So, had to say no to hanging out with T. last night. He asked me to hang out at his place and I couldn't:( We've been going out casually for about 1 and a half months... is it ok to take the initiative and ask him if he wants to come hang out at my place tonight? Is this too forward? I know it's probably silly, but I'm just sorta feel weird when I'm doing the asking unless I'm really in a serious relationship... what do you guys think?
2007-08-06 09:54:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go ahead and ask him. I'm a guy and I like a girl who takes the initiative even if it's not serious. Don't sound eager, just be totally casual otherwise he might think you're trying to make it more serious.If he can't come you'll feel good that you asked him and he'll feel good that he isn't doing all the work. If he does come, maybe you'll have some fun.
2007-08-06 09:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You said you're already going out casually for about a month and a half. At that length, you should be comfortable asking him over to hang out. If it was only a week that you've known him, then that would be "too forward". So go right ahead!
2007-08-06 09:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by invisib0l 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My question is are you only asking him to hang out at your place tonight, because you feel that you have to, just because you couldn't hang out at his place the other night? Also if its just casual dating then why would you guys need to see each other back to back like that?
Alright none of my business I know. But to me babe, it does sound like, you are feeling obligated for missing a night with him here. I say if you trully want to hang out with someone then go ahead and tell them next time you decline their invite. Say "well I'm sorry I can't make it this nite, but next thursday, I'm free, we can go to a movie or something." See that is how you do it. Don't ever feel you have to replicate invites because you couldn't be in someone's company one evening or day. And especially if its something casual. Casual does not mean serious in the least. Causal is just every so often. And if you don't feel like seeing the guy tonight then don't. See him when you want to, not because you have to.
2007-08-06 10:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The idea of a girl being too forward by asking a guy out is out-dated. Girls can and should ask guys out just the same as guys asking them out. I would not ask him over to your place unless you want sex, because that is what it sounds like to the guy. If that's what you want, then hey, do it and have fun. There's nothing cheap or wrong about that. Believe me, the guy will be VERY appreciative.
2007-08-06 09:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by Mister_Shhh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's too forward. I think it's cool. If you're awkward, just keep it light and casual. "Sorry I had to bail last night, but ____, and I couldn't, but I'm free tonight. Want to come over and hang out?" You could rent a movie or video game or whatever - don't know what you guys like to do. But I think it's totally cool. Just be light, casual, and breezy.
2007-08-06 10:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well as Y O U,` stated "HANG~OUT" !! That could be just to play a game !?! or watch some movie !?! or maybe videos !?! ... Sure why not say or ask something like "Well I was a`little busy the day/night before !! sorry buddy !! How's `bout today/night !?!
2007-08-06 10:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - this is the best way to show him that you really couldn't hang out last night and that you weren't just blowing him off. If you like him - show him - be clear about it, guys don't get the hints.
2007-08-06 09:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think guys like a girl to take charge every once and awhile. He may be hoping that you ask him.. I would go for it! I mean whats the worse that can happen really?
2007-08-06 09:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by Chelley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and ask him. It'll let him know that you are interested and just didn't blow him off last night. Guys need reassuring too!
2007-08-06 10:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There shouldn't be an issue with that. If you didn't feel like it then you didnt feel like it. I don't see why he wouldn't want to hang out tonight.
2007-08-06 09:57:43 · answer #10 · answered by yepyep 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋