I know a woman who buys Victoria Secret brand bras for her 13 year old daughter. Her argument is that her friends have them--and she doesn't want her to be left out. Is this appropriate?
2007-08-06 07:26:32 · 28 answers · asked by dantiuspalaptine 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The issue here is really not about the bras. It's about parents taking responsibility for their children. The trend seems to be to allow children to raise themselves. Parents are too busy trying to be friends with their children and not parents!!!!
2007-08-07 04:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by happy4u 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Victoria's Secret sells lots of bras that are modest and nice. I don't see anything wrong with buying a 13 year old bras from there, but I do know a lot of mom's who don't let their daughters shop there and I don't think that is wrong either. If you aren't comfortable buying bras at the lingerie store then don't feel like you have to just because "everyone else is".
2007-08-06 14:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Victoria's Secret bras aren't really bad. They're not all skimpy & sexy. They have some very plain normal ones as well. I don't think it's inappropriate, but if other brands work fine for her I wouldn't buy her Victoria's Secret bras just because her friends have them.
2007-08-06 14:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by ARMYwife<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on what kind of bras she buys. VS has cotton and body by Victoria some bras that are pretty much like any other bra (plain). Now i would say that if she is buying the more seductive, lacey, see through bras, that may be a little bit age inappropriate.
2007-08-06 14:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by blickyjunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all she's paying for is the brand name guess it's no diffrent then buying a pair of nikes or Polo clothing. You can get the same cute bras and undies at walmart though! Personally I would never spend that much on a bra not for myself or my 13 year old daughter.
2007-08-06 14:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Nikki 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have bought them for my daughter for a couple years. They last longer and V.Secret's stands behind their products 100%. I once took in a bra that was 3 years old. The underwire had snapped in two and they gave me a brand new one free of charge. Their bras aren't anymore risque than the ones you can get elsewhere, they're just better. I wouldn't buy them for her "because everyone else has one," though.
2007-08-06 15:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a matter of a bra, I think that buying your children all the latest name brand things just because their friends have them is the real problem. It doesn't encourage individuality, nor does it teach that material things don't make a person. I think it sends the wrong message to always try to keep up with what is popular. Instead, children these days need to be taught to save, to manage money, and to give to those less fortunate.
2007-08-06 14:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by izzymo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand what the big fuss is over the brand of bra. The only difference between buying one from VS and one from Target is the price and quality. If the mom is willing to spend $34+ on a bra for her daughter, then I don't really see the problem. Why are you concerned about it if its not your daughter?
2007-08-06 14:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by thejenns22 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well, VS has some normal, supportive bras. When I was 13, I needed the max support minimizing deals that you can't get just anywhere.
But, no matter the store, I hope she's not buying lingerie type stuff for a 13 yr old, b/c I think that's gross. If no one is seeing it yet, why? And if someone IS seeing it, you've got bigger probs!!
2007-08-06 15:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by Dj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who thinks bras are bras is being incredibly naive. Victoria's Secret sells sex. VS bras are modeled by thin beautiful models who strut around in soft core porn advertisements, nothing wrong with that except when talking about 13 year olds.
A 13 year old girl who asks for VS anything is clearly discovering her sexuality and sexual power, parents need to recognize that and respond appropriately. This is your opportunity to speak with your children about these new feelings and to help them deal with them appropriately. To buy them lingerie that is clearly based on a woman's sexuality without question allows them to experiment with their sexuality within the context of their peers who are also experimenting, parents need to be parents, not friends.
Also, I agree that a parent helping a child meet peer pressure rather than engaging in dialogue and setting limits, may have there own acceptance issues.
2007-08-06 14:59:25 · answer #10 · answered by jeddaktarstarkas 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If she wants to spend the money for it, I don't see a problem with it.
Contrary to a lot of people's believe, Victoria's Secret is not soft-core porn. The store has regular full-coverage bras and panties, things every woman and pubescent girl needs, and pajamas, robes, slippers, perfume, and beauty supplies.
If your friend were buying her daughter sexy negliges and teddies, yes, that's a problem. Regular, though expensive, underwear is not, though.
2007-08-06 16:53:01 · answer #11 · answered by CrazyChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋