Does he like me anymore---10 points for best answer! Thank you for your help!!?

Question

This special guys and I love each other for 3 years, but we have not have a chance to be together. We went to college together, but we are in difference states now. ---It's complicated.

First, he wants to be in a long distance relationship with me. But I said, "NO" I want him be happy and enjoy life. I don't want him to wait for me. If our love is strong we will find each other again.

I know he always look at my myspace and see how I am doing, but he would not call me or send me an e-mail. However, whenever I send him e-mail he always replied and say nice things.

I don't want us to be lingering. I asked him if he still loves me. He said, He has reason to belive the relationship would not work. He is more than happy to be my friend and very much respect me, but I should not expected us to be in a relationship.

Does he still love me? What should I do?

Thank you so much for your help!

Answer 1

I truly believe he still has feelings for you; however long distance relationships are hard. He is curious as to what you are up to and I am sure you are too; however if the 2 of you have decided to be friends, then be friends. If you have 'let him go' simply to see if he will come back to you - then you have not really let him go. There is nothing really 'to do' you are in one state and he is in another.

If he has stated that he does not want to be in a relationship with you of a more than friend nature - you can either accept it or not. If you agree to it, then be a true friend with no ulterior motive. It is hard, I know but do the best you can. If you cannot be just friends, then let him know that and agree to not talk anymore. You can also make your myspace page private and remove him from your friends list.

I wish I could say more helpful things; however sometimes it is easier to endure the pain rather than to prolong it from eventually coming to you any ways.

I wish I had better advice.

I wish you well!

Answer 2

You did the brave thing by asking him and he gave you:

"He has reason to belive the relationship would not work. He is more than happy to be my friend and very much respect me, but I should not expected us to be in a relationship"

The thing that makes me feel it could be over is the line he has "reason to believe the relationship does not work" this probably means something like he is having a good time without or he is seeing someone.

The one thing I can promise you is excatly what you said
if your love is strong enough you will find each other again. Sometimes its the right person at the wrong time, I actually met my husband 3 times before I ever gave him the time of day.
Take this time to have fun,date and be the best you that you can be. If you accomplish all these things and its still not there then he doesn't deserve you anyway :)

Good luck sweetheart.

Answer 3

Perhaps, when you told him that you didn't want a long distance relationship, he was hurt, and tried to get over you. Now, maybe he has half way succeeded. But I'm sure that some part of him deep inside still wants it to work out, and is willing to give another try, but is just afraid you might hurt him again. Talk to him more, and really tell him sincerely that you've thought about it, and you really love him and wish you guys could be together. Be friends with him at least for now, and maybe after talking to him for a while and meeting him a few times and just spending some time together, he will realize that he loves you. After all, you were right when you said, "If your love is strong, you will find each other again." Now is the time.

Answer 4

It seems like when u told him n when u asked him 4 a long distance relationship, he took it to heart. He was sad about and thought about very deep, especially ur reasoning 4 saying no. It seems like he perfectly understands why u said no. Now when u asked him if he still loved u, he does. its just that he wants the best 4 u and him. LIke u said it ya'll both dont want to hold each other back from life. He wants to be close friends that keep in touch daily, bbecause he loves u yet he knows dat the reatinship wont work from a distance.

Answer 5

Plain and simply it seems like he is confused... You expected him to say he still loved you... and maybe he does but reality is the distance always gets in the way. I was in the same situation and its better to just keep a friendship than to have nothing. When a man really loves a women he will do anything for her. Distance means nothing when a man loves a woman.

Answer 6

He can still love you and not be "in" love with you. Perhaps some feelings still linger, but I wouldn't work my life around that small possibility. If you really want something to happen or if you really want to know how he feels, you need to ask him. Talk to him about it. Good luck.

Answer 7

To tell you the truth, I think you've already made your decision by letting him go, and i dont think it matters right now if he loves you or not. Like you said, if its meant to be you'll be together, if you guys meet other people, its not meant to be. It'll all work out in the end.

Answer 8

Well, he said he didnt think the relationship would work, so he must ot love you, he wants to be a friend, nothing more. Well, I hope that helped!

Answer 9

Well, he said himself not to expect a relationship. If he still wanted one, you would be able to tell. Move on and don't think about him as a potential anymore.
good luck!

Answer 10

i would say he probably loves you but ,you want him to be in love with you.my advice would be to try to be happy being single for awhile then maybe the right person will come along when you least expect it and if its meant to be you might find yourself back with him