Why do people talk bad about people who commit suicide?

Question

The act is always mentioned with terms like "coward", "weak" and "selfish". I think it takes a lot of guts. There is a chance that if you do it wrong and live, you could end up disabled. People will think you were just trying to get attention. Also, if there is a hell, you are likely going there.

People make a big deal about how much you hurt your family and friends, people get over death all the time. A person suffering has to put up with it for years, so not to upset a handful of people for a few weeks?

I have thought about it many times, but have been unable to bring myself to do it. Aren't I then the weak one?

Suicide is a response to a person's problems outweighing their ability to cope. Also, some people ar just wired a bit differently to begin with. If you cannot understand that, then you have obviously never been there and have no right to judge.

Answer 1

I don't agree. Suicide IS cowardly, weak and selfish. EVERYONE thinks about it at one time or another. The ones who don't do it are usually the ones who don't want to hurt their family, friends....those are the ones who end up dealing with the problems in their lives----instead of ending their lives. People who don't kill themselves are the ones WITH GUTS. Those who kill themselves---are gutless. It wouldn't be considered the MOST UNFORGIVABLE SIN in just about every culture and religion if it weren't.

Answer 2

No one has a right to judge. They don't live with that persons pain. Everyone deals with pain differently in their lives and some people are better at coping and finding ways to deal with it. I think they should feel bad for that person and not the family so much in that situation. A lot of people are quick to judge and talk badly about others because they choose to deal with things differently than they would. I think it is awful and should mind their own business.

Answer 3

THANK YOU for saying that.

i am suicidal myself, which i spose makes me biased, but i think it isn't wrong and it does take a lot of guts. people just don't think deeply about what is involved. as you said, there is the possibility of it going wrong and the person ending up seriously damaged. also, depending on the method, it can be VERY painful. there have been people that have swallowed bleach, which corroded the stomach lining, and the stomach acid then ate away at their insides. they were in such agony that they threw themselves through glass. i can't even start to imagine such physical pain. also, people don't think as to the pain and suffering that has caused that person to consider suicide in the first place. people say it is selfish to commit suicide, but isn't it selfish to expect someone to live a life where they are suffering so much?

i'm glad you have made people think - as you said, people have no right to judge, especially so harshly, when they haven't been there themselves.

Answer 4

Because it takes a lot more guts to stand up and face your problems, move on and grow than it does to simply end everything.

I'm pretty sure that's why those people are called gutless cowards.

I'm in no way saying that is how I feel; merely that it makes logical sense to assume such things.

It takes a lot of physical courage to commit the act in that moment, but it takes a lot more courage from every other aspect of life to keep going and grow.

Answer 5

probaly because people in this world try to avoid things like that. they all want the world to be nice and soft. They dont want to believe people have problems. But secretly, at least once in their life, they would have wanted to die. people dont have the rite to judge people. if they were in tht persons life than i garuntee they wouldnt make fun anymore. I have a friend that tried to commit suicide. i have once too. its not a cry for help, ur rite, its just the way they choose to deal with it, because they feel theres no other way. Plus, to bullies, they see the suicidal person as an easy target and a joke. when really, the bullies make it worse, instead of helping you like they think they do by saying "wake up you suicidal twit, lifes great, ur just a wierdo, get a life and not a knife!" i think this world should try and help suicidal people, not bully them and make them feel worse.

Answer 6

I think that many people do feel like you described--that it hurts so many other people, and in that way it is selfish. It is true that unless you have been suicidal (and I have), then it is very hard to understand why ending your life seems necessary or the only option. HOwever, I do think that it is a far better solution to get help and get yourself better than to end a life that has potential and hurt everyone who loves you. I was suicidal in college, and now am as happy as ever. Things can change.

Answer 7

I have been there, and I still say that it's selfish. If a few weeks is all it takes for the sting of your death to go away then your family is full of jerks.

No, it doesn't take a lot of guts; in fact it doesn't take any at all. What takes guts is carrying on even when you don't feel like living instead of giving up.

Answer 8

Why can it not be called weak, to use your words its an inability to cope. That is weak.
Why not selfish. Poor me, I can't take it, no one understands me, sounds selfish to me.
Cowardly indeed. Fear of failure. Afraid of putting themselves on the line like everyone else does every day and being rejected. Stand up and take your knocks like everyone else, so what if they hurt. To lay down and let them walk over you hurts too.
Stop making excuses,and I'll stop judging.

Answer 9

I think when someone kills themselves it hurts the people around them for more than a few weeks, more like probably the rest of their life. However I do understand what you are saying and I kinda agree.

Answer 10

Hi pickle

I wonder about myself the same question. I agree 100%
No one knows what they are going thro nor what they are thinking about at the time