Im 23, I have a 2 yr old with my girlfriend. Our relationship has always been rocky and recently she got into this thing where everytime we fight she threatens me with child support.
Ive always had a job and have no problem supporting my child, I always have. We live together but She kicked me out recently because she said i was always "upset." Well shes a selfish witch who expects to be treated like a queen but does not know how to treat a king.
So for about a month ive been at my brothers house, but she calls every night saying she needs to go wal-mart, or wants to go to the movies or shes lonely. But we fight all the time. We just dont get along at all. I dont know what to do..........please help, Thanks
2007-08-06 06:37:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry to say you have to beat her to the punch. I think you need to file to start paying child support legally. Because if she ever does take you to court for child support they won't recognize like a twenty here a twenty there payment system. And they may request that you pay retro active child support. So bite the bullet and start paying child support formally.
2007-08-06 06:44:53 · answer #1 · answered by TD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start saving receipts, don't give her cash anymore make money orders. Everytime you buy the baby something regardless of what keep track and keep the receipt. She can easily take you to court and say you ahve never given her anything since the day the baby was born.
See if you can come to an agreement between the two of you and write it up and have her sign in and notarize it. Save that in case she takes you to court. All of that will help somewhat, but honestly if she is that much of a pain you might benefit from just having the court decide and be done with it.
2007-08-06 13:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by ~ ♥ ~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first off you two may need to call it quits because all that back and forth is not good for either of you or the child that you share. secondly if she keeps sayin that to you then may you should just go on your own an get on child support it will look better on your behalf if it ever gets to a point where you all have to do a whole court thing.
2007-08-06 13:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by kosmickitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you say is true then i would contact a child support enforcement agency, explain this situation to them ask if you can set up a child support court liaison to hear your case and place a visitation order , pay child support willingly, and let her go on and you go on with your life child support would be better than dealing with her it sounds like
2007-08-06 16:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by kathy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is that way then its about time you dump her. i'm a female and i can't stand it when any of them are that way. it doesn't solve anything by fighting. you need to ask yourself if that is what you want though. talk to her. tell that it isn't foing to work out between yall but you still want to see your kid. is she a good mother? maybe you need to bring it right back to her saying that she'll be the one who will pay for child support. but this is a very big situation. you need to think about it and ask yourself. also i would quit taking her to walmart or where whereever she needs to go unless it was for you kid. maybe after awhile she will start seeing things. if that doesn't happen then you need to say fairwell to the realationship but not the kid. of course you'll have to communicate with her but maybe she will see that your not going to be at her every becking call. men needs things just like we do. why not treat each other with respect and loyalty. whatever your decision is i wish you the best of luck my friend. and yes it will hurt and even get you down at times but do you wan to live like that for the rest of your life?
2007-08-06 13:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by LUCY JO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start documenting what you pay for the child and use checks so you have proof.
You owe child support so you might as get credit for what you have paid.
Sounds like time to find a new girlfriend. This time save the childmaking until you both are actually ready to be parents
2007-08-06 13:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by idtshadow 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's the threat? If you're paying and willing to keep paying, it's no big deal. You need to slowly move out of this relationship. It's going to be tough because, for the sake of your kid, you need to preserve some sort of relationship with the wicked witch. Good luck.
2007-08-06 13:42:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly. it doesn sound like its gonna last at all. u guys should maybe think about serious seperation since it doesn seem to mmake you happy at all. its hard for us to tel you though, since we dont know all the lil details and the feelings you 2 have for each other. but from what u wrote it sounds like she is using you for money, u meant when she calls u she wants to go to walmart, go to teh moviers, u pay for all that or does she pay sometimes too?..if she calls ya cuz she wants u to take her out and pay, then i'd definately get rid of her.... poor child though. u guys need to have a serious talk.
2007-08-06 13:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always go to court and obtain custody of the child. You seem to have all the right things the court looks for.....and ultimately, your relationship will effect your child. And that's all that matters anyway. How you raise the child.
2007-08-06 13:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get ready to pay child support and move on. That relationship doesn't sound like on worth holding on to...do what's right for your kid, and divest your self of the kid's mom (romantically).
2007-08-06 13:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋