Have you ever been so heartbroken over the loss of a pet that you didn't want to do anything but cry?

Question

As a mother I am heartbroken for my daughter who cried herself to sleep. As a wife for my husband who felt like it was his fault because he couldn't save the puppy. And for myself because I was attached to her also. She was the runt of the litter and we had decided she was going to be one we kept as a pet.

Answer 1

I'm so sorry you lost your beloved pet. I have felt the hearbreak of losing a precious animal too. Folks who never allowed themselves the experience of caring for one of God's furry little creatures can't comprehend the depth of anguish, but your pain is very real. Death is something we must all deal with on some level. But only time can heal the hurt.

Given enough time you might feel like filling the void with another pet, and I would recommend you do so. They are therapy in so many ways. Please know things happen for a reason. Remind your hubby that placing blame, even upon himself, will serve no good purpose. Who knows what might have occurred had the little puppy lived to adulthood? It's most likely that it happened this way for a purpose you may never know. I hope you and your family can move on. God bless.

Answer 2

Well, I didn't cry that much (not to sleep), but I was really sad. But for some reason I didn't feel it until after weeks. It's strange, yes, but that's how I "work". Well as long as your husband couldn't possibly have done anything, he shouldn't feel bad. And I really don't know how to help with the emotions of your daughter nor yourself, sorry. Just know it'll all get better sooner or later, and that he's probably in doggy heaven now =)
Also, tell y our daughter (and make a note to yourself) that life isn't all suffering and everything happens for a reason. I beleive that death has a kind of kharma, sometimes you loose someone or thing that is very important to you, but indirectly or directly, that means that something good will happen too. In other words: you loose something you get something. Sure a loss of a family member (pet) can be heart wrenching, but eventually the people that lost that someone or thing will have to realize they have to move on. Sometimes they don't want to accept it, but that's sad. Again, good luck.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Yes, some people don't understand tha a pet can mean as much to us as say your daughter does to you. They become a stable part of the family and unfortunately grieving and feeling guilty are natural feelings and as hard as it isfor all of you right now for the differing feelings it will start to get easier as the days pass you by.

Don't feel that because it was the runt that it was your own fault because it wasn't, quite often the runt turns out as the best famly pet, you have just been unlucky this time.

All you can do is talk to your daughter and explain that the wee doggie had ben chosen to go to a better place and realise that no matter how much you tell your husband that it is not his fault he will still blame himself as he is protector of his daughter so al you can do really is be there for him to vent off at.

Good luck to you all.

Answer 4

Try to be strong for the little girl. Animals are a good way to introduce the idea of losing a loved one with children. It is always tough and the situation can leave you devastated though. Maybe a replacement can help the situation. Runts are very adorable but almost always the least healthy of the litter naturally. Its hard to avoid the littlest guy when you have any compassion what so ever. Good luck.

Answer 5

I'm so very sorry, about the loss of your little one! I've been through it and I understand exactly how you all feel! Those of us fortunate enough, to love and be loved by animals, know the exquisite joy and quiet fulfillment, that comes from animals living in our hearts. We know there is no turning back, from loving animals intensly, once we experience this bond. Animals and their love, stay in our souls, once we've let them in and we are better for it. We are more complete, more whole, more compassionate and often transformed. Loving this much, we also know the searing pain of losing them. In loving so much, we open ourselves, to profound intimacy and also to more pain and the growth that comes from both. I'm sure that your husband, did everything that he could to save this little life, and should not blame himself, although I understand how he feels too. We always think that there is more, that we could have done, but sometimes it's just out of our hands, no matter how hard we try. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers! Hang In There! God Bless!

Answer 6

Yup.. most definitely! Your heart feels like it's cracked right in 1/2 and you cry til you can't cry any more.. and then you somehow find more tears and you cry some more.. It gets better, take some time.. Everyone feels guilt when a pet dies.. What could I have done differently ? What if I had just ... ? It's normal.. You get over that too.. It takes some time.

Answer 7

I'm so sorry for your loss, maybe this will help you.

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Answer 8

When my dog of 12 years died I literally cried for three days. It was horrible. I think ive cried less over the loss of a family member.

Sometimes, when youre a young teen, your dog listens better than most people in your life.

Its hard but you get over it.

Answer 9

Yes, many times. It is very hard but you have to be strong & realize it is a matter of quality life for the animal. Some things are just not meant to be for us. You have to focus on the living & do things in honor of the ones you couldn't save. They are in a better place now. I honor many great animals that I have had the exerience to be with, they touch your heart & you never forget them. God rest their honest souls. Be as strong as they were.

Answer 10

My little rat terrier just died about 2 weeks ago and my daughter and i cried for 2 days. I know alot of people say it is just a dog, but she was special to us. We had her for 7 years and she was such a sweet soul. Her buddy, our other dog, really misses her as well.