My son will be 2 1/2 on the 11th. He's stayed the night w/ my parents but we've never been apart longer than that. My parents are wanting to take him with them and his 2 cousins (3 & 5) to the zoo and beach but they will be gone for 3 days. There's no way I can take off to go and I'm a little nervous about him being gone that long. My parents are great people and will take very good care of them. I take my son on mini-vacations all the time so it's not like he doesn't do this kind of thing fairly regularaly. But, he will be with his cousins this time. He's a momma's boy and I'm afraid 3 days will be too hard for him, not to mention, hard on me. Would you let him go?
2007-08-06 03:49:31 · 33 answers · asked by Nina Lee 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He gone on several trips with me & my hubby, not with anyone else.
2007-08-06 03:58:34 · update #1
These are granparents that he sees a few times a year. He's very close to them and sees them 1-2 times per week (at least). He sees his cousins every Sunday.
2007-08-06 04:06:23 · update #2
I can't type today. Last edit was supposed to be are "NOT" grandparents he only sees a few times a year...
2007-08-06 04:07:43 · update #3
My son is a mama's boy and I would be hesitant to let him head out for 3 days without me. Only a mom knows if a child (and the grandparents) are ready. Chances are he'll be fine and will have a blast with his family, but who wants to take chances?
It might be tough on you, but don't let that be the determining factor. I would ask myself some questions. Is he fully happy and content with your parents? How does he do with his cousins? Do you completely trust your parents? Would you let him go if it was 2 days or 4 days? Why or why not?
When is he the most of a mamma's boy? My son has a tough time at bedtime. Is there something you can do to make this time easier?
If you just don't feel he is ready, don't be shy about admitting it and shooting for next year. But if you think he'll have so much fun, send a picture of you for him to hug and call him every day to tell him you love him.
2007-08-06 04:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by KCL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children are 5, 4, and 3 and I still have a hard time being away from them over night. I know that you don't want to hurt the grandparents feelings but if you don' t think that you or your son could handle that long apart then don't let him go. It will be no fun for any of them if they have a 2 1/2 year old who misses mommy and gets very cranky.
If you do decide to let him go they can have him call you everynight that they are gone just so he can at least hear your voice and you can reassure him because you know he will need it.
All in all it comes back to what is best for your child. If you think it is not best for him to go then you need to set them down and explain to them why you do not want your child to go. I'm sure they will understand.
2007-08-12 13:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by jgantz07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go, he will be fine. He will have lots of company and probably not even miss you, as much as you think. When I was little my father use to take us to "feed the fish". It was this place that had tons and tons of fish for stocking. When my son was young my parents wanted to take him up there for a day and show him the fish and let him feed them. Now my son, would have loved it however, I was afraid that my dad wouldn't be watching him and he would fall in. Now my parents took me there many times and I never once fell in or almost fell. But this was my son and I was afraid of the worst. It ended up that I left him go and he had a wonderful time with his grandparents and that opened the door for me letting them take him on other trips. You have to let go a little and let him experience it. Then you can decide whether or not he can go again. Give them the benefit and allow this trip. Good luck I know it's hard, but he will be fine...
2007-08-10 14:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by RPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be very hard for me, but I would let him go. I have a 3 yr. old, and she is very close to my family as well. I completely trust my parents, so that wouldn't be an issue. She has a great time with them, so it's not a problem for her either. It will be fun for him to do something different, something special with his grandparents and cousins. But yes, I do miss my daughter terribly, even when she just spends the night at my parent's house without me!
2007-08-06 04:26:34 · answer #4 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I let me 23 month old daughter go with her Grandma on dad's side, out of state, four 9 weeks. I missed her like CRAZY, but the break did me some real justice. Your son will ahve a great time and it's also a good way for your parents to do some bonding. Yes, I would let him go.
Also, he should be old enough to speak on the phone to you to help the both of you get through the weekend.
2007-08-06 04:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut. If you are the least bit concerned, don't let him go. He's only 2 1/2 and has many years ahead of him for fun trips and overnights with grandparents. No need to justify your decision to anyone, not even yourself. You are a great parent :-)
2007-08-10 16:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let him go and spend time with his grandparents. You can always call the grandparents and talk to your son.
You can relax for few days and enjoy the time with your husband. It like little small-vacation with you and your husband. Enjoy when you got baby sitter to look after your two year old.
But i think it all up to you and your husband.
It little free time off your back for few days.. You do whatever you wanted.
the grandparents is going to take care of the 2 year old. maybe little fuzz at the begin because the mom not around. Just give your two year some rules to follow when he with the grandparents.
And you can always if there any problem just have to call you asap.
You have to think it there more people to go. because grandparents taking care of three kids under age of 6.
just pack like first aid kit for your kid.
call them..
2007-08-06 04:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by babyg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 5 and I have never been away from him more than a night. No matter how old he gets his first time away is going to be hard. I suggest you let your parents take him now because now my son refuses to go on "small trips" without me.
2007-08-06 04:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by Shavon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You, yourself, said that he's gone on trips with them before and you trust them. He will adjust and have a great time. I'm sorry to say that it will be a little more difficult for you. Keep pictures handy and try to stay as busy as possible. My daughter is the same age and I recently let her go for a weekend with my brother and her cousin. It was great for her, but I missed her so much! Just stay busy, it makes the time go by a little faster. Good Luck!
2007-08-06 03:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by prlovelygirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he's a Mama's boy, then a little separation might be helpful. Plus, it's your parents and you trust them with him. They're the best people to take him. This could end up being a yearly trip for him and it could be a great tradition. I'd trust your gut. If he gets really worked up and upset, you can always go pick him up--it'd be at night time, most likely, so you wouldn't need to miss work to get him. I'd let him go.
2007-08-06 03:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋