2007-08-06 07:45:16 · 7 answers · asked by Nany 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I had sewer problems at home and I let the kids stay with and now we are going to court but he keeps making up stories trying to make me look like a bad mother, he is very violent and I could proove it but I feel the court has taken his side and I can't afford a lawyer so I vave a public defender who don't even return my calls. What can I do? I'm desperated I have not see the childrens for over a month not even to say mommy loves you
2007-08-06 08:04:33 · update #1
If he is violent and you can prove it then prove it. And if he's saying things to show you are a bad mother, then prove that you aren't. Even if he gets custody, you should be able to call and visit the kids. You really need a lawyer for this.
2007-08-06 08:09:56 · answer #1 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the court didn't even give you weekly visits or anything??? that sounds weird to me. Usually the court is in favor of the mother raising the kids unless there is a problem. And not even getting visits? This usually means they find the mother unfit to raise the kids due to drugs or abuse or something.
If you really feel there is no reason you shouldn't have custody of your children, you need to hire a good lawyer. cost shouldn't be an issue when it comes to the lives of your children.
best to you and your kids.
2007-08-06 08:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Rossy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have anything in writing from a judge saying you have custody (even temporarily) for your children? If not, then you're screwed. YOU have to go to court to show that he's a jerk and refusing you the right to your children.
Let this be a lesson to you that everything needs to be in writing in terms of visiting with their dad. Also, it's a smart choice to get some sort of visitation agreement entered in the court. Because that way you would be protected if he decided to pull this again.
Best of luck to you. I wouldn't know what I would do if my ex husband decided to not bring our children back after visiting. I'll tell you one thing though, I wouldn't have waited a month..
2007-08-06 08:18:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have simalar situation. i lost my house and job due to illness. instead of helpiing, they said we could stay there for a while, then made me leave. i had nowhere to go except a shelter and they knew this.... i would not do that to my kids.... so i had to leave them there and sleep in the car. had no money... then stay with a friend, started working again and getting healthy...no i dont drink or do drugs either, so that was and is never an issue....they hired a shark of a lawyer to fight me. while i had no money and not even free public defense. nothing... so here i am in court fighting for them being my own lawyer....this went on for a few years. lovely court system... then i gave up, i will not fight them anymore. i get my kids every weekend, and vacations and all summer. they have to deal with expenses, attitudes, and everything else... recently they tried to complain to me about my own kids!! so i reminded them that they could have given them back years ago. they could still give them back now. they shut up.......
2007-08-06 09:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by im a goonie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey.. I know absolute pieces of CRAP as mothers.. and they still have visitation with their children. I'm talking this bad: The mother is on crack, was fired as a school teacher because she gave the kids ONE test for the whole year and came in drunk, NEVER gets her children ANYTHING, tells them she can't afford to buy them food, whipped them so bad they had bruises.. but yet she STILL gets to see them every other weekend. You just keep your head up and know that you are a great mother and prove that your ex is depriving your children of a relationship with you. Good luck.
2007-08-06 08:46:21 · answer #5 · answered by jenadee_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say do everything you have to to get a lawyer!!
2007-08-06 07:57:25 · answer #6 · answered by LaTrice B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need help getting them back? Is he refusing to give them back?
2007-08-06 07:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by cdg96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋