sometimes i spend the night at my friend nicks house he's gay but my boyfriend gets so mad an he knows hes gay he gets mad if i spend the night at his house or if he spends the night at my house my mom wouldnt let me if he wasnt gay an my boyfriend knows that but i dont get the big deal i mean nicks gay its not like were doin anything its basicly like with all my girl friends should i stop speneding the night at his house an have him stop spending the night at mine? so my boyfriend will stop bein mad at me?
2007-08-06 06:07:03 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend appears to be insecure and might have trust issues. But I have to ask...are you having sleepovers with your boyfriend? If the answer is no, then I can see where he's coming from. He's just jealous. He wants to be the one sleeping over. But if the answer is yes, then he's got issues. Tell him to loosen up that leash he's trying to wrap around you. You have friends and a life of your own...you don't need somebody trying to control all of your actions. There's a line you can cross obviously, but going off what you're saying, he's got no reason to feel insecure about you hanging out with the gay guy.
2007-08-06 06:12:52 · answer #1 · answered by Phenom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay is a choice, I know lots of guys that were gay and then turned back to straight and vice versa. You never know. My best friend for 15 years that no one ever thought could be even slightly Gay ended up being gay. And a guy a work with which could have won an awarded for the gayest person alive, turned straight. So Nick being gay now would not make me feel any better if my girlfriend stayed at his house. After all he is a guy still and guys will be guys, gay or not.
2007-08-06 06:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
touchy area...
The problem is he is that nick is a guy. Despite him possibly being gay. The issue that your boyfriend probably has is that, he may still be attracted to women, as well as men.
Or the fact that he is gay is just an act.
Either way. If it offends your boyfriend, you should either not do it, or find a new boyfriend. You can not do both, because one or the other will not last.
2007-08-06 06:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by Chris W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether he's gay or not, why would you need to spend the night at a guy's house if he's not your guy? Would you feel comfortable with your bf staying at a girl's house? My guess is probably not because things always have to be catered towards what you want, not what he wants.
You doing this just kind of shows you don't have respect for certain boundaries of his. But you know, if he starts staying over with girls, you can't get mad at him.
2007-08-06 06:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, don't end your friendship with nick because your boyfriend is jealous over nothing. If you feel you have to choose between them, stick with your friend who is gay and who you have a close relationship with. If you think it would work, have your bf spend time w/nick so maybe he can see that your friendship is strictly platonic and that he has nothing to worry about. maybe your bf will realize you are lucky to have someone like nick in your life. Everyone needs good and sincere friends. Good luck.
2007-08-06 06:12:43 · answer #5 · answered by ThatGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I honestly don't think four months is a huge relationship. He shouldn't be too angry, you took the initiative to let your friend stay in another room. The only thing that sounds like it would work right now is to just let him relax about it a while. You might want to talk about it and reinforce the idea that you two weren't doing anything; just to make him feel better? I hope it gets better. =]
2016-05-19 22:16:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be irrational, but I would be mad too..how would you feel if he started spending the night at another girl's house? It doesn't matter the dude's gay..it's the thought of you spending the night with any guy that has him worked up
2007-08-06 06:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear you and damn if you do or don't..meaning keep it to yourself or lie about it, still it is not a good thing to do, no matter how you go about it. For starters you sound young..and age has nothing to do with your Q' yet no matter how old one is we all go through similar situations as yours..You guys need to grow up especially your boyfriend..we all have friends that come in all forms, shape and gender too. That is a form of insecurity on his part..we no longer live in the dark ages..Do not let him govern your life! If you and your boyfriend cannot come to an understanding about your friend(s) than you need to find yourself another boyfriend.
2007-08-06 06:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh ... wow! i don't see the big deal i mean the guy is gay ( and by the way i think it's cool you have a gay friend). But you see men have this mentality , they always judge you according to what they would do now i am thinking if he had a girlfriend that was lesbian he would be trying to get at her. But i mean you could get him to understand and really look at it and see he is over reacting.
2007-08-06 06:14:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hello he is still a guy, and you need to respect your b/f and not go to your friends house or huim comming over to your house. you guys can still hang out. but it may be wierd if someone finds out and doesn't know that that person is gay and they might think you are a big jerk that cheats on her boyfriend. would you rather have a friend and a botfriend or just a friend. it is you desision. i hope you make the right one.
good luck
2007-08-06 06:13:30 · answer #10 · answered by Brute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋