do you have to have confirmation in order to be married in a catholic church?

Question

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Answer 1

Yes, you have to be confirmed to receive the sacrament of marriage. Talk to the priest that you want to marry you, he has the final say on all your marriage arrangements.

Answer 2

To be married in the Catholic church you do not require to be confirmed. I have 2 daughters both married to non Catholics and the partners had not even been christened However, if you are a Catholic or are 2 Catholics and want a Nuptial Mass I imagine the Catholic party would be required to have been confirmed. I do not think anyone on here will give you an absolute accurate answer as so much depends of the country/area you live. I am a practiscing Catholic but do find this a grey area and not correct there can be so much variation. Where I live if a Catholic and non Catholic are being married they will not get a mass, depending on the priest they will have a marriage service or a nuptial service as in with communion. If the non Catholic is baptised you can write to the Bishop and at his discreation you may be granted a mass but this does not often happen. However, 12 miles from here it becomes another diocese and there a Catholic and non Catholic being married can have mass. Naturally the assumption is that the Catholic partner practices his/her faith. Hopefully, you will see where I am coming from that until you speak with the clergy in the church you hope to be married in nobody can tell you exactly. If one of you is a practiscing Catholic and you are unhappy with the priest you see don't be afraid to take it further or get married in another church/diocese. However, if it is 2 people perhaps just wanting married for the sake of a nice church for photgraphs etc you can see why clergy of most denominations are reluctant to marry some people. Should have added you are asked to attend 4 pre nuptial classes here before marriage, each about 1 1/2 hrs long. Good luck

Answer 3

Clearly from the answers, it depends on the parish.

When my husband and I were married in the Catholic Church in 1984, he was confirmed Catholic. I was non-Catholic. No problem. But we did have to "apply" to be married because I wasn't Catholic. We had the choice if we wanted a full mass... it had nothing to do with if we were both Catholic or not. If we had full mass, I just wouldn't have been able to take communion. As it was, we didn't have mass, so we also didn't have to have a priest perform the ceremony. Instead, we had a deacon for the celebrant.

There was also no pressure to convert. They were really quite nice about the whole thing. I did, however, end up converting about 6 years later.

You really just need to check with your parish priest to see what they prefer, and what rules they go by or bend.

Answer 4

I agree with Maigen. You have to ask the priest who is marrying you. And if you don't like that answer, you might want to check with another priest in your area, or maybe in a neighboring diocese.
My husband and I were raised Catholic, and got married in the Catholic Church.
A couple of years ago, we moved from the Midwest to the Southwest and were Completely Shocked that the Rules here are completely different. For example, where we are from, you can have a Catholic wedding out of doors. We have been told that here a Catholic wedding must be held in a Catholic Church.
Where we are from, a Catholic can marry a non-Catholic in a Catholic Church if they have some extra counseling. We have been told that here, in order to get married in a Catholic Church, the non-Catholic must convert unless he or she is Greek Orthodox.
Just one of the many reasons we are no longer Catholics - too many senseless rules.
If I had it to do over again, I'd get married by a judge. They're just there for the ceremony. They don't try to run your life.

Answer 5

My husband and I were married in a Catholic church without a mass. He is Methodist and I was raised Catholic. You do NOT need to be confirmed. The church requires that both people be baptized and that at least one be baptized Catholic. The church is pretty strict and they did not even ask if I was confirmed, only that I was a baptized Catholic.

Answer 6

No you do not have to have been confirmed to be married in the Catholic church. You don't even have to be Catholic, (one of you anyways)... The rules are just that one of you has to be Catholic. But as long as you were baptised Catholic then it's fine. My fiance and I are both Catholic, I've been baptised, had my first communion and been confirmed. Being confirmed is the 3rd step. Being baptised is the most important. My fiance hasn't had his first communion or been confirmed and we are having a full ceremony, mass included. We had to take the marriage courses like everyone else, but nothing indifferent. Talk to your priest, and he will reasure you of their rules.

Good luck! :)

Answer 7

You must have completed the sacraments of first communion and confirmation. You must also attend precainer classes at the church where you plan to marry. If you currently cohabitate you most likely will be directed to move apart and remain celibate while attending pre-cainer. If you want to have a mass for you wedding and receive communion you must also go to confession the night before the wedding. If one person in the couple is not catholic but is willing to convert he/she can attend CCD while attending pre-cainer . The conversion must take place before the wedding can take place. Good luck. Neither person can have previously been married unless an annulment has been granted by the Catholic Diocese. Catholic weddings can be the most difficult to accomplish.

Answer 8

There's 2 different things going on here. Ok, to get married
in a Catholic church, (the building itself), you don't need to
be confirmed or baptized. To get married in THE Catholic
Church (the religion, not the building), to be recognized as
a sacrament and have it be in the eyes of the Catholic church,
yes you do.

Answer 9

No you do not. In 2001 I was married in a Catholic church and I did not make my confirmation. All 3 of my children were also baptized in the same church. Two of which from the same priest.

From what the priest told me, it was under his discretion.

Answer 10

I am not Catholic but, my Husband is & we did get married in the Catholic Church. In our case, we met with the Priest & he allowed us after a couple meetings. I think each case & Priest are different. The parrish we married in was a bit more liberal too which helped. If you attend a church contact them & see what they say....if they won't maybe they could refer you to a church that would be more suited for your situation. Good luck!!

Answer 11

You need to talk to the priest in the parish you wish to get married in and find out what is acceptable there. No one here is going to be able to give you a "correct" answer, since it does vary by parish and by state.

My husband and I just got married 9 months ago; we are both Catholic. I completed all three of my sacraments, and my husband was baptized and received communion, but never confirmation. Our priest would have married us without DH's last sacrament - but we opted to have him go through RCIA. It's all a matter of choice and what is acceptable in your parish.

Be sure to call at least a year in advance! If you or your future husband needs to go through RCIA, you'll need to be in class from September-April. Good luck.