Do you believe in god?

Question

I,m sorry to ask such a personal question and i know everyone has their own beliefs but the reason i,m asking is my personal situation is that awful i cant believe that any god would let it happen.I am pregnant with twins one baby has already died in early pregnancy and the other baby has a terminal condition that means if it is,nt stillborn it will die within days of being born.I,m continuing with my pregnancy as i know due to the condition my baby will not feel pain or suffer and i want to hold my baby even if it,s for a few minutes.I cant understand how any god would allow this to happen especially to a innocent baby who has,nt done anything to hurt anyone.I have never been a firm believer but did like to think we all went to a better place when we died now i dont know what to think .

Answer 1

Yes, I believe in God. You may think that God is 'doing this' to your babies, but perhaps what is going on with them will be for God's Glory... who can you reach thru this struggle for God? These babies will be in God's loving arms and that is not 'horrible'... it is the best place to be if they are not with their mother and father.

I have lost a child and only when I understood that it wasnt about 'me' but it was about that child and God, and I was affected, yes, but the real relationship was between the 2 of them. God was glorified by how I reacted to the loss.... as a witness to those around me as to who God is to me.

Answer 2

you are clearly going through a very hard time and it's probably hard to think straight about anything - i am an atheist and don't believe in any god but i hope what i am about to say is at least something positive to consider.


according to a book i read recently ( the secret- worth reading) the human being/mind consists of energy - according to quantum physics energy cannot be created or destroyed there fore even though you have lost your child in the physical sense the energy that was that child still remains- perhaps this is a good argument for reincarnation - your baby is not gone but has moved on elsewhere with conscious thought.

get the book and read it soon if it makes sense to you as it did to me then all is not lost - hope remains .

i love the fact that you are continuing with the second baby it shows what a loving girl you are .

this may not be the best answer but please read the secret anyway as it may help you the way it has helped me.

wishing you love and blessings from this day on .

Answer 3

YES I believe in God.
I am grieving for you right now . I cannot even imagine the sadness and sorrow in your whole being!
It's too bad that all pregnancies can't be wonderful experiences and end with a tired mommy holding sweet little babies .
I believe that we are not Gods' puppets. God created us for more than manipulation.
Bad things happen Sweetheart.
You have every right to be sad and hurt and who can blame you for your anger and pain.
When delivery day approaches you remind everyone that you want to hold your child. Don't let anyone talk you out of something you feel you need to do.
My mother is in that "Better Place " you mentioned and I know that she and those who have gone before you( in your family )are waiting with arms wide open to hold and care for yous sweet little ones.
You cry and shout and let God know how angry you are . God is big enough to handle it all.
At such a time you feel as if you can be still. Just listen. Really listen .God will be there for you then as God is with you in your pain, Loving prayers coming your way right now !!!

Answer 4

There are many injustices in the world. It makes it easier to cope if you let go of the dream that there is a father figure watching over everyone. The only one you can count on in life is yourself- and that's the gospel truth. How can it be that murderers, rapists, and pediafiles ask for forgiveness after all the wrong and pain they have caused. It sickens me that they have the audacity to do so.
I am so sorry that you are going through this painful time. Just know that you did nothing wrong. Bad things happen to good people, for no reason at all. That is why there is no god. I asked God for help a long time ago, and I never got an answer.. Which actually was my answer. He doesn't exist.

Answer 5

I am very sorry to hear about your situation.
I will offer my opinion on your question and I am sorry if it rambles, I am not as eloquent as I would like to be.

No, I do not believe anymore. Some find god in situations like yours, I found the truth (as I see it). In Feb of 2004 my mother was diagnosed with cancer, between then and July 2004 I saw her slowly deteriorate. By seeing her suffering I came to the conclusion that if there was a god he was more like satan: a mean, nasty S.O.B. that enjoys making people suffer. Religious people tried to say that she had something more important to do in heaven. If that was the truth, why wasn't it quick and painless? Their answer to that was that she needed to suffer so that she could enjoy heaven. I didn't buy it. That's when I realized that there is no god and that death is just the unfortunate part life. Some lives are short, some are long, but no matter what, you must live life to the fullest because that is all that you have.
I wish I could say they are/will be in a better place, but I can't. What I will say, is that when it is over, there will be no more pain.
People hope for heaven so that it gives them something to look forward too as a consolation to their current situation as well as a way to not fear death. It gives everything a silver lining. Just accept it as it is and let yourself move past it when you are ready.

Answer 6

I believe in God but can see why you have perhaps lost your faith. No one in either the Old or the New Testament said that life would be easy. I hope your babies have not and do not suffer before they return to the arms of Christ. You now have a knowledge which none of us would wish for under any circumstances whatsoever, but you are in a position to be able to assist those whose pregnancies go wrong through no fault of their own. I do not know how to put this they way I would want to and you would want to here it, but these horrible things in life are often for a purpose so keep you r faith. Shout at God if you have to scream your disappointment and frustration and hopes, but above all pray. Peace will come pain will ease and you will find life worth living again. God Bless

Answer 7

I don't believe that there is a God, at least one in the sense of interfering in human affairs. A similar thing happened to my mother's twins, and it is a tragedy. But I believe you are looking at it in the wrong way. Sure, they never did anything wrong, didn't deserve to die. Yet, they died without pain, with their innocence intact, without even knowing the injustices and suffering in this world as I am sure you must feel now. Life is not fair sometimes, but you can still hope for the best. Don't allow the frailty of young life to scar you forever. They may still live, perhaps even more comfortably, in your own spirit.

Answer 8

God has not done nor allowed anything to harm your babies. God does not control every aspect of life. Life happens, even the terrible things right along with the good.

I won't pretend to understand the hurt and suffering you are going through, but I realize it is great. It is during the bad times I find it helpful to cling to the idea that everything happens for the highest good, even though that good cannot be seen right now. It may never be realized by us either.

Bless your heart and the hearts of your babies.

Answer 9

sorry for your loss.
a friend had a still born birth just last week so understand your grief.

god and christainity along with all other religions is a salespitch.
think about it.

there is a product - the bible

the good points of it are used as a sales pitch.

the bad points of OTHER religions are used to show how good it is.

the price is kept till later on to suck you it.

oh and the additional insurance package - when you die you go to heaven.

look past the sales pitch and you'll see that there is nothing left.
just be a good person in life and expect NO REWARD thats all you can do. That way you'll at least make someone else feel good.
im no angel but the other day i stopped when i saw a car accident.not very serious but a slight fender bender.
the woman who was not to blame was so glad i stopped sayin 'no one else has bothered to help me, thank you'

i felt great and hopefully she will do somthin for a stranger one day too.

i know its a bit hippy and utopian but it dont cost nothin to be sivvle to people sometimes.

i hope you feel better soon.
regards
c.

Answer 10

Yes, I do believe in God. I am so sorry that you are going through this, and I can understand you having doubts. No-one knows why these things happen - it seems very harsh in this situation to say that everything happens for a reason. I can only hope that things do get better for you, and that some time in the future you will find comfort from the Bible. In the meantime, it may help to talk to other parents who have been in your situation - your hospital should have details of a local support group.

Answer 11

Yes I do believe in God and I'm very sad that you have suffered this. God doesn't cause bad things to happen, and Christians don't always know why they happen. I guess the best we can honestly say is that we have come to trust God. I have been through bad times and got angry with God, which is ok, many people in the Bible have got angry with God. What makes it bearable is knowing that He is crying with you in your sorrow, and is holding his arms out to comfort you. Have you tried shouting at him, I know you aren't in a good place but truly he does understand. Hope you don't mind if I pray for you and your baby.