I really need you advice, please don't say anything about the age, just I don't want to be clingy?

Question

I kind of need advice; I have a mad crush on this boy, he's 16, I'm 13. He thought I was fifteen/sixteen. He used to be in a band with my brother, but they don't really talk anymore... But my brother's told me he thought I was really cool (even though we'd never really talked). He's invited me to sing with them a couple of times, and then we stopped talking after the band split up. I got to be friends with one of his other friends, and a few months later he told my boy that I was really cool and that kind of stuff, and out of nowhere he started emailing me. I have a pretty severe inferiority complex, and I'm really shy, I get really nervous when I have to talk to people. All the girls in our town would KILL to talk to him, he denies it but I think he knows deep down he could have whoever he wanted. But he's assured me that he really likes talking to me and I think he's being honest, and he thinks I'm really mature for my age, ("I always thought you were older, you act like an adult")

The point is; I'm meeting up with him at a show this weekend, but we're both TERRIBLY shy, when I get nervous I never say anything worth hearing. I can never keep a clear head when I talk to him. So I was hoping for some advice on how to keep off his nerves, and how to talk to him without him getting sick of me. I've literally waited months- probably eight months- for this, and I'd completely given up hope after the band split up. I really want things to work out, at least be friends.

Just what do you think about the whole thing?

Thanks, have a good day

Answer 1

You really are a lot more mature than your age reveals. I'm 17 and I know many girls who don't nearly think as straight as you do (and I know many older than me that really just can't get a clue on if they're even being annoying, and they drive some people insane, including me. That includes boys and girls, this issue goes across the board). You seem to have a really good head on your shoulders and I think you could easily keep a conversation going that is worth while. I have that same problem sometimes (talking about what seems like nothing), but if he's as much of a lady killer as you say he is, then he'll help you recover. If he is interested, he has no intentions of letting you fail in a conversation, he can always help you recover.

Just some helpful tips to aid you in your quest, just try not to giggle too much. Laughing is fine, it helps him know that you have a good sense of humor, but laughing at EVERYTHING is what starts the eye rolls (I'm sure you have experienced or seen people like this). Also, just make sure not to start rambling and keep it a two person conversation. So long as you don't dominate what's being said, it should flow nicely. Some girls could talk about the most random things and as long as it was a normal conversation, I could easily fall for them and just think the conversation was a laugh. Avoid really...different...topics though. You'll be alright, I'm sure of it.

You seem like a really great girl, and in all honesty, I can't even pass judgment on age. I just met a 13 year old (and like I said, I'm 17), that if I didn't only have a week with her, I actually might have considered dating her because she was really cool and had an amazing personality. A lot of people would look at it strangely and think there were dubious reasons behind it, but it can be for real.

Good luck! Email me to let me know how this end or put it in a comment or something, I'm really interested. I really hope you get what you want.

PS: PLEASE be careful, there are a lot of jerks out there (I know many), and while he may not seem like it, he has a possibility of having some of those 'dubious reasons'. Don't ever let him push you further than you want to go, and for someone of your age, not to call you childish by any means, but kissing really is a good place to stop at for a few years. Don't ever let any guy push you. He can only go as far as you let him, and he should aways respect you. Don't be afraid of losing him by stopping him, if he cares about you he will understand (really).

Answer 2

watever u do ever get embarrassed when he tells u that he likes u alot because then u start saying really embarrassing things,or worse blushing.u can keep him off ur nerves by acting hard to get then some of the pressure will go away.and just be ur self that always works just dont tell him anything too personal at least not yet.and u should tell him ur real age or u'll be stuck with that problem for a long time and it'll cause more problems from there on in.i hope it helps:)

Answer 3

You don't want to hear about the age but you are 13. He is a little bit more mature than you. Go hang out with him this weekend, AS FRIENDS. Take it easy and be yourself. Don't try to hard to impress him, because if he is asking you to hang out he is already impressed by you. Act the way you would act if you were with your Friends. Don't show him that you are to shy. Suck it up. By the end of the night you'll know if it is worth being Friends with him. After all why would you want a boyfriend you can't be yourself with.( if it comes to that)

Answer 4

I can say all I want about the age. It's the PROBLEM! You're shy because you are YOUNG and INEXPERIENCED. And he's sick for being interested in someone who's 13!

You need to both grow up and enjoy life first.

Answer 5

don't u know the dating rule never date anyone over 16 onless ur 15 or older he probably only wants one thing this girli noe is also 13 going out with a 16 year old and he tells everyone (except her) that he's only going out with her for a bj he also says he got one from her older sister so u'd better rethink this

Answer 6

Just try and relax, take a few deep breaths. most of us out here always get the jitters too! Just be your self and make sure to have fun! good luck!

Answer 7

Well if you're not trying to impress him you'll be more calm. Plus your 13! Don't take it too fast! Slow down be friends!

Answer 8

Everyone likes to talk about themselves. Ask questions on neutral subjects, listen to answers , formulate new question based on answer.

( Do you like the Ramones?

"some of their stuff.. This CD.."

Really? which tracks? )

You have to know enough about the subject to ask questions.
Look interested..
Play nice..

You'll do fine..

Answer 9

calm down and just be yourself cause that is what he seems to like about you that you are yourself . act natural and things will go fine . good luck.

Answer 10

I think as soon as he turns 17, it's going to be considered statutory rape to hook up with you.