does he have mental illnesses (bipolar narcissist, or personality disorders) or can he change his ways?

Question

my ex bf&i wer 2gether for 2 yrs.We broke up about 6 mons. ago,but I cant get over him&move on. Im in college now&have met a really nice guy, who shows an interest in me. I dont know y,but i cant just let myself have fun with him&like him on a dif.level(it has been like this w/2 other guys since the breakup w/ my ex)i think its bc i cannot get over him, but hes HORRIBLE&was so unhealthy4me.i never want2get back w/him, but@the same time i still care about him&dont understand why?he was physically&mentally abusive.he has add OCD&was put on antidepressants right b4 we brokeup(he broke up w/ me saying he was happy on his meds&didnt need me2b happy)it all took a toll on me phychologically&i am still healing.him&his parents knew i kept him as "in line" as he could b when i was w/ him.since the breakup,he has gotten a DUI,gotten involved w/ cocaine, gotten a speeding ticket4going140&gotten kicked out of his house.i ran in2 him not long ago&he seems happy.do u think he'll ever change his ways?

Answer 1

hon it takes time to move on.. you had a two year relationship and that is a little while. you can't expect to move on overnight. and it's only been 6 months.

you might want to do a websearch on SURVIVING A BREAK UP. perhaps you could find some useful information.

from your boyfriend's recent behaviors, it seems he is out of control. if he is "happy' because he is taking drugs and got arrested for drinking and driving, he has more problems than you can shake a stick at

i hope you can find resources for ways to move on, and take care of YOU.. i think there is someone out there who is more compatible.
hugs

Answer 2

Nope and you should stay away from him. He will only drag you down with him. You yourself said it was an unhealthy relationship...don't go there.

Answer 3

Doesn't sound like it. Live and Let live