Taking care you spouse?!?

Question

My spouse say I don't take care of him as well as he would like...I think he is also talking about cleaning... I dont live with him, so why should i clean his crap?!? That really hurts when he says that because I thought I was doing a damn good job. What are somethings you do for your spouse that they would say you're taking care of them...?

Answer 1

If you are not living together why should he reap the benefits? Don't let him manipulate you like that. Let him clean his own crap. If you are not living with him, yet you sleep with him, I'd say he should be lucky he is getting that.
Like that old saying goes, "Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?"

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Answer 2

It is all the small things you do that count!!
These are the little things I do.....
Listen when he talks( don't be quick to throw in my opinion unless needed. It keeps the peace)
Support him(emotionally and believe in him when he needs you to have his back in crisis or family
- I rub his feet/ shoulders when I see he looks tired and sore,
-get him a blanket if he is sleepy and cover him over,
-make him a good meal,
-give him lovin' all for him, when he doesn't expect it,
***get along with his family(makes his life a whole lot easier),
-give up the TV when I know something he really wants to watch is on,
- Once in a while If I am at the store I will pick him up a little something a treat or maybe a shirt, socks just because
-look nice when he comes home( he feels sexy wow she gets all dulled up for me she loves me),
-I always make sure if I am getting up from the couch or leaving the room to get myself something I ask him if he would like something as well or just surprise him,
-I always acknowledge when he comes home and when he leaves with a hug and a kiss to show I appreciate him and all his hard work
**I always compliment him around his friends (it is really tough on them if you are insulting them in front of others how can you feel important or valued.
** give him space if he is feeling moody don't pry or you are in for a fight and maybe some hurtful words.


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Answer 3

This guy sounds a bit like a chauvinist. He seems to think that just because you're female, it's your duty to clean up after his lazy *** and clean for him. If I were you, I'd get out of that relationship. Although, as a feminist, I suppose I'm slightly biased. Seriously though, tell him how it is and if he doesn't like it, get out of there. If he expects you to be his slave then he clearly doesn't respect you. Relationships don't work without respect.

Answer 4

if u dont live with him then dont clean his ****.let him do it...but cook him dinner once in a while,they like that,if he works then give him a back massage once in a while...but if he's talkin about u cleaning then tell him that u dont live there so u shouldnt have to clean...i could understand if u did live there,but he could pitch in too.i do stuff like that for my boyfriend.i always have dinner done and on a plate n ready for him when he gets home from work,i give him a back massage before he goes to bed,cause he does things for me too...he still brings me flowers sometimes to let me kno he still cares,he's takin me out to a movie n dinner tonight so i wont have to cook since he's off work.just little things can show someone u care.good luck n hope it all works out for ya

Answer 5

If your spouse is looking for someone to take care of him...he should move back in with his mommy...Marriage is a 50/50 kinda thing...you need to be a partnership, you didnt carry him in your womb, therefore it is not your job to take "care" of him...He should apprieciate what you do do for him, with no extra expectations.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

If this person is your spouse why don't you live together? I think this relationship was done before the question was asked.

Answer 8

If you don't live together, how are you supposed to take care if he, and, how does he take care of you then?
It seems like he want cake and you to feed him.
If he lives by himself, he can take care of himself.

Answer 9

tell him that nowhere in the spouse handbook does it say you are a maid in a place you do not reside

Answer 10

Once, she was crazy and had blue hair and fuzzy boots... never, again.