Dating a girl that walked out on her kids?

Question

For over a year I dated a girl who had walked out on her child (2 & 4) and left them with the father who was very bitter. I gave her the benefit of the doubt when I met her because she was very sweet. She did finally get 50/50 back for her kids. After a long battle. Our relationaship was good for the first 6 months, till I caught her cheating on me one night, when she was drunk. It took about 2 months 2 get over that. Then I discovered she really left her kids to be with her best friends husband whom she had been swinging with. All of this was hard to take. Towards the end it got hard to bring her around my family because I felt weird. Finally, she met some guy, through my cousin whom she broke up with me for and starting talking to him. I still talked to her for a few weeks, because we still had feelings for each other. Then last saturday, she was drunk and called me over for sex , the next day she told me she was still was talking to the new guy. What do I do? Because I still love

Answer 1

WHEN YOU ARE IN A SITUATION WHERE YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND WOMEN . . . JUST IMAGINE WHAT IT'S LIKE TO BE HER.

. . . and then DO WHAT SHE WOULD DO (don't "say" what she would "say") as if the sexes were reversed.

-->> RUN (don't walk) in the OPPOSITE DIRECTION.

LOL!

Men don't need to waste their time ARGUING to prove a point . . and they dopn't need to spend any time WONDERING WHY women BEHAVE a certain way, because MEN KNOW 100% that a woman wouldn't even come CLOSE to tolerating the abominal behavior they sometimes dish out.

Stop wondering WHY - or WHY NOT - and concentrate on finding a woman -->> WORTH YOUR TIME.

Once you have determined a woman is NOT WORTH YOUR TIME . . . GET RID OF HER without any hesitation or remorse.

If EVERYONE did this, people would be forced to UP THEIR STANDARDS.

YOU WOULD NOT KEEP PUMPING YOUR MONEY INTO A STOCK THAT KEEPS CRASHING. SO IF YOU WOULDN'T DO THAT WITH YOUR "MONEY" . . . . DON'T DO IT ITH YOUR LIFE!

Don't make yourself available to women so they can put you through this kind of garbage.

Always treat women according to their BEHAVIOR . . and EVENTUALLY . . . THEY WILL "GET IT". . . .

. . . instead of "GETTING AWAY WITH" something SHE would NEVER tolerate from YOU.

:)

Answer 2

She's an alcoholic and a cheater and too easy to have sex with other guys. This is a no brainer for me. She in no way deserved to have any part of the children's care given back to her and pulled the wool over some court's eyes. She should be in rehab for the alcohol problem. And you should just walk away from her, no matter if there is free sex and feelings involved, because as long as she's into the booze, there'll always be big problems she'll cause.

Answer 3

Feel Ya!! But you know what my sound mean but love is not everything. Sounds like this chick has issues. If she can't even respect her kids or you how could you bring your self to trust her again. You will only be torturing your self. Your gonna be with her and always be thinking wether she's with someone or if she's cheating on you or not. Dump her and move one there are a lot of women out there that are not selfish like that and that you can have a good time. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 4

I am not quite sure the caliber of person you are; however I am just baffled by men who continue to take huge amounts of crap from certain women. NO ONE is hot enough to be able to treat someone this poorly. If you do not see her for what she is, then you are destined for a life of pain and possibly disease. Drunk or not, she is well within her abilities to make decent decisions, if she so chooses.. it appears that she has decided to be selfish. You should be a bit selfish too. Preserve the decent person that I hope you to be and find yourself a decent person. Irrespective of her childhood or whatever excuse she will use, she is not being a good person.

Get over your feelings for her by having some feelings for yourself.

I wish you well!

Answer 5

Your an idiot. I can't believe that you are really playing her stupid games. If you really cared about her, you would not have had sex with her when she was drunk.

The fact that she walked out on her children should have told you something about her morals. The fact that you would date her, knowing that about her makes me wonder about your morals. The fact that you would sleep with her when she was drunk after you knew that she was sleeping with someone else and swinging makes me think that you don't have any morals.

Answer 6

She doesn't respect you. She may have feelings for you but not strong enough to reign in her behavior. Cut her loose, tell her definitively you just want to be friends, and next time she calls for sex DONT GO. Get your dignity back and start dating again. If you try to work this relationship at this time, its going to be endless heartache. Maybe in a few years she'll grow up, but right now its just not going to work.

Answer 7

Sounds like she is emotionally abusive to everyone around her; no matter how much you love her, it is time to let go. It will be hard, but people like this need to hit rock bottom before they realize they have a problem (if they ever do). She also appears to have a substance abuse issue, which does not bode well for you.

Answer 8

It seems like this girl has some problems. Maybe you should push her to get some help from a psychologist. Then after she gets better see if you two can work things out.

Answer 9

No man loves a woman if he says she "walked out on her kids." That phrase, true or not, denotes a complete lack of respect. Where there's no respect, there's no love. You may lust after her, feel sorry for her, find her fun to be with, even feel jealousy, but there's no love.

Answer 10

Drop her...you don't love her, you love the person you initially thought she was. That person doesn't exist sugar, so move on. No telling what diseases she may have exposed you to, not to mention her being pretty low to have ditched her kids so she could go "play".