I want to have sex with my boyfriend. What should I do?

Question

We have been dating for a year. A few weeks ago, I stripd in front of him. We felt eachother and now i want to have sex. i am 19

I saw what some of you said, and i just wanted you to know:

1. We are deeply in love. otherwise we wouldnt have been dating so long.

2. I am turning 20 on the 9th of August.

3. I am fully educated, (I skipped grades when i was young and finished college)

4. He is 62.

5. just kidding about his age. he is 22.

6. I have a house and will be able to raise a child.

7. We want to get married when he finishes college.

Answer 1

Don't do. You'll never get a man that way. You'll get yourself a string of sexually greedy, immature boys who are afraid of commitments to real relationships and family.

Do you want a "BOYFRIEND" or a relationship that includes lifetime commitment and security - both emotional and social and financial? Marriage can, and in many cases includes all that and more....positives and negatives.

Don't sleep with your boyfriend. Have respect for yourself.

If he is 22, then he's about to graduate from college. You've waited this long. Wait for AFTER THE WEDDING.

You are worth the wait. He is worth the wait, if indeed the two of you are EQUALLY in love and commited to your relationship.

Answer 2

If you are asking the question, you apparently have doubts. Maybe you should wait. I wish that I would have waited until I was 100% sure before I had sex. Changed my life forever, and not for the best....

If you've waited until now, you can wait longer. Imagine how cool it would be to marry a virgin as a virgin. It would make your life better. You'll just have to trust me since you're getting the opposite message from virtually everywhere you look. Oh sure it was fun, but I have a lot of regret about sex.

Be sure.

EDITED ANSWER:

OK, so you provided more detail. None of it changes anything. Education and money do not make any difference at all when is comes to questions of propriety and moral judgment. Probably doesn't change the other answers either. You'd have to ask them.

By the way, educated people know that there is no such thing as "fully educated." Educated people generally use better grammar and type better too.

Can you tell I've become a bit cynical? I'm questioning the voracity of your question.....

Answer 3

Talk it over with each other and make sure this is something you're both ready for. Get as much information about this as you can... know the consequences of your actions... USE PROTECTION (not *just* a condom, as a responsible person making an "adult decision" you need to take responsibility for your actions as well - get on the pill, the shot, *some* form of birth control) ... and take it slow.

There's no turning back once you take this step, so know what you're getting into.

TALK ABOUT IT ... learn about your own sex & sexuality... (what feels good to you) and communicate that with your partner - make it the best experience you can, for the both of you (if you decide to go ahead and have sex, that is)

Answer 4

Well even though I'm 15, this is what I think.........stripping in front of him might have not been the best idea in the first place, because it probably got him excited. But, I think that the best thing to do is just WAIT, guys don't think like girls, they don't relate sex to love or relationships, like most girls do. So I guess the best thing to ask yourself is if you were to get an STD or get pregnant would your boyfriend stay with you or find some other girl that was easy and new? If it was me, I wouldn't do it. If he really loves you and wants to do that, then he'll ask you to marry him, your old enough to get married anyways.

Answer 5

wow, okay, how do you feel about him, what does he feel about you. Does he think that your the someone hes lookin for, or just another pretty girl. DOnt rush things, even though you cant resist. Your still young, are you sure you want to do it now, I mean hteirs still a life time, of adventures. And their are still plenty of men. But if you do feel strongly about this person, then I suggest that you guys get married first and then do it.

Answer 6

If you haven't already, start using a form of birth control that you control, ie the pill, IUD, etc. Whatever that is, make sure it's become effective before venturing further. Then get some condoms anyway, and make him use them. They'll reduce the risk of an STD and provide an extra layer of birth control. Have fun.

Answer 7

think about the changes that will happen after it and be really completely brutally realistic because honestly, i'll be honest i'm a bit younger and sex does change things. if you think you'll be okay and you have no misgivings WHAT SO EVER, then go for it, but use protection lol. or make sure you take birth control or whatever.. and make sure that he respects you while you are there. hope this helps!

Answer 8

Why did you care about other people thinking?.Go ahead make you move and enjoy the sex.What is good for you is good for you only.You're the judge and the jury in your own life.So, go ahead and make it good.By the way, safe sex is the name of the game.Remember that.

Answer 9

would this be losing your virginity? or have you done this before?? i'll assume it's your first time.
make sure it's w/ someone you wouldn't regret losing it too.
and don't do it unless your ready, and use protection, this is a must, don't want a baby coming out of this do ya?
and if it's not your first time: not sure why you're asking a bunch of people like us, you know what you're doing.....just be aware, a sexual relationship changes EVERYTHING.
good luck....

Answer 10

First, you should get sone form of protection. Make this your top priority. Then let him know that you are ready. If you are not his first, he will likely guide you through it and make sure you are comfortable. Try to relax as much as possible. Take it slowly with him. Do not forget the protection though.