have you ever met anyone online and become more than just friends?

Question

if so, how long was it before you talked on webcam? how long before you talked on the phone? how long before you met up? and how long before anything happened beyond that?

i met a guy online and we talk for a few hrs each day and yup we click and we havent spoken on the phone yet. he wants to although i keep saying no. its been 2 mnths now. or is it too fast, should i know him alot lot longer before i spoke on the phone? or is that no big deal? it is to me when i never done it before...its feels weird i think but anyway, when would you meet? i'd meet after a yr i think. is that too much? (if we're still friends that is haha)

Answer 1

I know a couple of met on line, sent texts and spoke on the phone for about 3 months, then met up. They now see each other every weekend and are planning to live together - 2 years on.

Answer 2

I have also. Quite weird to some people, some of my real life friends objected and refuses to speak to me now.

2 years ago I met a guy in a MMORPG game (MapleStory), we starting playing and chatting until I realise he was from the UK. Later on we exchanged email address to keep in touch while he went home (he was an overseas student).

Few months later I decided to webcam him, even though we exchanged pictures, I myself, wasnt very confident if webcamming a person who I met online.

One year on, I was dump by an ex, the guy I met online was very supportive and caring where he wanted me to talk to him on the phone so he could cheer me up.

We talked for at least 4 hours a day for a few months (this was during our summer holiday), most was 10hrs, which that was the time whom he made the moved. Lol, he ran up a phone bill of £170 XD

If you're comfortable webcamming and phoning, dont do it, do it when youre ready

Few weeks later we decided to meet because me and my friend planned to go Manchester and he lived there, so why not? Ofcourse, my parents knew about this, but In the end, I ended staying in his place =x

Now being 1 year with him, he visits during his university breaks, though i've only met him 3 times in RL. Travelling to London is costly.

Just remember, if you meet someone online in real life its dangerous. Take a friend with you.

Answer 3

I wish I knew how old you are because that affects the advice I would give. You also do not say if you are both in the same area, or if meeting would require travel, which is fraught with peril.

I am among the older dating population, and what I have found is that it is better to meet face to face sooner rather than later. It seems that when the actual meeting is put off, the opportunities for one or both parties to misrepresent themselves within the nearly anonymous world of online dating is far too easy, and far too common.

I feel I can learn much more about a man when he is telling me about himself in person. He can't lie about his appearance, I can watch for body language that indicates many things, and I can get a better read on my own attraction to him.

A long drawn-out internet process can also lull you into a false sense of security, during which you may reveal too much to a person whom you ultimately determine is not someone you want knowing your intimate secrets.

I have also determined that anyone who does not live near me is just plain off-limits. At this stage in life, neither party is in a position to up and relocate. I have had several connections that seemed promising -- one man I was able to meet while on a vacation near him, and we both felt the possibilities -- but the reality is that neither of us can move, so I had to let that go, and I no longer bother trying to connect with someone long-distance.

Be careful. Pay attention to your instincts. If you do decide to meet, make it an afternoon coffee date at a well-attended coffee shop. Provide your own transportation, and keep the meeting short -- you have an appointment in two hours, etc. -- so that you can leave and allow your impressions to settle in your mind before making your next move. If you determine he is not right for you, do the right thing and politely let him know.

Answer 4

It's important you speak to him on the phone so you can hear if he sounds like you think he does in your head...sometimes speaking to people on internet can lead to false impressions..but a lot of the time it's a great way to meet like-minded people that you don't normally get to meet. If you want to see him one day then you should talk on the phone otherwise you'll drag it out and never pluck up the courage and it will just remain an internet friendship....speaking on phone instead of internet is important as you can hear his voice and here the emotion and the way he responds...and also you can kind of tell sometimes how old they are. If you meet he should be willing for you to bring a friend along or get a friend to come with you but stay closeby. Can't be too careful these days.

Answer 5

I met a guy online a few years ago... We never talked on webcam. We talked on the phone and we messaged each other. But I still haven't met him. We had planned on meeting a few times but never got the chance and now he's in Iraq. We stopped talking after he told a friend of mine he only wanted to get some.

Answer 6

Hi there, I have met people online, exchanged emails and moved onto webcam in a fairly short space of time - 2 to 3 weeks. Most of the people that I talk to are far away or we are "fantasy friends" so webcamming or mailing is good while meeting up is either impossible or unlikely. I wouldn't mind going that last step, but it just hasn't clicked enugh yet with one person to be able to carry it out.

Answer 7

I met the guy that I'm currently dating on-line last September. We emailed each other for a few days and then did IM's. By the time we went out on our first date a few weeks later we were talking everyday, in fact several times a day. It's been almost a year and we still talk every single day except of course when I was in Germany for three weeks for Christmas. ! Things got physical about a month after we started dating. He didn't pressure me about anything and it happened when I wanted it to! It took a while to meet someone decent on-line who was on the same page of life that I was on. Take your time, date a few guys and know yourself and what you're really looking for in a mate. Best of luck in your search for the one!

Answer 8

Met my bf, changed my life.
Switched from public chatroom to msn within the week, but a good few months before we got on webcam. Didnt talk on the phone until we got together early this year.
We have yet to meet since meeting 3years ago, but we make full use of the internet;) People say its crazy, but im happy =]

Answer 9

I met my bf online & chatted for only a couple of weeks via email before he asked me out for a drink. We met once & a spark was there, we kept emailing & talking on the phone for another couple of weeks before he asked if he could pick me up from the airport when I got home from a trip overseas. That night we got together. It was only two months from our first email conversation.

I say "go for it" - be safe & let others know where you're going & as much info as you have on him so's if anything does go wrong you have a backup.

There is no way I would have met my bf if I hadn't seen him on myspace and I am so happy that I did - good luck!!

Answer 10

Yes, I met my girlfriend on YA back in January. We began by emailing, then texting, then talking and we finally met in a Hotel in Scotland in June 2007 and made love.
Although we are both married to other people and we live over 300 miles apart, our relationship is very strong and very loving. We are meeting again in October.
Long distance relationships can work,as long as you are honest with each other and trust each other.