I have two etiquette questions:
1) We are having a buffet style dinner. Do I need to make a place card on the table to let people know what is being served?
2) Do I need to get the parents a gift for the wedding? We're not doing corsages or anything like that. They have given us money but they haven't really helped. (They live 3000 miles away). Thanks
2007-08-06 11:32:08 · 15 answers · asked by Firelady6 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Placecards - no. it's just extra work and confusion.
Corsages - if you can afford it - they are really neat.
Thank you... if they lived closer - i would say make them your first house/dinner guest and make a special meal and make sure they know that you are honoring them for their support. Since they live so far away.... find the best picture and frame it in a beautiful frame and send them a nice thank you card. Don't make it a huge print.... after raising you and living their life - no offense, but I'm sure they are full up on pictures. Send them a 4x6 or 5x7 frame with a wedding picture in it. A little "We love you" note - and your done.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!!
2007-08-06 12:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You do not need menu cards at the tables for a buffet; usually people will go through the line before they sit down. It is kind of nice to have little cards on the buffet itself, telling people what the dishes are. (of course, you will only want to do this if it is not really obvious what the dishes are!).
2. You do not need to give the parents a gift; they probably don't really need anything anyway! It would be nice to write them a personal note thanking them for the financial help, though.
2007-08-06 12:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by valschmal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found that it was much easier to put out a card of some sort labeling the dishes so that you alert anyone with dietary restrictions and food allergies.
Make sure the parents know that you are not doing the corsages, etc. Many parents will expect to receive them as well as guests may question it. Just make sure everyone is on the same page so that there are no uneasy situations.
I think a nice thank you, in writing in the programs and at the reception will be plenty.
2007-08-06 11:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by Cory C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) You don't have to have place cards but having some sort information would be a nice touch. Either a card in front of the dish, or on the end of the buffet table, or on each table guests sit at.
2) You should at least get them a card of some sort and recognize them at the reception with some sort of announcement or in the program if you have one. Not a requirement, but a nice gesture.
2007-08-06 11:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by az 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should have a card on the table, also get creative with the card, make people think they have never seen a card menu like in your wedding. Also the card will make the wedding easier and more organizer. Also you should at least get something for the parents, it means that you appreciated what they have done to help. I know you feel nervous and excited at the same time, but trust me, the night of your wedding only happens ones, so make sure everyone will remember your wedding, be creative, I'm sure something will come up to you. Congratulations and have a good start.
2007-08-06 19:19:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't need to do placecards for a buffet. If you like you could do a card in front of each dish explaining what it is, but even that is completely optional.
Yes, typically the happy couple does give the parents a thank you gift for any sort of help they provide toward the wedding. And if they gave money with no big strings attached, that was really helpful of them! It doesn't have to be anything huge or elaborate, but it's really a nice thing to do. Consider giving them a nice picture frame and telling them you'll fill it with one of your wedding pictures, or get them a really nice bottle of wine...anything you think they'd like.
Best of luck and all joy to you and your intended. I hope your wedding is lovely and your marriage happy.
2007-08-06 11:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by gileswench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be nice to have place cards on the table that let the people know, but I don't believe it's necessary. As far as the parents, a heart felt thank you may be all they need. Offer to take them out to dinner sometime or get them a card expressing a heartfelt thank you for the money. If you can afford a small gift then do so.
2007-08-06 11:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my experience the caterer usually take care of the buffet table, I would check with them if they lable the food. Most often it is easy to tell what is what.
No you do not need to get the parents a gift, but a nice thank you card would be good!
2007-08-06 11:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its buffet style so NO , you do not need to add place cards to the table.
Normally the only persons who gets gifts besides the bride and groom is the wedding party , so no the parents do not need gifts unless you want to give it to them . Remember its your day not there's.
2007-08-06 11:40:06 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could print out one menu and put it on a little tripod at the beginning of the buffet table. OR you could put individual cards in front of each separate food item.
I dont think most parents expect a gift
2007-08-06 11:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋