I am 21, married for 2 years and 14 weeks pregnant. A few weeks ago my dad had mentioned to me that him and my stepmom had a "scare" because she was a few weeks late on her period. I told him that when his oldest kid is getting ready to have a kid of her own, that maybe his baby making days should be over. What do you all think? When should your baby making days be over?
2007-08-06 08:01:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First of all- I didn’t say it’s my decision if my father and step mom have kids any longer or not... so there is NO need to be rude! Second, the reason I brought this up in the first place is because NEITHER of them want kids anymore... my dad is just too much of a baby to go get fixed. I just wanted to know what age everyone thought was the right time to stop having kids. And for the person who said it was wrong of me to say that to my dad... I’m sorry but I really don’t want to be lying next to my stepmother in the hospital pushing out a kid!
2007-08-06 09:17:49 · update #1
Mine were over when I had #3. I agree with you, when your children are having babies you should not.
2007-08-06 08:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Cristi H 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When you can no longer have babies, or you choose not to.
It's not up to you to decide whether your dad and stepmom have a child or not.
I know several families where siblings are 20 or more years apart. The relationship is different than it would be if they grew up together, but that doesn't make it less rewarding. In fact, you get out of the "Momma, she won't share!" drama, and get to skip to the good stuff -- sibling idolatry.
In my case, my uncle and my dad are two years apart. My dad got married at 21 and I was born when he was 23. My uncle married when I was 15, and my cousin was born when I was 23 years old, six months younger than my oldest son. It's different, but it's not bad.
Focus on your babymaking job. Let your dad and stepmom make their own decisions.
2007-08-06 15:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have not said that. I think that if they consider that they are still capable of having children, then they should. I have two children, my sister has one, and I would not mind if my mother has another one with my step-father. It's a personal choice of theirs, and as their children, I think we should stay out of it. There is no law saying that when your children have children you should stop. Maybe it just made you jealous? I've seen this happen before, maybe you don't see it that way, but inside you might be.
2007-08-06 15:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by Butterflies 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't mention how old your stepmom is. I don't really think it is up to you to decide when your dad's baby making days should be over.
2007-08-06 15:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he feels fine with the fact that he may have a child and a grandchild at the same age he should have one.Children are happiness so let him be!
2007-08-06 15:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by alexia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well how old is your Dad and stepmom?
2007-08-06 15:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by JumpingBean 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got an uncle that is two months younger than me and it's no big deal. My grandparents got pregnant well into their forties. :)
2007-08-06 15:09:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋