okay i was cleaning the house and i found a box of condoms i didnt make a big deal out of it i know he cheats but i'm fed up i love him and it isnt that easy to leave what can i do to make him wake up and see that i'm fed up with him
2007-08-06 04:19:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU KNOW HE CHEATS YET YOU STAY WITH HIM?
What gives?
Tell him to buck up or *uck off, simple as that.
But make sure you stick to it, your no-ones doormat, so stop acting like one!!!
2007-08-06 04:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by dangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you stay with this guy if he came home drunk and beat your a s s before passing out every night? NO?
Well if you know this guy is cheating why waste time on a useless relationship? Life is too short to spend it unhappy. Well life isn't short.. it's the longest thing you can do (or live?), anyway, you get the point.
When you leave him, he'll see that you're fed up with him. If you have self-esteem issues, get dressed up and go out with your friends. You'll get some attention from other guys and that's definitely a confidence booster.
2007-08-06 11:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by mmatthews000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a guy, you won't be able to make him see or understand what it is that you're going through. People in general, always find it easier to blame someone or something else other than themselves. It's just easier to deal with that way. It's your life mija. Only you can choose to live life in doubt, pain, suffering, which would be something that you'd be doing to yourself. You love him, but is it really worth it for you to be punishing yourself for what he seems to not care what he's doing to you. You should just stay fed up and leave. You're life won't be over. We all know that when you lose something (out of stupidity) or you want something really bad and you get it and have it, it makes you want it even more. If he realizes, maybe he'll change his ways, especially because it's for you and if he doesn't, maybe it was meant to be because you're going to end up with someone that's good for you. Being a couple is because the happiness and love that's shared between the two, is fulfillment in each other lives.
2007-08-06 12:30:43 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows that you know he cheats and you haven't left yet, why would he stop cheating? He's having his cake and eating it too. The best advice I can give you is leave before you have invested to much time into this "relationship". He's not going to change no matter what childish games you play with him so don't waste your time.
2007-08-06 11:27:24 · answer #4 · answered by Clarissa J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave!!!! That's the best thing you can do. You are facillitating his cheating ways by turning your head and ignoring it. The only way he could possibly get a wake up call is for you to tell him why you're leaving and leave!!!!! He obviously doesn't love you enough to keep his thingy in his pants and you shouldn't have to put up with it.
2007-08-06 11:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by meglet628 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't care that you're fed up with him. As long as you stay he'll continue to cheat. Save yourself the drama and pack your bags. He'll get the hint. The most important things we have to do in life are the hardest.
2007-08-06 11:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him....
He cheated on you, that's good enough reason to leave.
Keep walking out that door. What's even worse is ...you know he cheats.You said it yourself
By the way, don't sleep with someone else.
That will only makes things worse and messier.
Good luck
2007-08-06 11:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by Warrior Guardian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wont stop unless you leave him... if someone knows that they can get away with cheating they will continue to do so... whether its easy or not if you dont want to put up with this you have to leave, otherwise youre going to have to just have to continue with what is until he decides to leave you because youve shown him that you dont feel that youre wirth his respect, honestly and faithfullness...
i dont mean to be harsh but this is the truth... cheaters dont change for anyone but themselves... they are naturally selfish, take it from a former cheater like me youre better off leaving no matter what you think is stopping you
2007-08-06 11:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by a_complicated_goddess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. If he cheats, then you don't mean that much to him. Leaving will either give him a wake up call, or give him the freedom that he wants. Don't wait...he probably didn't care enough to at least hide his stash better.
2007-08-06 11:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by Diane G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave.
Okay, you said "it isn't that easy to leave" but if you are choosing to stay with someone you KNOW cheats, then why are you angry? It's your decision to stay...
Work on getting out of the situation since apparently he doesn't appear to want to change or cares that you know what he's up to. Why waste or life with someone who disrespects you so much?
Karma will take care of balancing out his behavior, have no fear. What goes around, comes around.
2007-08-06 11:22:48 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to get back at someone is by becoming all you can be. revenge is a stupid game and you will always wind up doing something that you will later be clowned for! Revenge is awful on yourself, not on the other person!
best way to get over someone is to get a life!
2007-08-06 11:23:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋