situations!
2007-08-06 14:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you make the first move? If he is scared to make the first move then you take care of it! Plus I think it's hot when a chick takes control!
2007-08-06 14:03:24 · answer #7 · answered by Warren G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally I think he is just biding his time as he wants to show you that he is after more than sex. I don't think you need to be worried just drop some subtle hints that you're ready, if you want to.
2007-08-06 14:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is his equiptment in "Order"...?
2007-08-06 14:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by gary12850 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋