Over the weekend, my girlfriend and I began talking about making love without a condom (BTW; She is on the pill). Before doing this though, we are both going to get checked by a doctor.
During this discussion, she began to ask me about my previous sexual partners and I mentioned the few girlfriends I have had in the past.
She then told me that she was shocked at how late I began having sex and how few people I have had sex with.
Then, after begging me not to think of her as a ‘slut’, she began telling me about her previous relationships. I found what she told me to be nothing short of horrible.
Apparently, she first had sex with her mom’s boyfriend, when she was thirteen, after he told her that, if she didn’t, he would throw both her and her mom onto the streets. From there, she seems to have been taken advantage of by a succession of @ssholes who abused her mentally, physically, and sexually.
2007-08-06
05:04:50
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After consoling her, I’m beginning to worry that she may feel as though she has to sleep with me to keep me from leaving her (something which isn’t true), and that I am somehow perpetuating the legacy of the guys who abused her in the past since their abuse likely is what made her desperate and insecure enough to go for someone like me, who is at best a 4 while she is easily a 10.
How do I ensure that I’m not taking advantage of her or benefiting from the disgusting behavior of the guys who abused her in the past???
PS. She won’t give me the names of these guys since she knows that I want to hunt each of them down.
2007-08-06
05:05:30 ·
update #1