My boyfriend is from Africa. He's very disapproving of homosexuals and gay culture. However, he has very feminine body gestures and talks softly, even during sex! I need help, I'm not used to this, I usually date thugs.
2007-08-06 08:43:41 · 24 answers · asked by luvindistress 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's having sex with a female, that pretty means he's passed the gay or not gay test.. If he was truely homosexual then he wouldn't be aroused by a woman at all. Just because he's not a thug doesn't mean he's gay, it means he's probably just a nice guy.
2007-08-06 08:46:44 · answer #1 · answered by Seattle_Slacker 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may not be gay. He could possibly be much more low key then the guys you are used to dating. You said you usually date thugs. Thugs are generally more hardcore and have a rougher shell. He may be just a softer guy. When I was in college there were a few guys from Africa and they did postures and movement that IU found feminine. I wouldnt worry to much about it.
When you ask him, say "im osrry this has been on my mind for a while. I was watching Montell and there were women on there saying how a lot of men come here from Africa that are gay........it just has been bothering me. So I need to ask you and hear it for myself if you are or not." Be very polite and nice about it.
Good Luck and I hope yo uare using protection!! I hoep it all works out for you!
2007-08-06 15:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by A little Southern Comfort 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think all men who have feminine body gestures and who talk softly are gay. Think that's stupid? Well that's what you just said. I think if you ask him if he's gay, he's going to throw you out on your condescending butt, and he very well should.
Or you could say, "hey honey, the way you talk and act, especially during sex, is really gay. It makes me think that you're a homosexual. So could you please growl at me, and throw me around a little bit? That'd make me feel better. I love you, but I want to change you." And hopefully, he'll still throw you out on your butt.
In other news, I suggest that maybe you should stop sleeping around.
2007-08-06 15:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Alexis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your in doubt don't stick around.
and it concerns me that your having sex with him due to the fact that the African nation is the leading carrier of the aids virus. I hope you had him tested and/or using protection.
this doesn't have anything to do with being gay. but the best way to know is to ask. and watch his reaction because if he's in the closet you probably won't get an honest answer.
this is a very touchy subject.
but maybe you should take into account his culture this may have something to do with it.
2007-08-06 15:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By your description I would think he is. I would just break up with him. I know a man like him. Puts down gays to the point of saying they have a demon making them act so. I have been with him. And can tell he harbors gay issues within himself. The one I know was brought up to think it wrong. So it must be very hard for him to think and feel he prefers men to women. At one time in his teen years he did have a sexual encounter with a guy. He doesn't even remember telling me once years ago. You could ask your boyfriend. But if he is ashamed of it. He will not confess. He will deny it to the point of being offended for you bringing it up.
2007-08-06 15:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning the sexuality of your own boyfriend I don't think think you should be with him. Some men have feminine-like ways but most don't. If he is not your type then don't date him. Find a guy that satisfies you and meets your personal expectations. You shouldn't settle for something that you are unsure about, especially if you think the dude is gay.
2007-08-06 15:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by dencur02 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, most men who are very against homosexuals, could either be
A. Their culture
B. They are trying to cover up their gay tendancies
2007-08-06 15:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by I.J. Riley 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well u start off by bringing a guy into the conversation and if he keeps not wanting to answer the question, then you should ask politely.
2007-08-06 15:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by LiL Jj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, sounds suspect. If you ask him, he will admantly deny it. But, just ask him anyway the same way you ask the question on here. And, say what's up with the soft spokeness and the feminine body gestures.
Tell'em to man up or be exposed.
2007-08-06 15:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by L J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not all guys are manly-men but if you want to know if he could be gay, then just ask him...however don't expect him to take it well if you indicate he comes across as rather homophobic.
If you're not really attracted to him, why are you dating him? Or are you and just find it odd because he's not your usual "type"?
2007-08-06 15:46:31 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋