Have you ever, would you ever, is this crazy?

Question

Created a fake myspace to become friends with someone who had their profile or pictures on private...someone that your "significant other" dated.....Is this crazy??? I dont know why but Im like so stuck on looking at this womans pictures...I feel so pathetic...Tips on how to get over jealousy???....there is some trust issues with him...could this be a cause of that??? Sometimes I really hate him....Can you love and hate someone at the same time???

Answer 1

I have not done that one, but really you need to figure out what it is you want. You should not feel this way in your relationship, one of the most important aspects of it is TRUST.

Ask yourself this, If you hate him and don't trust him then why are you with him.
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Answer 2

I think a lot of people have been in this same situation. Actually I think it was pretty clever of you to create a fake myspace account. I probably wouldn't have thought of that. In the same thought I do agree with those that say you should get rid of the fake account only because if you want the relationship to prosper in a positive way you have to know you can trust your boyfriend if you can't you will always have suspicions and doubts about his faithfulness to you. I don't however think that you are crazy by any means.

Answer 3

Yes I sure have for the same exact reason. I thought I was crazy @ the time, but it's good to know there are more people out there that do the same. I still love my ex very much like you, and towards the end I found myself begging him to love and care about me. At that moment of my tears a lightbulb flashed in my head and I realized this is not who I was or wanted to be. Simply, I had just lost the love for myself and becoming co-dependant on a man that really had nothing to offer me. I'm still in the process of working on myself. Yes, I am still guilty of wanting to look @ his profile. As a matter of fact,in the past, I made a girl and guy fake profile to look at his, and this one girl he was talking to. But I think that for you and I we need to find ourselves. I promise I was in the same position. I loved and hated him so much. Now the feeling I have toward him now is just hate. I have a great group of friends that have helped me see the light. I've actually had to step back and analize the whole situation. Pro's and Con's. You'll be fine.

Answer 4

yes hun it's a lil crazy.
she's an ex for a reason. you have created this trust issue from your own insecurity. delete the account, and don't be so nosy again. it only serves to drive you nuts, make you suspicious, and probably run your bf right out the door.
if there are other reasons that trust is an issue, you need to weigh them against your own sanity. someone who is that much trouble for you (someone you have to constantly check up on) isn't worth the effort you are putting in. move on and find somebody else, begin with a clean slate, and always try your best to trust. even if you do get hurt, at least you won't be crazy!
Good Luck!

Answer 5

I have never,: but never is a strong word I try not to use it,because you should never say what you won;t do. You can say what you don't want to do, but you really don't know what you will do. Is this crazy? You be the judge,you want to know and you feel like this is the only way you'll know. You want to look at the woman's picture will that make you feel better? What will you learn from a picture, her looks that all. Jealous has no room in a really relationship( That's my opinion.) You love him. but you hate him, how sad. You love him,but you don't like his ways. I would try to express my feeling to him, if you think you'll feel better looking at the picture do that. Drama is no good for any relationship! Good luck

Answer 6

Oh man even your avatar looks crazy. Just kidding...

Have you ever seen the movie Little Black Book with Britney Murphy? Well if you haven't she had some trust issues and eventually ended up alone because she couldn't trust her boyfriend. It's important to be able to trust a partner. Significant others are always going to have a past, you can't dwell on their past, you're their future. You should be focusing on that.

I think the only way to get over jealously is to accept that you are the one he's with and he likes and appreciates you.

As for love/hate relationships. They're normal.

Answer 7

ALOT of girls do this all the time...

I know for a fact that my ex looks at my gf's site religiously...

I don't think she's pathetic, but i know that it's innate in women... and you're just a typical woman. Some girls might write on this post and try to make themselves look good by saying, oh no i would never do that, that's lame, but secretly they're just insecure as well.

Don't be too hard on yourself, it's just human nature taking it's course.

Answer 8

Did you ever stop and think that maybe there is a reason she is the exgirlfriend and you are the girlfriend? There is a reason for it. Dont break your mans trust just because of some stupid jealousy issue.

Answer 9

yes you can love and hate someone at the same time.. i have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 years.. some days were totally inlove.. the next day we want nothing to do with eachother.. and the myspace thing is ok.. i have done something like that on aol.... BUT if you dont think your man is messing around with her.. stop with the myspace thing =) good luck

Answer 10

yea something like taht.. i stalked anyone who i felt liked the kid. i felt so pathetic. sooo ridiculous. i guess the best way to get over your insecurities is find out WHY you feel jealous. is it your looks? personality? and when you figure out the reason, work on improving it. also, if you're not someone to want to change yourself like that, i guess just learn to deal with it. sometimes i can't take it, and i just put on a mask. i hope one day that mask will become real, and it probably will with repetition. and yes it's very possible to hate and love someone. you hate them because you don't want to love them. or you just hate what they have/represent.