my boyfriend got mad at me and said that he never wanted to see me again and that he hates me soo much and that he wishes he never met me. But then came back to me saying how sorry he was and that he never meant it. and he sent me flowers and candy and all these cards and he tells me how sorry he is...... should i go back or not?
2007-08-06 06:30:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yea u should give him another chance he is trying hard to apologize which is rare
2007-08-06 06:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by james d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are going to have to be careful. Obviously he has a temper and vented that through verbal abuse. If he has continued anger issues, he may need some professional therapy to cope with his feelings. And you need to be careful that he does not turn to any sort of physical abuse. Life is too short to always be worried that you said the wrong thing and will get into a terrible fight with your partner. If this was the first time, tell him you are concerned about his anger. BUT because he seems sorry, give him an opportunity to prove that. Saying he's sorry is not enough, he has to prove that he is genuinely sorry by not acting that way again. Just becareful that you are not in a potentially abusive relationship. Good luck.
2007-08-06 06:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by ThatGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has some anger problems or could even be bipolar. His remorse seems genuine, but I would be very cautious around him. If you do go back, you need to have an open mature discussion about what he said, how much it hurt you, and make plans so nothing like that will happen in the future.
2007-08-06 06:35:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jordan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't stick around if you think this is going to be a repeat problem. Everyone gets angry and says things they don't mean, absolutely, but ask yourself: How many times has this happened, what were the reasons for it, and do I think he'll do it again? If the answers don't match up, then don't keep yourself in a bad situation. You deserve someone who will do nice things for you without having to tell you he hates you first.
2007-08-06 06:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by theshinyside 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Think You Should.He Sounds Like He's Sorry For What He's Done And Everyone Deserves A Second Chance. By The Way, Thanks For The Answer On My Question but take another look at it.
2007-08-06 06:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the situation and why he got mad at you. I personally would just wait it out for him to cool off and show him that you want control of the relationship too and he cannot just say bad things and then come back when he wants.
Wait it out though.
2007-08-06 06:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by The Coug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your gut instinct guide you.
This could be something that had nothing to do with you all. Or it could be the way his family argues....
IF you go back to him. And it happens again. NEVER go back as this would be a warning sign that he is not in control of his emotions and he is taking out his own rage against you.
2007-08-06 06:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sort of depends on what you said to stir up a response. If he said all those things without provocation, i would say it might be time to part. If you said some mean things also, just call it a draw and go back together.
2007-08-06 06:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go back, that only gives him permission to treat you bad again and the next time will be worse. Him losing control of his words and then trying to win you back is a huge abusive red flag.
2007-08-06 06:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way should he jepodise your status as his gal, hes just going to make people think your unacceptable for him. i had a guy who told his mum his version of events, and he had serius problems, used to blame everyone and everything, very negative, always misread people as untrustworthy and he had to go, he was a drain, never hapy, thought everyone was like him, which was untrustworthy, he was a compulsive liar too, which worried me coz id heard him tell a few fabricatesd stories which i knew werent true, and they all had an evil, negative or untruthful context. his mum thought i was bad, but take a look at them, all moan, all sumise, all single, all argue. myfamily and friends are all in loving relationships. i just picked a bad egg. . ,. he should be private about your relationship, hes just looking stupid. people wont listen or respect him for calling you,#.
2016-05-19 22:24:32 · answer #10 · answered by shelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People tend to say things they don't mean in the heat of a big fight.I would just tell him that what he said really hurt you and for him not to do it again.If he does do it again than you can break up with him.
2007-08-06 06:36:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋