Say your child breaks a siblings toy - you want them to pay them back but they cannot pay back with money - what do you have them do to repay the debt? I don't want to punish with chores because right now they don't mind helping out. I don't want to make chores a bad thing..... Any ideas?
2007-08-06 08:01:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
8 years old....and of course they do have to say they are sorry
2007-08-06 08:12:19 · update #1
Take toys away or better yet have the child offer one of his toys as payment.
2007-08-06 08:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by jgcii 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would have said chores. What about having the child make the other child's bed for a week or two? That way he is working to repay his debt. It isn't a matter of whether they mind doing the chores, but if the child who broke the toys does some of the chores for the other child, then he isn't being punished, he is just working off his debt. You aren't making the chores a bad thing, you are just having him do something for the other child to make up for breaking the toy.
2007-08-06 15:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well that depends. Was it on purpose or an accident? If it was on purpose then let the sibling go into the 8 year olds toys and pick one out to replace the broken one. Then it is the siblings toy forever. The 8 year old is not too touch it. Try to guide the sibling to a loved toy. He will think before breaking next time. If it was an accident...well it happens.
2007-08-06 22:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not making chores a bad thing if have the child work to earn money. Find something out of the ordinary if you can. The child does not have to be made miserable but responsible. The other option is to have the child who broke the toy "sell" one of his in order to replace the toy he broke. You can take the toy and donate after you give the child the money that is needed.
2007-08-06 15:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by TAT 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When one of my sons breaks anothers toy on purpose (not on accident), I place a value on the toy. If I say the toy cost $15 dollars, they have to pay me back at $5 per hour. The thing my 8 yr old twins love right now is TV and Xbox. During the summer, only get 2 hours per day of whichever they choose. If one owes me $15, he doesn't get TV or Xbox for 3 hours. The worst punishment is knowing his brothers are enjoying the privileges.
2007-08-07 01:30:51 · answer #5 · answered by Clarissa N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let their sibling come up with work for them to do. Hard work is the result of paying off your debts. Chores are one way to do that. Soon enough they're not going to like chores anyway. They can learn that there will be LESS chores to do when they act properly in the home.
2007-08-09 16:52:24 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on if it was an accident or if it was on purpose. And I also think it depends on what kind of toy it was, was it a $10 toy or was it a $100 toy? If it was expensive, maybe your child could do a favor for their sibling, something to let them know that they are sorry.
2007-08-06 20:32:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him/her work off the cost of the toy. You're not making CHORES a "bad thing" you are DISCIPLINING the child and letting them know that they simply can NOT break the belongings of someone else.
2007-08-07 23:12:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the case, Are they doing it to be mean, or was it an accident.
If it was an accident, then saying they are sorrie and helping the other child out with something they normally dont do, ie clean room or somthing like that, maybe give them and hour of their time, just for them that they do things the other one likes.
If it was on pupose, they should have to give one of their toys away to the other child..
2007-08-06 16:25:08 · answer #9 · answered by Just Wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's summer and it's CRAZY hot outside. Have the little johnny set up a lemonade stand and take a portion of his profits to pay off the toy.
2007-08-06 17:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by Liz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋