Ok Soo I Posted A Question About A Month Ago And Asked About Long Distance Relationships,
Bc I Found The Perfect Guy But He Lives 1300 Mi Away.
But I Already Know Its Far And Negative Opinions Aren't Nesessary,
But Im Just Curious If Anyone has had A Long Distance Relationship Tht worked Out Or If Anyone Knows Someone Tht Has Had A Long Distance relationship Tht Worked Out.
Please Let Me Know. I Always Like To be reassured.
2007-08-06 03:44:50 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes a girl in thailand, and i was in det mi. but it never worked out. i still think of her often over 35 yrs ago no regrets
2007-08-06 03:49:04 · answer #1 · answered by tom c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes absolutely!! I am in a long distance relationship right now. I'm in Maryland, right outside of DC and he's in Harrisburg, PA and we're doing well!! It's only about 120 miles apart so it's not terribly far, but even so we don't see each other so much (or as much as we'd like) because of work schedules and driving availabilities. But he and I have a very open, trusting relationship. Our nine month anniversary is coming up in a week and I am sure that in a year we will be coming up on our one year, nine month anniversary. Also, I'm going to school away next year (7000 miles away, actually in another country) and he'll be in New York. For my own personal sanity and comfort, I have to believe long distance can work. He is perfect and I love him and I can't imagine my life without him.
If you think this guy is the perfect guy, then you should definitely pursue it. Don't be deterred by the distance. True, that's far away, but if you want the relationship to work, you won't let anything stand in your way. I'm sure that you will talk on the phone several times a day (I know I do). Plus, having a relationship where hormones and sexual urges are not part of the equation enhances the relationship and allows those two individuals to connect on a deeper level and understand one another much better than a couple who is constantly hooking up. Those times when you do get to see each other will be all the more special because of their infrequency.
I wish you the best of luck in this and hope it all works out!!
2007-08-08 14:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by ~*Suz*~ 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
What you really want is for someone to tell you that it is ok and that everything will work out?
I have known people that have had long distance relationships that worked out but a lot more that have failed miserably. The truth is that any relationship takes a lot of commitment and the farther away the other person is from you the harder it will be. "Out of sight, out of mind" is more than just a saying. It often becomes the reality.
2007-08-06 10:51:41 · answer #3 · answered by Truth is elusive 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
it would seem very hard to begin a relationship that way but true love can find a way. my wife has been living and working 1300 miles away for three years with two more years to go. we only see each other every couple months and yes it a very hard thing to do but we are committed to make it work. good luck to you and i hope it works out.
2007-08-06 11:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by gary h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well im in a long distance relationship, I live in NJ and he lives in Maryland. We been talking for over 3 years, so has long as you have faith in your feelings and can deal with the distance, then it should work, especially if you both plan on being together. I plan to move to Maryland next year, so i guess it does work!
2007-08-06 10:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by Jersey Sweetheart 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
lol. congrats honey. Honestly it all depends on the guy. My fiance is out of town. We're in a long distance relationship now, though he is moving here in december. We have taken trips back and forth to see each other, and each our families love us dearly.
A few keys to a long distance relationship, take it from someone who has been in one for 2 years, and is engaged to be married next august. My guy is my dream guy and is perfect but he lifes 1000 away.
- Sorry to say, but get to know what kind of man he is. My fiance's friend was trying to encourage him to cheat... The friend is of the mind that he would be the biggest ho we know if his girl lived in another state. Well the truth is that the friend and his girl live in the same state and together and is already IS the biggest ho we know... he will sleep with anyone, for any reason... Get to know your guy and how he feels about monogamy. My fiance had not been sexually active for a year, prior to our meeting. He is a real man... and is selective about his choices and his body. Which is an amazing thing, and men are capable of doing this!!! Most just choose not to, and choose to be the "biggest ho we know."
- Dont listen to other people. People are poison to any relationship, but its worse when its long distance. The common things you will hear is: "What if he's cheating? He could be an ax murderer. (too many movies)" and more.
- Get to know him well. Talk about everything, your fears, your worries, your concerns. Treat him as your best friend. I did that with my, now, Fiance and it's worked out great. When I began to doubt things could work due to the distance I would tell him and he would reassure me.
- Talk about your dreams, your goals... and when you are further along into the relationship, not sure how long you've been together now, begin to talk about your plans for the future. If you two know for sure that you want to spend the rest of your lives together, you will need to talk about who will be moving or if one will leave state and family for the other... or even if you both will start over in a neutral place. That's important.
More than anything, trust yourself. You see something in this guy and if you can take the distance, trust me it gets harder and harder every day... go for it. It is possible, you can do it, just keep reassuring yourself, and stick around positive people. Negativity is EVERYWHERE, you dont need it to be in your face.
Like I said, my fiance and I have been together 2 years, August 15th makes it official. We're set to be married next august 15th, and he is going to move to Boston this christmas. It's been an amazing journey, and well worth it let me tell you. I love him with all that I am, and wouldnt trade this experience for the world.
2007-08-06 11:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 19⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm in one right now with this girl I met on here early this year and she lives 300 miles away from me and I think she's the perfect girl for me too. Just do what I planned to do...get to know him a little more, save money, and find a good time to see him. Hope this helps you. Good luck!
2007-08-06 10:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by i_ride_spinners04 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes sweetie, it can work, but as long as you and your dude keep in constant contact to reassure each other of your feelings, that's what i did and it worked out. we were together for 3 years before we moved closer. that's what messed it up, we just realised that we loved each other better from a distance. we lived about 2000 km apart..
Good luck and i hope this assures you
2007-08-06 10:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by Blain H 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My future husband lives 3816 miles away, and we can't be together permenantly for 18 months to 2 years. If you really love each other it can work, but it's not easy...
2007-08-08 21:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It can work, I think you can make any relationship work if you're both honest with one another and work at it. With that kind of separation money would be nice too, so you can afford flights back and forth.
2007-08-06 10:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋