christians, did you choose your hair color, your weight, your IQ, your personality?

Question

or were you just born with them? just wondering...because you claim being gay is a choice. Could you please explain why you think it's a choice?

Kenneth G: can you choose to use spellcheck?

Chi C....sorry, I meant to aim this toward the close-minded ones who do.

Answer 1

Christians definitely do not choose their IQ's.

Answer 2

Well, I think there's elements of birth and choice to the things you listed.
-I can't choose my natural color, but I've dyed my hair all sorts of different colors, so yes, I can choose that.

-While I cannot choose my genetics for my general weight disposition, I have chosen my diet and exercise habits that decide my weight within that realm.

-My IQ? Again, a level I cannot decide, and then there's a level that I have chosen through the amount of study and brain exercises I have done.

-My personality? Perhaps there's a level I can't decide, and then there's a level where I choose my attitude and what sort of disposition I will or will not share with others.

-Homosexuality - I see in the same multidimensional manner as the other things you have listed. It can be beyond a persons choice who they feel attracted to, but then it's within a person's choice what actions they take on those feelings.

You'll find most things in life I refuse to see so simply as purely "nature" or purely "nurture" - I just think we're more complex than that.

Answer 3

The last guy didn't understand you have to add the "you were born with". Yes, you can change your hair color but not the exact one you're born with,,and so on, and so on....

The first answer is the best though. And has my vote. I personally couldn't tell you when I first "chose" to be heterosexual. He makes a great point!

Answer 4

I choose my weight every time I open up my refrigerator and go to the store.

I choose my weight each time I buy a Hershey bar instead of some celery.

I inherited my eye color from my parents.

My parents have blue eyes, so I have blue eyes.

I inherited my IQ from my parents, they were pretty smart, and so I am. I'd be smarter if I read more.

I inherited my hair color from my parents. I was a blond as a child just like my parents and over time my hair got darker until one day it started turning gray.

And then one day my hair started falling out. My hair line or should I say my lack of hair today is a perfect match to my mother's Dad.

Even my personality came from my parents and grandparents.

All are things I inherited from my parents.

My parents were hetero sexual and I inherited that from them as well.

If your parents are hetero sexuals than you are one too.

And I've studied biology enough to know that you would not be here if your parents were NOT hetero sexuals.

Therefore you and I were born Hetero sexuals.

If you are no longer, its because you choose to change. We know that you were NOT born that way.

Pastor Art

Answer 5

I have the ability to affect my hair color (you have heard of dye), my weight (you have heard of diet), my education (which will affect the score on IQ test) and can decide to adjust my personality. I can decide not to act the way my personality would first make me want to act. I can go against my natural personality, desires or inclinations. Even time, I can retrain them to be what I want them to be. Those are all called "choices".

Are you telling that a guy person is incapable of decided how to act on their desires, or controlling their urges? You seem to have a very low opinion of what they are like.

Every person is born with certain desires. But there is not a one which can not be controlled, changed, adjusted, etc. if a person chooses to do so. Nor a one that can not be given into if a person makes that choice.

Answer 6

I don't believe being gay is a choice. I think events in someones childhood/life can influence them but someone doesn't necessarily wake up one day and decide to be gay. I think the issue to stress is choosing not to be gay. I didn't choose to be a sinner but I DO choose to give up fleshly desires in the same way that I feel homosexuality is a sin and that person should choose to give that up for God.
I am disappointed that there has been such an emphasis on homosexuality and how they are "wrong", as Christians we need to LOVE our friends instead of point fingers.

Answer 7

It's convenient for "Christians" to think of homosexuality as a poor lifestyle decision, like becoming a crackhead. That way they can continue on their "Hate the sin, love the sinner" tack. If they admitted that some people are born gay, the next admission would be that God must've made them that way; and then they'd have to give up on their petty bigotry.

Or you hear "Some people might be born with homosexual tendencies, but it's their choice whether they act on it," etc. Because when gay people have sex, even if they're in committed, loving, monogamous relationships, they're "abandoning themselves to the flesh." Or it's "fornication" because it's extra-marital - because gay people can't get married! This is truly the crack-cocaine of hypocrisy.

Even worse, though, is "jesaja" below, the "AntiTheist against homosexuality." He doesn't even have the excuse of religion for his ignorance. In fact, he doesn't give a reason at all - probably because there IS no rational reason to be "against homosexuality." (BTW "I think it's disgusting" doesn't count as a rational reason.)

Then we have "Pastor Art" (and yeah, I know that with that name, nobody expects him to say anything that makes any sense), who thinks that because your parents are heterosexual, that means you're heterosexual - which he knows because he's "studied biology." Oh yeah? Where was this, Bob Jones?

Answer 8

*yawn* Let's see....

1. Hair color can be changed with dye.

2. Your weight is COMPLETELY choice. It's all in your activity level and what/how much you eat.

3. Since accumulated knowledge can be attributed to IQ, this is also a choice, or, in some cases, a matter of convenience.

4. Personality...genetic? You are who you make YOURSELF.

Answer 9

First, your question is inconsistent. Hair color is genetic, whereas weight is actually quite controllable even among those who are genetically pre-disposed to have a certain body type.

I don't believe someone wakes up one day and says, "I guess I'll be gay." Rather, a person chooses to be gay over time as he consistently refuses to turn to God, and consistently gives in to temptations around him. Like someone who tries a sip of beer as a kid, and over time ends up soused in the gutter, homosexuality grows on a person the longer he experiments with it, doesn't resist it, and doesn't search for God.

The same is true for most sins, hence the presence of kleptomaniacs, serial killers, rapists, and others who have taken "small sins" and let themselves slowly be overcome with them.

Answer 10

None of those things listed in your question are actions....and you DO choose your actions; whether YOU choose to acknowledge it or not. If it weren't a lifestyle OPTION, then in talking about sexual sins and other types of sinful CHOICES in 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 homosexuality wouldn't be listed amongst them, now, would it?

9Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, NOR EFFEMINATE, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,

10Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

now read the NEXT verse.......

11And such WERE some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.

Just as the adulterer can CHOOSE to stop his sinful behaviour, so can the homosexual decide to stop theirs and get forgiveness!

Answer 11

well I have never said that gay people chose to be gay, so I cannot be classified into this group that you are talking about, so sorry that you have to go through people telling you or someone you know that they chose to be that way