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My registries haven't shown any new purchased presents in a couple weeks. I'm kind of worried because a lot of the items were less than $20, so it's not like I registered for crazy expensive things. I'm sure they all know where we're registered.

I am having the wedding at a hotel on an island in Michigan, so it's not really remote, but it might be a hassel to carry a present on the ferry. I've had about 100 RSVPs as coming, so I'm just not sure what these people are planning. I don't know what the average plan for these type of things is? Money or small gifts? I'm not sure .

( I'm not trying to sound spoiled by saying I WANT PRESENTS, I'm just wondering what people do in this situation, so NO RUDE ANSWERS PLEASE)

2007-08-06 12:10:34 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Weddings

49 answers

was gonna say that your registry is too expensive untill i read-on, i'd say that you'll recieve money more than anything, which is what i would want, who wouldn't , but it would be nice to have gifts that would remind you of your special day..money is the easy way out in alot of case's because people are too busy and don't know what to buy..and don't bother going to see what you have registered..anywho, good luck and have fun..oh, and i hope your going to Mackinaw, been their and it's great..see ya..Chaz

2007-08-06 12:18:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3 2

Well I would not worry too much about it. Most people will wait until the last few weeks to buy gifts. I will sometimes shop off the registry and sometimes not. I try to do less practical stuff- so like games and videos, things like that. A lot of times couples will only ask for practical stuff, so they don't feel greedy. So I try to be creative. If I buy dishes or towels, practical stuff, I will usually go off the registry so that they don't get a lot of duplicates. Also people might forget to mention that they are purchasing stuff off the registry, especially if they were shopping for themselves as well, they may forget to have it marked off the registry.

I would not worry too much. Most people will bring gifts, even on the ferry. If the gift is too much for the ferry, then they may just bring you money or a gift card.

2007-08-06 12:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

What you do is stop worrying about what they'll get you. Even if your motives aren't 100% selfish, it's not right to try to predict what everyone will get you.

A lot of people buy wedding gifts just a few days before (or even the day of) the wedding. A lot of times, too, the purchase doesn't show up on the registry if it wasn't tagged as a gift registry item at the store.

Relax and don't think about what people will or won't get you. Remember, the term GIFT means that they are generous, and you are not exactly entitled to any particular gifts.

2007-08-06 21:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 1 0

You're probably frustrated, but I think you should have a lot more things to worry about than what you're getting as gifts. I've pretty much always waited until the day before to purchase my gifts, just because it's easier than bringing a gift when we're traveling and worrying about it getting damaged, or the paper coming undone. I know a lot of people also give cash and gift cards, in case there were other things you wanted to purchase, or just to help with the honeymoon. Don't worry, I'm sure things will turn out alright, and I'm sure people know gifts are expected, and will give them. Good luck, and worry about the important things, like the reason why everyone is coming in the first place.

2007-08-06 12:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4 0

A lot of people don't plan ahead, so many of them may not have even bought you a gift. It is ok in regards to etiquette to send a gift shortly after the wedding, so maybe they're planning that. They could also have ordered it online in order to have it shipped to you and those sometimes take time to update on your registry. Its possible that people didn't buy off your registry or are giving you money. I'd just say plan for your family and close friends to help you transport gifts if need be.

2007-08-06 12:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by its about time 5 · 1 0

One thing to keep in mind is, because they know about the registry, many people will check it at the last minute to figure out what to give you. They want to see what people have already bought and they'll get the other stuff.

That being said, it's possible they might not bother with it as well. That's just something you'll have to live with, as you can't force people to buy you specific gifts. It's up to them.

All you can do is set up the registry, and then hope for the best. Good luck.

2007-08-06 12:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by gaelicspawn 5 · 4 0

You ARE sounding selfish.

There are many reasons already stated as to why your registry is not being emptied.

1. They don't know they need to bring the registry to the register to have it marked off of your registry.
2. They may have bought something similar to something on your registry.
3. They don't care what is on your registry and bought you something else.
4. They are giving you cash/money order/gift cards.

They don't HAVE to get you anything at all for your wedding day.

2007-08-07 01:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0 0

Honestly, I buy what I want and don't pay any attention to registries. But in your situation, you might have answered your own question by saying it might be a hassle to carry on a ferry. I know when I got married, most of the people gave me money to pick out what I want or to help me get started with my new husband. Money is so much easier to carry than a gift.

2007-08-06 12:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 2 · 5 0

Sadely enough, some people just have no idea how to buy things off the registry. Or, people will buy off it, and not list it because they don't know how to. Sounds stupid, but it happened to a friend of mine. He asked for really cool stuff, not to expensive, from a store that is all over the place. People just went in and bought the stuff and never told anyone. So, he ended up with two or three of the same thing, but according to his registry, only 3 people bought stuff off the list. Wait until your wedding, they might suprise you. Sometimes, people will just get you cash instead.

2007-08-06 12:16:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5 0

they might have bought you things at other places or forget to mark it on your registry.... I know a lot of people give money at weddings and since people tend to have lived away from home now before getting married now it seems that people seem to think money is a better choice than household items like toasters and towels and bed sheets... you might even get gift cards to wherever you were registered or to restaurants.... also this website on wedding gift etiquette says.......""Wedding Etiquette states that guests have up to one year after the wedding to send a gift (which is generally accepted). C’mon now… that’s nice to know, but if you couldn’t figure out your gift during the engagement, do you really think you’re going to be inspired after it’s over and done with? We say it can be a little late, but try to get it there by the time they get back from their honeymoon or soon after. Otherwise, it will hang over your head all year! "

but really your getting married in a week..... you will see what you get soon enough.....

best of luck

2007-08-06 12:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by suesue 5 · 4 0

Remember, a Registry is your wish list...not theirs...they may have something in mind that they wanted to give you, or they may prefer to give cash. It is also possible that they viewed the items on your list and found a deal at another retailer...so you may still get some of the items listed. If not, I am sure you will have monetary gifts to help you make the purchases you need to make. Congratulations and best wishes for a happy wedding day and marriage.

2007-08-06 12:15:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 5 0

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