I broke up with my boyfriend of two years when things got really serious. I love him but wanted to be sure this was what I wanted. I dated a couple of guys over three with no real connection. My ex was always my number 1. I put him first and we hung out all the time. He would always tell me how much he loved me and how badly he wanted me back. He would say things like "If I was to ask you to marry me right now, would you say yes?" I answered, "I would say I have to think about it." I was terrified of the thought of "forever" which I think is a pretty valid fear. Which is weird because months earlier we were planning where our wedding was going to take place.
Then one day ...he stopped calling me. For two weeks. I heard through the grape vine that he's seeing a girl 9 years his junior. Should I just give up because I never stopped loving him? He said I was the love of his life and his best friend & he cut me off as soon as he replaced me. Should I tell him I want to try?
2007-08-06 07:03:38 · 14 answers · asked by MadisonB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I didn't change wasn't just becuase he's with someone else. I had made my decision then he stopped calling. I love him and I got cold feet. I appriciate people's honesty, but calling me names is not cool
2007-08-06 07:20:38 · update #1
stop thinking about him, do three things that you've always wanted to do. Get a major makeover, and have fun. He's being a jerk, but honestly, he didn't have a commitment.. if he stopped pursuing you, he probably decided to look around for a while. Do the same, and if he wants u back he'll say so. Find happiness in urself and other friends, and if you do get back together some day you'll be a better person for it.
2007-08-06 07:08:51 · answer #1 · answered by x-jeylbeyt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as the great pop artist Prince once said...
We are gathered here 2day 2 get through this thing called life
Electric word life, it means 4ever and that's a mighty long time
But I'm here 2 tell U there's somethin' else
The afterworld
A world of never ending happiness
U can always see the sun, day or night
So when U call up that shrink in Beverly Hills
U know the one - Dr. Everything'll Be Alright
Instead of asking him how much of your time is left
Ask him how much of your mind, baby
Cuz in this life things are much harder than in the afterworld
In this life U're on your own
And if de-elevator tries 2 bring U down, go crazy
Punch a higher floor!
If U don't like the world U're living in
Take a look around U, at least U got friends
U see, I called my old lady 4 a friendly word
She just picked up the phone, dropped it on the floor
"Ahh! Ahh!" was all I heard
2007-08-06 14:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by kub2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you kept him wanting you and following you like a lost puppy while you dated who you wanted... im a girl yeah but thats wrong seriously he probably honestly loved you and you might have messed things up with him for taking all that selfish time to yourself...now that he has somebody you wanna try again are you sure you just dont feel that way because you cant see him wih other ppl??cause you cant take him back and then change your mind again... ya commitment is a very hard thing but you cant play head games with ppl guys have feelings too even though it seems some are just dogs..sure tell him you wanna try again but dont expect him to say ok...
2007-08-06 14:11:17 · answer #3 · answered by audrajean05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he didn't cut you off. You did to him, you cant expect him to just sit and wait for when it convenient for you. He wants a life with someone that wants to be with him. If that is what you want then tell him but if your just doing it because you heard he is with someone then that is the wrong reason to tell him you want to try. Good Luck
2007-08-06 14:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by Leslie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Second chances are great, but...
There is a reason you two broke up in the first place. You can tell him you want to try dating again. Just don't rush into it.
2007-08-06 14:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by Rawbert 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You chose to let him go, now you only want him back because he's not showing interest anymore...you strung him along and he finally got tired of it and moved on.
Learn the lesson...either you want something or you don't. Don't expect it to be around forever waiting for you to make up your mind.
2007-08-06 14:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably just got tired of waiting for you and figured that you would never be ready. If you're ready to make a commitment and you're sure he's the one you want, then go get him back. It's worth it for the love of your life. If you're still not sure, don't expect him to sit around and wait for you to decide.
2007-08-06 14:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him your feelings but don't be selfish to think he will just leave the other girl alone... let him live out that relationship, regardless... I wouldn't want him to leave her, for me. And, don't be heartbroken if he decided to move on for good. Good luck.
2007-08-06 14:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by Buttafli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't drag more drama into his life let him move on...seems like a girl cant like a guy till she thinks another girl is interested in him...your just playing games grow up...let him move on leave him alone.
2007-08-06 14:08:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you strung him along too long.
Find another guy - you've lost your chance with him.
Sorry, you can't have it both ways!
2007-08-06 14:08:27 · answer #10 · answered by love2travel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋