All parents, please read this question and look at the link?

Question

http://www.religioustolerance.org/spankin5.htm#on

Does it still seem like 'love' to you?

Answer 1

I don't spank. I was a psychology major at college and we did a section on spanking and research shows it just doesn't work. I use time outs, and they work great. My daughter has no behavior problems.

Answer 2

The percentages between the never and rarely don't differ significantly from those that were often spanked if you are going basd on statistics, so your argument has lost most of its bite in that alone. Also, you're fighting a losing battle here simply because a huge number of people on here answering questions grew up in a generation where it was not only OK but the "best" way to punish a child by spanking them...so many of us were spanked as children and are now leading completely productive adult lives. Its the whole mentality of "it worked fine for us."

Answer 3

Spare the rod, spoil the child....

I think that some crimes deserve corporal punishment, however there are some parents that believe that the only punishment they give is corporal punishment.
My step son is 11 and my daughter is 4...there have been some situations that do deserve a spanking, and it is few and far between. I think that if you instill rules at infancy, and are consistent, then the times that corporal punishments are necessary aren't as often.
My children are very well behaved, and well mannered children, and I don't have to worry about going to the grocery store or Wal-mart with them throwing a temper tantrum...they know in Advance how they are supposed to act. 9 times out of 10, if you take things away from kids, like TV time, toys, outings it works a lot better thank spanking them...

Answer 4

No, and it never did! When I had my daughter, I vowed to never cause her intentional physical pain... I don't want her growing up thinking hitting is okay or that the one who loves you the most would hit you.. I do have rules and boundries.. I utilize time out and am consistent in my parenting of her..

When I reflect on my mother's spankings of me.. They did not teach me what she intended.. I did not learn to clean my room because order was important or that something may be lost or broke.. I learned that she would smack me... most times she did not have control when she was spanking and many times what I was being spanked for had little to do with what the actual issue was... ie she finally got sick of me and spanked me but said it was because I didn't get my shoes on quickly...

The studies you just posted, like all studies must be analyzed and taken with a grain of salt; however, it is just more food for thought for those who do think that hitting /spanking your children is okay.

One of the main rules in my house is: We use our words to solve our problems not our hands.

Answer 5

Does what seem like love? The link is for corporal punishment.

Answer 6

This is one time- I'm going for the view- KEEP your own views to yourself as you have made it quite obvious as to how biased you are on the topic.

If you want to protect children- the best place to start is not by attacking "loving" parents who believe in proper discipline to raise loving, well respected, well adjusted adults.

Attack those that Abuse, that choose to harm their childs self image, body, and mind-.

Attack those that choose to neglect disciplining their children/child at all- in order to 'protect'.

Pick your battles correctly and with proper information.

While yes, there are those that use spankings as a form of violence and to gain respect from a child- , there are MOST who use this form of discipline out of love- and have never taken it far enough to be rightfully called abuse/violence.

I have two loved, nutured, well adjusted, well behaved children who yes- laugh often, play often- and know their father and I adore them!

Answer 7

Pathetic. This is the problem with this country. People like you are too busy judging everyone else and sticking your nose where it doesn't belong rather than dealing with your own problems. Everyone knows you have problems too because you wouldn't be so quick to point out others' shortcomings to hide your own. Please find something better to do with your time.

Answer 8

This still looks like you judging other people without full knowledge to me.

Answer 9

hu

Answer 10

spammer