I'm 23 years old and I've been dating since the ripe old age of 16. All of my friends seems to have such an easy time finding partners but everytime I've tried I end up losing interest after about two weeks. I could almost mark it on the calender in advance. The longest relationship I've ever been in lasted one month... Because I spent the last two weeks working up the nerve to tell him that I wasn't into him. I've just lost it for some really sweet, caring people who I had a lot in common with. I turn cold at the mere mention of anything beyond friendship. Help, I don't want to be the crazy cat lady one day. Is this just me?
2007-08-06 06:33:58 · 11 answers · asked by theshinyside 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe it is the type of guys you are attracted to? Many girls like bad boys, and those relationships don't last. How about going after a loyal guy who is interested in a relationship. Some nerd that will treat you with respect.
2007-08-06 06:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well don't focus on the guy !!! Maybe its something with you no offense just a thought!!! What makes you into a guy ?? Think what makes you attracted ??? Then be their friend not their chick??? You cannot say you've been good friends for someone for 7 months, hung out, then moved into a relationship and if you did why did you get with them knowing you weren't into them??? don't label a relationship it has to earn its label and being with someone for 2 weeks isn't a real relationship its a fling!!! I had the same problem until I finally stopped focusing on the bad things I found with guys and relied on the good things to make my relationship real now I've been in a relationship for 2 years and happier then I've ever been... But before I focused on looks, sex, money, personality!!! but you really have to look at the details in between each of those categories then you will find love and yes it gets rough... But a relationship isn't just dating, sex and doing things together its mostly based on friendship!!! That's the hard part that people miss, you need communication!!
2007-08-14 06:03:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I am 42 and even though in the beginning I could see I had alot to improve on as far as relationships were concerned I worked on that and still can not seem to hold it together. They have all told me it's not me, but them who is the problem and that I will make someone a great partner one day. Quite frankly I'm tired of hearing that crap and wish they would just tell me where my fault lies, so I can change it.
2007-08-14 05:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by Funeeegurl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not just you. It happens to me all of the time too. Funny thing is, it's actually worse with a really nice girl who I have alot of things in common with. The craziest girls that I date seem to atleast keep my attention for a month or two but I get tired of them for different reason (other than boredom).
I don't know what's up with this..... all I can say is that I'm not content in a relationship that is going well. Whatever though, it's not like we should just give up or anything.... I'm going to keep trying to work on longer term relationships.
2007-08-14 06:39:24 · answer #4 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, one month does not constitute a relationship. What you've had are some dates and gotten laid. Don't worry, you just haven't matured enough, even though you think you have. 23 is still very young and when the right guy comes along, you'll know.
2007-08-14 05:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by travelinman2038 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
16 is young. I started at 25. Wait and find a nice man without sex. Find a man to make you happy. Read a self help book, and maybe you will know better
2007-08-06 06:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might be 'addicted' to the 'spark' at the beginning of a relationship. Maybe you just haven't found the right guy yet, or maybe you're not ready to settle down yet.
2007-08-14 05:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, join the club. lol You are very normal. When the right one comes along, you'll feel the difference. And there can be more than 1 right one. ;)
2007-08-06 06:38:21 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are still young, nothing the matter with playing the Field a few more years. when the right one comes into your life you will know it
2007-08-13 22:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nope trust me i'm having trouble too
they probably went through what your going through now but they probably went through it at an earlier age trust me
2007-08-06 06:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋