Thinks Im faking BPD!?

Question

I have borderline personality disorder. I asked a question before about it & I mentioned how it was destroying my relationship with my boyfriend. I honestly believe he thinks it's total bull what I tell him I'm going through and that he thinks I am making it up to get some kind of attention from him or that I make it up to avoid certain situations.
How can I make him believe & make him see that what I am going through is real & not something I made up just to piss him off & fight all the time and that his constant badgering me does not help anythign any?!

Thank you to everyone who responded!

ALI J & Nancy P.... thank you so much!

Answer 1

Sweetheart,

Are you sure this is the man for you? I'm not sure I'd commit to a man who doesn't believe you're truthful, and is not sensitive to your problems.

There is a website--National Alliance for Mental Illness (NAMI.org) with oodles of info about BPD, you can post on a board and talk to our resident BPD, or you can ask for help in finding drs., therapists, group therapies, etc. It's a great site. Maybe it'll help.

Take care,
TX Mom
Debbie

Answer 2

From what I know about BPD, its very nature makes relationships difficult. You probably need to spend a lot of time working through your issues. Some places offer education workshops or groups for loved ones of those with mental disorders. If your relationship is serious, you may ask him to attend one. Therapists will also do family sessions that he could attend. If he makes an effort to learn more, he is committed to the relationship and may be worth working issues out with. Otherwise, some people are not willing to give the emotional support necessary when a loved one has mental conditions. It is hard for them and I understand. If he's not willing to work with you and try to understand your issues. The best thing is to let him go. Then you can concentrate on getting you better. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

It's not just your BF that doesn't understand. It's most people, even the ones that love you most. And I wish there was a way to change this. BUT most people can only understand what they have personally experienced - and psychological problems are still not readily accepted.

People who don't have psychological problems (which is most people) DO NOT understand. They sometimes TRY by giving you similar situatations they've gone thru (i went thru depression when such and such happened) and comparing that to show they understand. And that makes it more frustrating.

I don't really have a solution for your immediate problem. Just wanted to let you know you aren't alone and lots of other people go thru your frustration as well.

It sounds like you need to take care of your problem - see a therapist... FOR YOURSELF - regardless of everyone else.

I wish you all the best.

Answer 4

I didnt study ur entire question sorry it replaced right into somewhat long expensive.. yet a number of what I honestly have study is extremely generally happening to me.. i've got not got BPD yet i do bi-polar sickness. They run hand in hand especially with woman. I could admit the only individual I honestly have met wit real BPD replaced into the main grotesque and pathetic individual i understand. there is no meds with BPD as BP its all interior the recommendations. becuz it is not a real medical condition (its in simple terms a character disoreder) with the wonderful behavoiral transformations you heavily isn't so unhappy. you're able to alter thats it there is no medicine which will assist you. i discover distinctive woman with BPD in simple terms do not desire to take the stairs to alter themselves and can quite see the persons around ( who they many times manage poorly) them adjust to them it is not so

Answer 5

You can't make anyone believe something they don't want to. It's sad but our familes and close friends bare the brunt of our symptoms and something like that is hard for a person to undertand. It took a long time for my bf to understand and come to terms with it. I have read many books on BPD since being diagnosed with it many years ago. you should check out DBT. It is helpful for BPD, I learned quite a bit from it.

Answer 6

Is it your personality disorder telling you this?
or did he say He doesn't believe you, cause you said
"I honestly believe he thinks..."?

You should really be more specific in your questions if you want answers that will actually help you. Unless you like most others are just looking for a sugar coated back rub. to tell you how you are right, and everything will be ok.

so can you elaborate on your question?
Is he badgering you about you getting help?
What are your fights about all the time?

"How can I make him believe ..." ?
If you truly understand your disorder than explain it to him.

"was destroying my relationship..."?
If he doesn't think you have a problem, than what does he think is ruining your relationship?

ps. this goes out for everyone
If you cant be unbiased about your questions than don't expect the answers to be actually appropriate to your situation. Tell us more, but just the facts, not your opinions.
and we will do our best to honestly help.

Answer 7

u r ruining the relationship.i dated someone like this and i couldn't wait for em to go to work so that i can cheat n c other people.this went on for 5 yrs.i had no guilt and i felt justified.i can kick my own *** jus 4 puttin up with it 4 so long!!u r stressing the hell out of ur guy.DON'T DO THIS.he did not ask for this.i wish i knew him,becuz i would b more than happy to tell him to go on with his life.i am quite sure he has asked himself .god y me?u fix u and stop abusing ur boyfriend!!

Answer 8

Do you see a therapist or take meds? If you see a therapist see if it is possible for him to sit in with you one session.

Answer 9

Maybe you need a better boyfriend.

Answer 10

well take a poopy ull feel betta