My sister is caring for her mother in law who has alzheimers. Her mother in law lived in the house with her husband and after he died, she continued to live there until she got this. NOw she is living with my sister but she is really getting worse. She is trying to hit my sister and she wants to leave the house by herself. She is 75 years old and she is relaly getting hard to handle. My sister and her husband dont really have alot of money to hire anyone to help with her. Because of this, my sister cannot leave her alone anymore but she cannot afford to put her in a nursing home because medicare only pays the 1st 30 days. After that, it comes out of your pocket. She would have to sell the house that her and her husband lived in and that house has been in the family for over 100 years. My sister is about ready to have a break down because this is really getting too much for her to handle. What should she do?
2007-08-06 07:23:13 · 3 answers · asked by renne o 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
She should look and see if there is a support group that she can attend where she will meet other people in the same situation.
If her husband has siblings or if there are any other family members around she should appeal to them for help. It is frustrating dealing with alzheimers, I have been there myself.
As for the family home, are there any other relatives that would buy it? This would keep it in the family and help alleviate some of the financial.
I didnt quite understand whether or not your sister and husband live in the house with mom-in-law.. if not then they could look at moving out of their home into the family home which again would help alleviate costs.
Does mom get a pension or any kind of income? When I had to put my Grandfather into a home for the same ailment I used his pension to pay costs. Other things I had paid for myself.. like toiletries..socks..etc..
Alzheimers is a very hard disease to deal with, im sorry she has to go through this. I sincerley reccomend that she finds an alzheimers support group. Getting out and talking to ppl going through the same situations will be very helpful to her.
2007-08-06 07:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by timberleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was in the exact situation with my grandmother and we had to sell the house. There was no other way around it. The way to save the house is to transfer it under another family members name and wait 3-5 years before placing her in a nursing home. We didn't know that before my grandmother got sick so we lost the house. Unfortunately, it sounds like it's too late to save the house like it was in our family.
2007-08-06 14:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by Pico 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation. I hope there are some programs she can find that will aid her financially. There isn't anyone in his family willing to throw them a bone? I'm not sure if there are any programs to help her but if there isn't, there should be. I'm sorry your sister is going through this.
2007-08-06 14:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by lmunn09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋