why is it that the last four women I have been with tell me that I am only the third man they have been with. I am always straight forward and honest about how many partners I have had and what my intention with those girls are up front. I also have a problem with them wanting to stay with me and make make me there boyfriend knowing who I am. I just got out of a divorce and I just want to have fun. I even had one girl that I slept with once tell me she loves me!!! please if there is anything I can do different let me know.
2007-08-06 03:28:38 · 17 answers · asked by jake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not you, you're nothing special.
All girls are in love, with everybody, all the time.
2007-08-06 03:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by CrazyJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, stop telling them what your intention are with them. Women like most everyone always want what they can't have. So, they see a relationship with you as a challenge where they can be the first to change you.
Since you've got out of a divorce, you're going through a cycle where you want to hit as many as possible, but you're going to hurt a lot of people. Next, you're going to hit a dry spell and begin to remorse. Finally, you'll become normal, find a good woman and settle. This process can take 3-5 years depending on you.
Try not being such a big Jerk, realize your healing process and seek help if you desire.
2007-08-06 10:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by L J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jake right from the start it sounds like you are telling them of your agenda but obviously they just don't understand. Perhaps they feel sad for your past and believe that they are the answer to all the happiness that they think you have missed. Or maybe you are sending out the wrong signals and/or mixed messages. Either way be as upfront and honest with them as possible, that way you won't have any guilt to carry with you. Be careful though not to gain the reputation of being a player or egotist or you may find yourself lonely soon. Also if you are just recently divorced then your not a kid so maybe these women are all seeking a long lasting relationship because of their age. Best of luck.
2007-08-06 10:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're finding a lot of needy women. Women associate sex more with love - and by telling themselves they're in love with you, they may be justifying sleeping with you. Telling you about it reaffirms that they were okay to do it (no offense).
Take some time off from 'cruising' for chicks and keep an eye out for a strong, independent woman who's willing to take things slow. We're much cooler, anyway!
Sorry, this may cut down on your 'fun' level somewhat - but go for quality!!!
Best - Ren
2007-08-06 10:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by renny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to keep women from falling in love with you....?
Never wear deodorant, Give cheesy grins plus a wink and a little caching sound every time they do something cute.... and um... never brush your teeth.
That'll do the trick.
2007-08-06 10:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by kmcoffeegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be true that they only slept with two other guys. i only slept with three. how are you when you first meet them. if your really really friendly, they may misinterpret and think that once your with them you will want to be with them. if your spending time dating them and stuff, they are misreading it. maybe try meeting girls in different places, a different kind of girl.
2007-08-06 10:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by sleepyme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them you are not ready for a commitment and just want to have fun. you will not fall in love with them , you are a player even if you are not . that should do it.
2007-08-06 10:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by freeflow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sleep with random girls then. If you date a girl then you are DATING her. Meaing that you are working towards a RELATIONSHIP. Be up front and tell her that you are just looking for a good time.
2007-08-06 10:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Flip-Flop Crazy Girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Way to be an arrogant stuck up player
2007-08-06 10:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you ask conceited a** questions like these on YAHOO... i'm sure that'll deter them with a quickness.
2007-08-06 10:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by Tam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋