I asked a question a few weeks ago. .I had been in a 3 yr relationship last yr was long distance, he had given me the journey diamond for xmas, diamond bracelet for my birthday and spent the money and the time to be together ever 2-3 wks. I finally said to him the last time I was there that he needs to make a commitment to our future. .its been 3 yrs and either we are going to plan a future together or I need to be with someone that does. I'm in my late thirties and want to get married and have a child. We went about the weekend like everything was fine, had fun, made plans for the following weekend, etc. He called me 2 days later while he was driving to work to tell me he came to the conclusion that he never wants to get married or have a family, now that I've made him make a decision. After 3 yrs. .. end it by phone???Why would he do that if he says he loves me so much and cares about me by phone, when we were to be toghether in person in a week!
2007-08-06 04:19:35 · 10 answers · asked by joy b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the answers so far. .He definnitely wasn't married but I should have known there was fear of commitment. ours was the longest relationship he has ever had. We were only long distance for 1 yr but saw each other every 2 wks or so. He said the whole time he wanted the same as I , but when it came down to it he ran away. Hasn't even bothered to see how I was doing or if I was ok, He knew what it would do to me and he did by phone anyway! A##hole
2007-08-06 09:09:44 · update #1
He ended it by phone because that is what your relationship was based on. It was long distance.
2007-08-06 04:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Blessed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I question your description of a "committed" relationship. It sounds to me like you were the only one committed. Even then, I have to question what you were committed to. You mention the diamond bracelet and journey diamond, being in your late thirties and wanting to get married and have a child. However, at no point did you mention that you loved this man or even were interested in him beyond superficial and material aspects.
It sounds to me like you were both in the relationship for the convenience of it and not for anything long term. You shouldn't be surprised that he chose to scrap your ultimatum and continue on with his life without you. I highly doubt that you are that upset with his decision. Just do like you said and find somebody else to plan a future with.
BTW, based on your description of the relationship, he didn't do anything out of the ordinary by ending it over the phone.
2007-08-06 04:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by atiuq04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh it incredibly is incredibly low. I hate to interrupt this to you costly one, yet this guy is probably no longer all that committed to his fiance and nonetheless has emotions for the psycho-ex-GF. ok so 3 years is an prolonged time to be in a relationship, yet as quickly as I have been you, i'd ditch this clown and start up off over with somebody lots nicer than he's. rather costly one, you're properly worth lots lots greater desirable than this jerk. Sorry :-(
2016-10-14 04:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would end it by phone because he doesn't respect you or the relationship you had together and it was over (in his mond) a long time ago. He's been preparing for this.
2007-08-06 04:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by Challah back Girl... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he is a d*** if you are all about a family and all he wants is a physical relationship with no strings attached then you dont need him. Forget about him and have kids with someone else. Everyone deserves happiness. ☺
2007-08-06 04:25:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a total jerk. You're much better off without the fool. Good thing you didn't marry and then find this out.
2007-08-06 04:25:50 · answer #6 · answered by Spade, Sam Spade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a coward and cant tell you to your face. Its better than it happened now then later. No need to waste your time any longer.
2007-08-06 04:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after you pressured him about committment, he may have gotten cold feet or something?
but hon, i guess after all the nice things he bought you, you would have THOUGHT that he wanted a commitment.
are you sure he's not married already?
proably time to move on. i'm sorry you're hurt.
2007-08-06 04:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex did something similar to me, he threw all my stuff by the front door after two years because he didn't have the balls to break up with me face to face. some guys are just *****, you deserve so much better.
2007-08-06 04:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch.
2007-08-06 04:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋