I have been seeing a guy that is about 6 years younger than me. He used to be a really good friend of my ex husbands. He comes over in the middle of the night or I go to his place. He tells me he cares about me and that I have a special place with him because we have been friends for so long. I am totally in love with this man but he has other women that he sees all the time. I can't seem to get him off my mind. I tell myself that I am not going to call him or I won't answer his calls but I end up calling him anyway. I am driving myself crazy. I am a single woman in my early 30's and I am not a bad looking person. I have my **** together except for not being able to let this go. Help!!! I think im crazy. What should I do? I don't want to love him.
2007-08-06 05:04:21 · 7 answers · asked by littledevl33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you need counseling or just a friend to talk to. You deserve better than him. He is a player. However, you can't choose who you love, but try to move on.
2007-08-06 05:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by just wants to know 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we as people can't pick and choose with whom we are going to love or be in love with it just happens when the time is right you need at the very least to get him alone and tell exactly how you feel did you ever think for a moment that he could feel the exact same way about you but is dating this other person cause he don't think you are interested in him? You are making yourself crazy I know I'm in the same situation right now and I'm going to tell my guy how I feel I have to see I know what not telling him is doing it's taking the easy road in life not living like I should and making me insane even if he don't feel the same about me I still have to tell him it's the fear of the unknown holding us back let go for a moment look him in the eyes and say it face those fears it's worth it in the end cause at the very least you will then be able to move on good luck in all you do
2007-08-06 12:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by sassysandyinmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have low self esteem. You want a man that is connected to your ex husband who clearly does not what a relationship with you. I think you should try therapy and get to the root of your problem which simply might be that you clearly need to love yourself and like who you are, before you throw yourself into another dead end relationship. you can be happy you just need to start believing it and live a fuller life.
2007-08-06 12:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by JillardG 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can't choose your feelings. you need to figure out exactly what you want. if you don't want him, cut the relationship off. If you do, come out and tell him.
2007-08-06 12:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by metalholics18 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then make the hardest choice....end it!
You mightn't be happy about it but if you can't handle him being with other people then end it.....
OR
Ask him to be exclusive.....base your decision on what he says
2007-08-06 12:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see so much of this BS It kill's me move the hell on for Christ sake!!!!!!!
2007-08-06 12:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just force yourself not to call him or anything like that...it will get easier with time.
2007-08-06 12:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋