I met this guy recently, I didn't see him for long ,but he really got under my skin!! I think about him all the time. I know for a fact that he kept in touch with other ex- girlfriends (texting), and I have tried this, but he ignores me! How do I move on and stop obsessing, and making a fool of myself ( I send him a text every 2 days) which he ignores. I know this is really sad, but advice as he how I get over this, and perphaps some words of wisdom from guys as to why he ignore me, and not other ex's. What makes this even worse is that I am not a teenager, but 33
2007-08-06 13:02:18 · 12 answers · asked by staceylovbe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not all ex's are equal. He may feel that the two of you cannot be any less than lovers, and that friendship would only be a disaster. Maybe the other ex's were milder types, or maybe he didn't feel as strong an attraction towards them. Who knows. Don't take this personally. Please think about your own welfare and happiness and disregard his feelings. Will he ever make you happy? No. So why attempt a connection? This is easier said than done, but it isn't anywhere near impossible. Even for you. Focus on yourself or someone else that you're close to. If your thoughts drift towards him, just remember that he isn't making an effort to communicate with you or to end your uncertainty. Therefore, he is either selfish, manipulative, or some other negative. You may be going through a lot right now, but it will all pass. You will be happy again.
2007-08-06 13:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand why you're doing what you're doing and how hard it is to get over someone. I would use the hurt and embarrassment to your advantage. Just remind yourself that its pathetic to continually contact someone who doesn't even have the decency to respond. Also, from my personal experience being in a beautiful relationship with a man I love soo much after a lifetime of chasing after guys/wishing for love I can give you a golden piece of advice-- you don't want a guy that doesn't want you. It sounds simple but its really very profound. Boys might hang around with someone they kind of like but they wont ever treat them right. This guy could come back to you but do you really want a guy that doesn't treat you the way you deserve to be treated. I had my heart broken when I was 20 and it was horrible, almost physical pain. Just stop contacting him and ride out the pain, I promise day after day you will think about him less and less until one day you turn around and realize its been months/years since you've thought about him.
2007-08-06 20:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by Megan W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is an attention whore, or he is a skitzoid. 3 ex girlfriends says he has a problem, better hold your horses before you jump into that ravine!
He may look good, but dont let your heart lure you into situations ure head cant fathom. I say move on, there are plenty more fish in the sea and this fish seems to be a "playerfish".
2007-08-06 20:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
delete his number and hopefully you dont know it off. delete all msgs and all reminders of him from ur home etc. then try meeting someone else. it sounds daft but if youv given someone else ur phone number, whether ur really interested in them or not, you can find urself looking forward to hearing from them more so than ur ex. try keep busy and keep away from that phone!
2007-08-06 20:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by ophelia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi i had the same problem and i just went out with my best friends and we had funn and taht got him off my mind for at least a few hours . but if you really want him off your mind for good just get a bff and talk to heer about it and it will help alot
2007-08-06 20:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your best gear on and go strut your stuff girl -- there is better than him out there.... remember the number of pebbles on the beach... there is one special one for you our there if he did'nt snatch you while you were passing then hard luck to him.... next!!! Go get um girl
2007-08-06 20:17:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry, kid
(i'm 37 and nuts about someone who's disinterested)
you just have to grit your teeth and get past it
i have a problem with crushing out on girls who are gay
(before learning they are gay)
maybe you should call me
i'll buy you a drink
2007-08-06 20:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by mrlucky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heres how a guy gets a woman out of his head he gets really drunk and goes to a strip club, with his buds.
I don't know if it works for women.
2007-08-06 20:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by Vultureman 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well obviously he probably doesnt want to have anything to do with you if hes not answering your test messages. i know its going to be hard but stop texting him! go look for other guys, do something fun with your gf's.
2007-08-06 20:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by Sally B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to get over it is to realize that your attentions are not appreciated and try to forget about the idea of him and you. Try to think about meeting someone else.
2007-08-06 20:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by LEMON the good life 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋