my personality always clash w/ people, how do i obstain from this??

Question

im a quiet type person, loving very discrete and private, very smart and talented, absolutly love to laugh and joke around, however im also quick tempered, very sensitive and straight to the point. My personality seems to always steer people away from me for some reason, i like to have fun but people dont take me serious because i look young for my age and try to stay positive and conflict free, i tend to be non socialable often but only because that's a part of me!! im a little shy, but w/ all this said why cant i come encounter w/ real friends w/ out pushing them away, what should i do, anyone know from the details ive shared about me, what type of person i am?? help, i just wanna live life to the fullest and enjoy other peoples company , help...

Answer 1

maybe it's the fact that you're quick tempered? i used to be like that, and just try to not let things bother you. if you think about it you'll realize that it takes more frustration to get mad over something than it would take to just try to to ignore it. i'm very similar to your personality though, and what has worked for me is just being myself and find friends that love me for who i am. there a few people that will naturally reject you, because everyone is bound to not like someone, but don't let it get to you :)

Answer 2

Obstain

Answer 3

I have the same problem, I have a short fuse and I think it deters people when I meet them or afterwards. Mostly I guess it's because I am pretty outspoken and I just tell people how I feel and what I think whether they like it or not. So I think that makes some people a little uneasy around me, and a lot of people don't like to hear the truth...which is what I tell them.

Honestly I still haven't found too many people that can "handle" my personality type. I mean in retrospect, the only reason I got along with my old friends is because I was "acting" pretty much, and I was not being myself. Then once I started acting like myself and telling them what they didn't want to hear whenever they asked a question, they seemed to get all butt hurt about it and then they didn't want to hang around me b/c they thought I was "rude" or a "bit**"

.So now I don't hang around those people anymore at all. I've made new friends...and so far things are going well with them.

.Anyways I suppose it is hard to find people to blend with your own individual personality type, just because were all so different...all we can really do is be ourselves and be outgoing and friendly and introduce yourself to people. If they like you, they like you, and if they don't like you, well....they don't like you. Right?. No one is perfect...and we can't be friends with "everyone."

.So just keep being yourself, and like I said if people like you they'll like you and if not...so what? We can't impress everyone or make them like us.

.Well I hope I sort of helped somehow?.

*This may seem a little odd, but I left some links for personality tests and quiz type things.*

Answer 4

i am the same exact way. people think im mean or stuck up cause im quiet and not that social or cause when i do have something to say it is straight to the point. but thats just the way people who dont know me view me. people who do know me know that i am nice and not stuck up. im just a private person and if i dont know you i wont talk to you. when i am with people i am comfortable around i can talk for days and im goofy all love to joke around and laugh. i am a scorpio so thats where the private side comes from. i think we are the type of people that have few friends but the friends we do have we are very close to. the people in your life that actually get the opportunity to really know you i think will realize that you are a special, loving, and fun person and they are lucky to have you in their lives and the people who dont get you forget about them. your personalities just dont go together. you cant get along with everyone.

Answer 5

It's not you, it's your friends. I'm the same way maybe because I'm a guy. Please believe quick tempered is my mother and straight to the point is my father! You need to get out more and be more social, that way people can get to know you and realize that is who you are. Do you know someone who is crazy, stupid silly, or just stupid? But you always find yourself hanging out with them? You have come to know them and love them for who they are, right? Let others do that for you. Feel me? Come out of that shell and show the world who you are. From one quick tempered, sensitive and straight to the point person to another. Hell, I'll be your friend!

Answer 6

You're trying to hard. Being quiet and discreet don't go with laughing and joking around. Laughing and joking around don't go with being quick tempered and very sensitive. It sounds like you are not comfortable with who you are, and are trying too hard to be all things to all people. My guess is that you clash with people when you are unable to achieve this impossible objective. Until you become comfortable with yourself, you will never become comfortable with anyone else. And others will always become leery of you when they detect the conflict within you. You could probably benefit from visiting a psychologist.

Answer 7

First off, I have to wonder what it is that rubs people the wrong way? You seem nice. Think about what angers you, as you stated your quick tempered. Is it someone's opinion that clashes with yours? Remember not everyone thinks the same way..or we wouldn't have the wonderful inventions we do today. Do you have more difficulties with one-one situations or in a crowd? Actually, seeing as you said you are a private person, let some of that niceness you displayed here shine through.

Answer 8

No, they are too laid back in general. The females are friendly and mind their own business. The males can have their annoying moments but aren't difficult to deal with. If there ever is an issue or argument we are able to talk it over and be civilized about it and if need be, compromise. Communication usually fixes everything between us. Bloody clash...signs that come to mind would be Sagg and Aries-usually the females in both cases.

Answer 9

you sound absolutely lovely as a person. and it is unfortunate you find yourself in such a situation. but dont' despair, honestly there is a silver lining to everything. for most things there are good and bad sides. being very sensitive isnt' a bad thing though it seems you list it as such. yes it makes things hard for you, it makes being around others more difficult. but that being said there are so many people out there who can appreciate that sensitivity. now i don't know you, but maybe that sensitivity can be used as a strength instead of a weakness, being sensitive yourself you can see how others can be in need of someone sensitive to talk to, to relate to, to share with. and there's nothing wrong with being straight to the point, i myself am that way. but it's about knowing when to speak and when to hold your tongue. but being straight to the point is its own strength as well as weakness. while sometimes it can come off as being blunt, many will appreciate your honesty, and forthcoming attitude, because in today's world, too few are like that, rather most hide behind lies and vagueness.

trust me age isn't an issue. while a number of people will discount you because of how you look or your age, truly mature and intelligent people won't and it is those people that are better to spend your time with. i believe you are an introvert. the opposite of that is an extrovert, which can roughly be defined as someone who gets reenergized by being around other people, someone who needs to be social to have balance in their life. the opposite being an introvert which can roughly be described as someone who needs to have alone time to reenergize themselves, someone who needs ot be alonge to create that inner balance. actually you are not alone in that, at least a third of the world i'd say are introverts. being an introvert doesn't mean you can't be sociable, but it means you value your alone time and it is a must for you.

if you truly want to live life to the fullest. be happy. happiness is a state of mind. don't let these things get you down. i believe you are stronger than you yourself believe and that you have the power to make yourself happy. trust in your heart, and i believe you will also find those friends, find friends who you will forge lifetime bonds with. do you know what the biggest glimmer of hope in my mind is? it's the fact that you are seeking to learn about yourself and to improve yourself, and someone like that will grow and strengthen and will eventually come to have many strong friendships.

i hope i helped, if you want to talk more....message me sometime.

Answer 10

u just gotta think b4 u speak like if a friend said something u didn't really like but it wasn't that big of a deal either u need 2 think ahead and ask yourself should i start a fight b-cuz my friend said one little thing or should i just let it go cause it wasn't that big of a deal but in other cases u should definitely tell it like it is if u think it's neccessary i used 2 b like u cept 4 the shy part lol and i just learned that i don't need 2 get mad so much i just need 2 think ahead and ask myself what would happen if i got mad u just need 2 do that i mean i still get mad and sometimes get in fights but only if i feel i should stick up 4 myself and not take that but i do let things go more than i used 2