So, the big day finally came, and I was part of the wedding party. Right after the ceremony, i started drinking. By the time i was asked to leave at 9pm, i pretty much pissed off everybody, accused of hitting on two 17 years old, a married woman, of making some guests leave, and ruining everything.
I have never felt so ashamed. It has been two days, but i have been avoiding everybody, especially my parents, since I feel that I have let them down. I don't live at home but i live close enough to usually visit them on sundays. i don't know when i will be able to face them once they get word of what happened since they left the wedding early.
i have been seriously thinking about giving up alcohol completely because i know see is that all it takes is one bad judgement call to make a mistake, and i want to be able to show how badly i feel about everything.
it was all my fault, i am accepting the consequences for everything. i just don't know where to go from here.
2007-08-06 10:06:20 · 24 answers · asked by Oscar R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
so, i am going to write an apology letter today, like 5 of them. and to answer all your questions, this was the most alcohol i have ever consumed. ever. i dont drink to get that wasted ever, which makes me feel like a bigger jerk because everybody is going to know me as an alcoholic from now on.
2007-08-07 06:25:25 · update #1
APOLOGIZE NOW! And, do you drink like this on a regular basis? If so, then you may have a problem that requires professional help. If this was a once in a great while drinking frenzy (like, the excitement of the wedding just got to you) then consider toning it down and know your limits. Everyone wants to have fun, and a couple drinks is OK, but you have to know when to stop. Its not fun for anybody when a person is sloppy drunk, plus, as you said, you will regret it later.
2007-08-06 11:44:35 · answer #1 · answered by theMrs. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make amends. It is never too late to apologize. First of all, I suggest you hand write a letter of apology to the bride and groom indicating to them that you are very sorry you ruined their special day and you are very ashamed of yourself and vow to never do anything like that again. Tell them you realize that your behavior was unacceptable, and that you vow to make amends in any way you can. End with the hope that they could find it in their hearts to forgive you and if you could be their friend again one day.
Secondly, speak with your parents about what happened and also say that you are so ashamed of what you did and have written a letter of apology to the bride and groom and you are thinking seriously of giving up alcohol for good. Alcohol is a drug just like cocaine, heroin, smoking. It can become an addiction and it could really ruin your life. Once you are hooked and go over the line, you are an alcoholic.
There is someone in my family that is an alcoholic but refuses to admit the fact and has continually drank for years and years. It has caused resentment from his wife, and concern from his family and children, but to no avail. He is a weekend alcoholic mostly drinking beer, but he is definitely an alcoholic. I hope and pray every day that he will one day choose sobriety.
So my advice, quit right now and vow never to take another drink for the rest of your life. It is possible that you have an alcoholic allergy...you cannot stop at a few drinks, and you have to drink till you are in a stupor, so for you sobriety is the only way. If you get into a car drunk, you could kill someone or kill yourself.
Get involved with your church and try to do some good deeds for people less fortunate than you and that will help you appreciate how lucky you are that no one got hurt that night, as it could have been very serious. Maybe counseling would help you too. Also, try to find friends that do not pressure you to drink or get drunk alot. That is so important.
Don't wait...write that letter tomorrow. Buy a card in a card store that has a nice picture on the front maybe saying I'm sorry, but the inside is empty for handwritten message. You will feel so much better when you apologize believe me.
2007-08-06 11:01:30 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you. See what alcohol can do. All you can do is apologize and try to show them how bad u feel. They will eventually forgive u but for right now, just let them be. Talk 2 ur parents and tell them exactly what u wrote here. I can even tell that it is heartfelt. And although u made an *** out of urself- u didnt ruin the wedding. they got married right? and that is what a wedding is all about.
They will get over it! In the meantime, if u really feel that drinking is a problem 4 u- get help.
Good Luck- u sound like a good guy.
2007-08-06 10:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The first people on the list that you should contact and apologize to should be the bride and groom. Then to those that organized and paid for the wedding (as in the parents of the groom and bride if you are/were on friendly terms with them.
You then need to visit your parents NOW and let them know what happened before they hear it from anyone else.
The only way to prove/show others that care and love you that you are swearing off alcohol is to just do it (I know, cliche), go to AA meetings, DON'T DRINK at parties, etc.
2007-08-06 10:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by bethanne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to feel too bad, most people have had too much to drink at one time or another. Apologize and move on. However if drinking is regularly affecting your life in a negative way, you should consider going to an AA meeting. You don't want to make a habit of this, or be known as a drunk.
2007-08-06 10:16:34 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy Indigo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll be okay. Don't be so hard on yourself. I would man up and call the newlyweds and your parents to apologize. If you are considering giving up drinking, that may be a good idea. Some people don't know how to handle their alcohol... you sound like you may be one of those people. How old are you? You might just be young and have had poor judgement. I think apologizing will lift a huge burden off of you. If you decide to take it further and quit drinking then that is up to you.
2007-08-06 10:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if it had been my wedding...you could not get near me for months! After I was done crying and crying and crying I would have claws out anytime your name was mentioned! But since it was not my wedding...lucky for you, I would just appologize and be as sincere as possible. Hope for the best, but be realistic, they might not want anything to do with you for some time and you need to be prepared for that. This was one of the most important days in their lives and you ruined it. Hopefully the bride and groom are very forgiving people. Get some help and good luck in your treatment. Say hi to Brittany and Lindsay for me!
2007-08-06 22:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by Lillianne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First call to apologize to the bride and groom and understand if you wont be forgiven. After that learn your lesson and dont let it happen again. to apologize to each party involved is just not necessary. Youll be considered the guy that got really drunk at that wedding but in the end it will be forgotten.
2007-08-06 10:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by saharaprix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HaHa, I hope that married woman wasn't the bride. Seriously though I think it would be best to ask for the forgiveness of the bride and groom first. As long as they forgive you you needn't worry, I'm sure everybody will be laughing about it at their first child's christing. Or if you give up alchol no one will mention it again, as is my understanding. The only thing that matters is that you obviouly feel bad and are able to forgive yourself and learn from your mistakes.
2007-08-06 10:15:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
.do you have a drinking problem. just because you got drunk and f.....up doesn't mean you an alcoholic. Alcohol does that to people and lots and lots of people can tell you how your f....ed up and drinking did it, yet can relate to their own stories never told.
Apologize, feel bad, you do, i can see that. If you cant handle drinking then simply dont drink, or at least control it if your inclined to act like an idiot. if you cant control it seek help.
watch out for A,A. there are many other alternatives
2007-08-06 10:33:23 · answer #10 · answered by lek 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋