When he calls on the first day and calls EVERYDAY..EVERY 15 minutes..what do I say?

Question

I met this guy because of a friend and he lives really near me and so me, my friend, and him hang out a lot and it seems he's developed an interest in me.

Its only been a few days, he asked for my phone number
and my friend gave it to him and I just agreed not thinking twice.

He called me the minute he got my phone number, he talks to me for HOURS. He talks about love, romance, yadda yadda. I can't hang up...I need some help!
And now he calls me every 15 minutes...EVERYDAY.
LITERALLY! I'm NOT joking.

I have no dating interest in him whatsoever and never led him on or anything. How do I tell him that I don't want him to call?
Yes, I've tried ignoring his calls but he just calls me MORE and MORE even if I don't pick up. He leaves me at least 3 LONG messages everyday and I think I'm on my last nerve.

hes really really sensitive. even though he's 2 years older.

even right now. HE'S CALLING. I swear to god I'm scared to pick up and I'm not lying.

I've been reading about the advice you guys gave me. Thank you!!

Answer 1

It's time to tell him to knock it off. When he calls, tell him you can't talk right now, say 'bye' and hang up.
If he persists, it's time to get the law involved. Really! This dude sounds like he's one leaf short of a salad and his obsession with calling you can escalate into something dangerous.
Don't worry about him being "sensitive." He is not sensitive to your need for space. He needs to be told bluntly that you are not interested and his constant calling is NOT welcome.


He's calling now? Tell him now to knock it off! If he threatens you or threatens to harm himself, call the police!

Answer 2

Ha, ha, well, you're real lucky (just kidding :-) )

First of all, one thing that you might consider changing is staying on the phone for him at hours at a time. Keep the maximum amount of time you spend with him on the phone to ten minutes. When it's been ten minutes, it's time to go. Simply tell him that you have things to do or that you're busy with something. DO NOT tell him that you'll call him back just to be nice.

As far as showing him that you're not interested (because I agree with you, that's rediculous how much he's calling you), don't answer the phone if you know it's him, and don't ever return his calls. Eventually, I'd think he'd get the hint. If THAT doesn't work, I think the best thing you can do is to just tell him, "I like you, but I can't be on the phone with you this much. My parents are worried about the phone bill."

Good luck!

Answer 3

When you find out, let me know! I can't stand guys that do that crap. It's funny at first but after time, it gets to be too much and actually seems like a form of stalking! What I have done is ignored the calls and then a day or so later text him, just so he doesn't feel bad. But do not lead him on! Maybe next time you talk to him on the phone talk about how you met this guy and the two of you went out for dinner or something. Maybe he will get the hint that you are dating other people and will eventually just realize that the two of you are just friends...if that is what you want to be with him...

Answer 4

You have a few options here: As you said, you're non-confrontational. But you could politely ask him not to call you so much because he's using your emergency minutes up. You should ignore his calls. Once he goes a few days without talking to you, he'll get the hint and leave you alone. You could call your cellphone provider and have them block his number, but as you said, he calls from different numbers, so he could always find a pay phone and proceed to call you. You can have your cellphone number changed, which may be annoying as you'd have to give your new number to all your friends. I think you should try each option you have, going from ignoring his calls to the last one I provided you. Good luck, and I hope he can move on and find another person to be fascinated by.

Answer 5

You need to tell this guy the truth, that you have no interest in him. Try to be nice but not too gentle about it because he may not get the hint. It seems as though he has quite a crush so just tell him before it goes on too long. He may be a little embarassed or a little crushed but its better for you and him to have the truth out.

Answer 6

tell him if he truely loves then before anything happens as far as your feelings are concerned that you need to speak to his parents, if he wont let you then tell him not to ever call him again, if he does let you, let them know the problem-either way you will be done with this mess of an obsessive guy

otherwise call his house and let his parents know the problem

and get some help from above=and make sure ur going to heaven too=and its time for help from above -read Romans 1 to be thankfull and share the gospel and worship the creator instead of the created-this helped me alot=

the ultimate answer is still the same, its about the one that still loves us unconditionally=


and look up for help from above=In Jesus amazing grace John 3 repented and asked Jesus in my heart to forgive sins and be my friend, amen"
Revelation 3:19&20 as he asks-for the more abundant life=John 10.

it sure beats goin to the other place where its weeping and cursing forever for rejecting Jesus salvation (Matthew 24:51)


best wishes and prayer for you my friend

Answer 7

Tell him to quit calling you, you're not interested. That's obsessive behaviour, if he doesn't stop have his number blocked. If he starts trying to find your in real life get a restraining order, or just go straight to the cops so they can get him on record.

Guys like that are scary and should be dealt with accordingly.

Answer 8

There's no reason for him to stop if you haven't let him know how you feel. Simply tell him an occasional call is fine...that doesn't mean occasionally during the day but occasionally during the week or the month. Make it clear if you don't answer his call, he's not to keep trying...your phone alerts you that someone called and when you have the time/desire, you'll call him back.

Answer 9

Tell him you don't have as much time to talk as he does, because you obviously don't! I mean, you probably like talking to him, just not that much. He needs to understand there's more to life than talking, like NOT talking. Even sensitive people need to be told to back off, it may feel worse for them, but that doesn't exempt them from the rule. Trust me, I know.

Answer 10

Just be straightforward and tell him how you feel. Putting these kinds of things off only ends up in more drama down the road...