I hate my father so much, I never do anything to him but he baits me and then it turns into a full screaming match, which in the end he says its all my fault and then writes me a document outlining all the things that 'I don't know about his life' and that I'm the one with the problem. Every day he is lazy, is not flexible he always has to stay in his routine, everything is about him, he does nothing for me, and everything is 'tit of tat' he will only do something for myself or others if he is going to get something out of it, he doesn't play the father role, he hates taking my sister to and from school, claims 'why do i have to do it', blames everything on everyone else, contradicts himself in arguments and then the arguments just go right of subject because all he wants to do is win the argument; and the list goes on. I need help, I believe my father has gone and I have a angry over bearing defensive abusive person to replace him, I don't want to leave my family home what do I do?
2007-08-06 13:52:27 · 9 answers · asked by Simone T 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Couple things contradict themselves. Yes your father is correct that people with traumatic brain injuries can be violent and impulsive. However manipulation and verbal abuse DO NOT occur with the injury.
You and your sisters are in an abusive home. Your father does need help and so do you and your sisters. You need to be brave and tell an adult what he is doing so there can be an intervention and some safety.
Is there another adult in the household and are they supportive of your fathers behaviors. There are so many factors here.
The bottom line is that your dad needs to be held accountable for his actions and being treated like that can have life long effects on children. PLEASE tell some one and let us know how you are doing. If you need any contact resources feel free to email me.
2007-08-06 15:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are living in an almost impossible situation. This is just not fair to you.
So, your father didn't used to be like this before his head injury?
When people have a stroke or head injury or brain cell loss for other reasons, they can sometimes lose some of their maturity, and their learned abilities.
Unless they are some how "parented" (through therapy or other means) they may never mature beyond what they have regressed to.
Head injuries can be very unpredictable, and so can their recovery be.
Do you have a mom in the house? Can you ask her to protect you? This might be a situation to discuss with your school counselor. Together you can explore what possibilities are available to you and to your father.
2007-08-06 14:10:42 · answer #2 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm real sorry to hear about your situation. I don't know if there's anything you can do about it.
My dad also had a severe brain injury and turned into a completely different person.
He was always extremely nice and quiet but he became very verbally abusive after his injury and would cuss everybody out all the time and yell and scream at my mom and his nurses.
Fortunately, or unfortunately, depending on how you look at it, he only lived for 9 months after his injury.
Best wishes.
2007-08-06 14:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by STEVE C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to your Mom about this. Does she see what is going on or is he abusive to her, too? Then you all may need help. Talk to someone at school - there should be a social worker or guidance counselor, or a teacher you trust. Brain injury can change a persons personality, but that doesn't mean you have to live with it the way it is. Maybe your Mom can get help for him, too. Can you talk to your mom's mom?(your grandma) She may be able to start the conversation with your Mom. Good luck.
2007-08-06 14:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by mimi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see a doctor and explain his behavior. There are medicines that may help him.Or therapy. I'm sorry for what you are going through . My husband was similar for years. He took meds and it helped until his body got used to them and they'd have to change the meds. But he is so great now. Hope it gets better or you get some help.
2007-08-06 14:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by tired mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he hurts u and hits u call child services or the police ... or like the person before me jsut said go to an adult mental hospital right away!! i really hope i helped u honey!! good luck!=]
2007-08-06 14:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by xox♥true♥blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to his doctor or another doctor if he wont go . tell them what you told yahoo or some kind of counceler . you have to do something now before he gets worse and he will. he might not understand his self why hes feeling this way, so do what ever you haved to do to get him help,for your familys sake and yours to .good luck.
2007-08-06 14:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but take him to a mental school it will be sad but its for the best
2007-08-06 13:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by Ben B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
have him committed! before he HURTS you
mental school?
2007-08-06 14:00:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋