They have been together for 2 years and he left her to go home to mommy and daddy because they said she may not be the right girl for him.She has already bought her dress, (Big Bucks)reserved the church, etc.etc.She has been hospitalized today beacuse she is dehydrated and not eating literally dying inside.
2007-08-06 10:40:21 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Lots of love and support from you and your family...and patience. As hard as it may seem not to, she probably doesnt want to hear 'you're better off without him'. She probably still loves him. Respect that, and validate her feelings, but also, don't enable her destructive feelings (if she has any), by saying things like 'oh he'll realize what he's done' or ' he'll come back'. Sometimes just listening and being there is best.
2007-08-06 10:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by curiosity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, tell her she is far better off without the idiot! Far better for this to happen now than after the wedding! If he has done what his parents say now, he is a waste of space and he did not love her anyway, tell her she is lucky to have got away!
Tell her to get her money back for the dress get back any deposits that she has paid, or he has paid for anything, then throw a big "thank goodness I didnt marry that bleep word" party!
Mr right is out there somewhere tell her to live a little and dont give that man (I use the term man as I cant say what I'd like to call him!) the pleasure of knowing how upset she is.
I'm sorry your sister is ill, tell her that I for one am thinking of her, and she can do oh so much better for herself! She may not think that right now, but given time she will, she is also lucky to have a sister who cares so much about her.
2007-08-06 10:51:03 · answer #2 · answered by Lindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad it is for your sister to experience this cruel fact. It may not have anything to do with his family. He could be using his parents as an excuse. He is chickening out of the serious committement. And if he is not ready. It is better he leaves now. Knowing someone for 2 years and got broken off before the wedding must be very hurtful. Be there for her, hold her hands, look her in the eyes. Soon as she realizes how much love she get from her family, she will recover gradually. It might be 6 - 12 months, but she will eventually recover from the depression. BTW, she is lucky to have a caring sister like you.
2007-08-06 16:55:47 · answer #3 · answered by Iris C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you've got a crap load of answers by now and I'm sure they are all the same. He is a control freak!! i used to be like that. I gave up because it's much easier not to feel like that. Actually, this whole description could have been me 5-10 years ago. But he is 33 years old. He will never change. Good Luck with the Marriage!!
2016-05-20 00:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously, i am really sorry that happened. it is humiliating to have it happen like that. it is a terrible shock to the system. i sometimes feel that being broken up with like that is almost worse than a divorce, because there is just an end. i could say all sorts of things about him, i could say that if he had an ounce of class he would reimburse your poor sister for her dress and any deposits she has made to try to help make her whole as a show of his regret things did not work out.
if it was my sister i would tell her that this is a terrrible shock to her system and that it will get better, the shock, that is, and i would tell her that i am here for her. i would buy her a little stuffed animal that says ' we all love you' because she can see it all the time. that is, i would rally around her exactly as if she has just been widowed, because her dream has indeed died. eventually she will feel better and then you could take her somewhere fun.
2007-08-06 12:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As painful as it is...she should consider the fact that going through with the marriage and later divorcing because her spouse wasn't happy with the marriage would have been even more painful. Take it from someone who is currently going through that kind of pain...I would have rather had my fiance tell me that they wanted to call off the marriage even the day of the marriage that to go through the mess that I'm going through right now after being married and soon to be divorced.
Get a hobby, go out with some friends, keep busy, enjoy nature, enjoy the company of other people...if it didn't happen, it wasn't meant to happen.
I'm sorry for your pain and wish you the best of luck.
2007-08-06 10:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by Clog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dealing with heartbreak is never easy. I know that she wants to forget that he even existed but she cannot. Atleast now just yet. She'll need time to heal from this so she can have another relationship that will not produce the same results.
Tell her to take her time and cry it out. Don't mourn over him, just let out feelings that you have deep inside and then begin to pick yourself up.
Tell her that getting sick is not the solution and there is a life outside of this man. In fact he may have did her the biggest favor ever in life.
I know it is hard but encourage her to put her faith and trust in God and he will see her through.
2007-08-06 11:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let her know that it is better he broke if off now than breaking it off when married and having to go through a divorce. and let her know that she is very lucky that he left because she and nobody else wants to be with a mommas boy like that. because if they really did get married i'm sure all their decisions that they have to make together as a married couple he will tell his mom and get her involved and there would be drama. its hard right now but it will get bettter. it really wasn't meant to be. she will be sad for a long while, but the sooner she can take him out of her mind the faster she can heal and be able to move on to finding her real prince. it might sound corny but i truly believe that if things are not meant to be then they are not meant to be. just be there for her as i'm sure you are. and always talk to her and let her know that everything will be ok. that you understand that its a hard thing to go through and also that you will always be there for her.
2007-08-06 13:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by TJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her... It's hard, but it'll get better. Obviously, she's better off without him - although right now it might not be much of a solace. It sucks, but things like this happen often, unfortunately. I lost about 15 lbs in the week following my separation, I was not eating at all; but life goes on... 7 years later, I'm re-married, and my pounds are back (I wish they weren't!) Just be supportive; at times like these, your sister needs all of her family and friends.
2007-08-06 11:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sell everything. Distance herself from him. Keep busy. I have two friends that each called off their weddings last year and they have been planning fun trips together all year. Their favorite was eating at a fancy restaurant in San Antonio, TX. Find new ways to be involved in different things to stay busy and meet new people. Now is the time for her to find herself again.
2007-08-06 10:45:39 · answer #10 · answered by Mel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋