2007-08-06 08:20:38 · 7 answers · asked by rubio britta 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Yes, it's a good idea. Also be aware what your friend may be experiencing emotionally. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross described the five stages of grieving. This grieving can be in response to an anticipated loss, an actual loss, or a perceived loss. Not everyone goes through all the stages, and not everyone goes through them in order. But this may help you help your friend cope:
1. Denial. "It isn't true." "The doctors are wrong." "She's going to get well."
2. Anger. "Why is this happening to us?"
3. Bargaining. "If she gets well, I'll never yell at her again." "Just let her live until her next birthday."
4. Depression. "I don't care anymore." "Nothing matters."
5. Acceptance. "I'm ready for whatever's going to happen." "I know she's dying; we'll spend as much time together as we can and we'll enjoy it."
A good article on this that describes the "grief cycle" (it's more accurate than the grief stages) is http://changingminds.org/disciplines/change_management/kubler_ross/kubler_ross.htm.
Thank you for wanting to be there for your friend.
2007-08-06 08:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by july 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the present and how close you are with your friend. i think it is very thoughtful of you. dont get anything extravagent, keep it simple, but thoughtful. maybe you should leave a little note, like "im here for you" or something like that. that is a very tough time in a person's life, and the note would probably mean more than the present. ill be praying for your friend's parent...
best wishes <3
2007-08-06 15:32:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a thoughtful person ;you are, that is a wonderful idea to buy your friend a gift-it shows how much you are thinking of them.
2007-08-09 09:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by WVPV07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a sweet idea.
You know your friend the best, but a funny toy is probably not as appropriate as say, flowers, or a scented candle, or something religious/spiritual.
Most cherished, I would bet, is you making it clear that you are thinking about your friend and want to help.
2007-08-06 15:31:03 · answer #4 · answered by transplant mom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your friend would appreciate that you are thinking about him/her at this tough time in their life. I think it is a very nice idea.
2007-08-06 15:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm, if i was in your shoes, i think i would, but the hard thing is choosing a present.
Just comfort them as much as you can, if you think a present will do that then yes.
Hope their parent gets better too.
2007-08-06 15:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by Chris D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He or she may like it, do it with confidence.
2007-08-06 16:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by mbestevez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋