We dated 1 year after he stopped his medication. We all thought it was gone. Now i have been living with him for 2 years. I have experienced his depression for the past few months. He has to start taking his medication again. There was 2 times that his feeling is blank, not feeling anything, not doing anything and it lasted for a few days. In worst case, his emotion crashed; he wanna feel pain and he hurts himslef just to feel it. He siad when he feel pain, it reminds him that he's alive. He did cut himself twice now, but nothing was serious. He is also tell me that he wanna die. Right now i'm' very very sad because i love him so much and it hurts like hell to see him hurted. When i looked into his eyes, i can see that he is not feeling anything or especially feel that he loves me. i feel like i'm a stranger to him. I can't do anything to help and can't stop him from hurting himslef either. What should i do? Why it doesn't seems the medicice works like it used to before(before he stop)
2007-08-06 09:06:44 · 11 answers · asked by butterfly 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You love him, right? I know how painful it can be when a loved one has a problem like this. But your love and support is absolutely helpful. So keep up with the good job.
You need to keep your own spirits high. Look at this as a problem which you want to solve, not as a problem which makes your life a misery.
Push him to do lots and lots of exercise. Help him to have a diverse diet with lots of vegetable and fruit. Try to make exciting things happen in his life. Give him dark chocolate to eat (yum). And most importantly, talk to his doctor about this. Maybe another medicine works better on him this time.
Best wishes! :-)
2007-08-06 09:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by Algernon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had depression on and off for years, and have learned different ways of dealing with it. The problem is when it gets really bad, and then I just lose the motivation to do anything about it, even though I know it will help. The best thing to get someone motivated again during a bout of depression is sunlight and exercise. Unfortunately, your boyfriend probably wants to do othing at the moment but watch telly in the dark. This is where you could help him.
1. Make sure he eats salads, and vegetables, as depression is sometimes connected with diet.
2. Try to get him outside everyday. Don't do this by nagging, but by talking with him and making him realise that this is what he is going to have to do in order to make the relationship work.
3. Organise some active things for him to do. Maybe hire bikes and go for a ride with him, or find some good classes. Don't just tell him he should be exercising. Find something he can just go along to.
After a few days exercise, maybe even just one, he will already have changed a bit. It takes much more than this to get him out of it entirely, but it will certainly make him feel that he can do something about it himself, and then it will be easier, and not totally up to you to sort it. Good luck.
2007-08-06 17:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by bumshelf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be best to take him to counseling as soon as possible. If you feel you can spare the time, offer to set up the appointment, drive him there, and sit in the waiting room.
Also, I don't know if this will apply, but a lot of times those around the depressed person can give a more accurate description of how the depression progressed and its severity. The depressed person may be somewhat less able to judge it because he is the one experiencing it. It might be useful to his therapy.
2007-08-06 16:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by arwen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he always stuck in the house? Is he missing out on life? Take him somewhere for a vacation. Let him choose the destination. He needs to live life to the fullest. It will take his mind of the bad things, and it may even get rid of the depression. Life is short, and there is a closet full of memories waiting to be lived.
Best Wishes,
-Azooga-
2007-08-06 16:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont try to change his ideas yourself, he needs a psychotherapy and his meds to do that.
He feels down because he has a biochemical disturbance in the brain. Dont pick up his ideas because they will let you down too. Take care of your own mental health and make him do the same.
2007-08-06 16:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by mbestevez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's the only one that can decide on help so while he's trying to figure out what he wants, you need to take care of yourself and not let him drag you down into his deep pit of self pity. Move.
2007-08-06 16:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by jacquie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see his doctor as he may need to be on a different medication. Just be careful that his suicidal ideation doesn't evolve into homicidal ideation.
2007-08-06 16:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by Lola 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you should take him back to the doctor maybe he needs his medication changed
2007-08-06 16:10:39 · answer #8 · answered by kc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to decide if he wants to get help.
Suggest he see his doctor and therapist.
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2007-08-06 16:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by HJG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to a therapist. he needs it.
2007-08-06 19:41:35 · answer #10 · answered by beachy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋