When can you have a serious conversation with a new friend?

Question

Well I have experimented with this and the funny thing is sometimes when I start up a serious conversation with anyone it's almost as if they are ignoring me I mean they know already that I am a deeply intellectual person but when I bring up anything that is even the slightest bit intellectual they kind of seems they pretend not to hear me.

Answer 1

I'm an intellectual, and I love discussing serious issues. However, I have learned that most people want to simply chat. They want to talk about the weather, the difference between Pepsi and Coke, and their favorite shopping locations

Discussing serious issues is a matter of who rather than when. If you somehow clicked with someone, then maybe mention an issue that interests you, in a general way. I'd say, for instance, "I like reading. Do you read much?" Then, when they say, "Oh, yeah, I love to read," you say casually, "So what do you like to read most often?" It usually turns out to be the newspaper. (smile)

Once in a while, I meet a fellow avid reader, one who knows who Ted Dekker is, or someone who has seriously studied child development or other issues of interest to me. They are likely to become close friends on a deeper level.

For everyone else, I can talk about where to find a bargain or how to remove bubble gum from carpets. Why not? Even intellectuals do those things. Not everybody has to be your soulmate, you know?

Answer 2

People don't really want to talk about serious stuff out of the blue with people. It's one thing if you go to a conference of astrophysicists and start talking about rocket telemetry right off the bat, but if you're at a cocktail party, it won't work out.

People want to know a little about your background before talking about things like life after death, and whether or not there are people on other planets. If you start in on this right away, people will think you are wierd. The topic will define you, even if your interest at that moment is just from an article you read today.

It's like you have to firmly establish "This is me." before they want to hear about how you got there or what you think happens next.

Politics is pretty much right out. Scientists have estimated that out of all the people in the US, only seventeen want to have a conversation about politics with someone that doesn't already agree with them.

Answer 3

Most of the time that only happens to people that either talk TOO much or people that try to make themselves seem like they are smarter than everyone else. Sounds like u? Think about it.

Answer 4

months down the road